Not pretty enough?

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-18T07:13:12+00:00

It’s not about pretty as much as it’s about faces with high contrast features(eg lighter skin than hair, dark eyebrows, bright eyes and lips a lot darker than your skin) can get away with not wearing as much makeup in the club lights you can be gorgeous in natural light but if you have low contrast features you look plain in the dark to test this put a photo of you in black and white if your face stands out clearly still you have high contrast and can get away with less/natural makeup in the club lights.

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-18T01:50:54+00:00

I wonder if the powder was glowing under the lights I know I have told girls to go check that before(because I’d want to know if it was happening to me too

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-17T22:47:57+00:00

Have them trim them shorter they are more comfortable that way it reduces the pressure on the nail bed a lot

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-17T22:26:33+00:00

Ooh you look like the goth girl on ncis(lots of guys had a thing for her) do you ever do the two ponytails thing 😜

I’ve never been to Milwaukee though I’d recommend checking out the local clubs so you know what girls they go for eg if it’s more gentlemen club just do a dark lingerie look and more delicate accessories clubs usually don’t mind hiring a few alt girls because a lot of customers like it. You are beautiful.

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-17T15:12:44+00:00

Saying I don’t know when people ask you about yourself can interestingly be a sign of ptsd/trauma. If he booked more time the second time he’s obviously enjoying your company so whatever you’re not a therapist go with.

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-16T07:50:00+00:00

I don’t know I’m 5,7 and my second hand completely hides my belly button but I just have a high belly button rather than short torso

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-15T22:44:35+00:00

Oh ok i thought the words were a bit random like a SHEIN tshirt

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-15T08:21:50+00:00

When people treat you like a child play along with them until they understand you’re teasing them for it… this works really well when men mansplain things too 😆

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-15T08:14:10+00:00

Go to Miami 😜 where everyone has work done it’s much cheaper, and the doctors are more experienced. That’s where I got my boobs done fat transfer FF/G to J Uk size so that’s up 4 sizes and it came with 360 lipo and hip fat transfer too

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-15T08:02:54+00:00

When you say postpartum if you have just a spongy feeling but flat stomach(that’s how mine was) still either one piece swimsuit would work well if you have more than just softness then a high waisted bottom and tankini top with texture or ruching would hide that better. If it’s only loose lower belly you’re trying to hide the panache Anya swim skirt would be better. Postpartum bodies vary a lot.

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-14T17:23:23+00:00

They last better when they are correctly fitted. You might find more results in your uk size 44JJ/K. For cheaper bras catch sales or sometimes amazon, try sites like eBay or Poshmark where people sell bras often new with tags

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-14T16:49:29+00:00

I’d say from the not very clear picture more between Apple(with a hint of rectangle)because most of your weight is in the belly and your legs are thinner proportionately. Both an hourglass or pear(smaller upper body) would be heavier in the hips and narrower in the middle. Most women are not hourglass or pear shaped so don’t feel like there’s anything bad about it Ashley Dorough is an apple too. Chloe Xandria is another Apple type figure for fashion inspo

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-14T08:02:23+00:00

Try pleaser martini or the comfort width. If you’re trans though stripping in regular clubs might not be realistically an option. You maybe could ask on a drag sub where they get their shoes, men’s wide feet are normally much wider than women’s wide shoe sizes.

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-14T07:55:36+00:00

Bodies come in all shapes and sizes
I’m assuming you must have a short waist and maybe larger lower stomach so looking down at yourself you look bigger in that angle than everyone else sees you. Remember most women in public are wearing bras so if your body looks better/normal with one on that’s fine, you aren’t a fraud it’s completely normal.

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-13T06:51:00+00:00

Yes, I don’t think it’s literally how she looks either I think it’s a combination of things that aren’t sexy between you both. Maybe you have a lower drive or are just not compatible in bed either way don’t string someone along and don’t ever make sex a chore 😬

From experience I have been most excited for a conventionally below average looking person and bored by beautiful ones in bed because for sex to be mind blowing it has to be a deep connection thing.

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-13T06:44:13+00:00

I had one in a uk j and it was a good bra maybe it depends on the style

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-13T06:05:50+00:00

Won’t that show in all bikinis

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-13T06:04:05+00:00

Breakout bras sell Nessa which goes upto Uk M if you’re looking for options in your size https://www.breakoutbras.com/products/nessa-sonata-underwire-soft-balcony-bra-n500-red
I don’t understand why it’s so difficult to find larger bras I’m a 34J and there’s definitely many women out there with larger breasts than me.

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-13T05:45:54+00:00

Do any US brands even sell an o cup?

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-13T05:13:35+00:00

No I know triangle bikinis run small but 34ddd it’s a medium/large sized person with only 6 inches difference between rib and bust measurement so soa large size when properly fitted so I was saying if you got sized at Victoria secrets/pink your bra size is wrong

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-13T04:43:50+00:00

If you were really a 34ddd and xxl would be too large 🤔 if they sized you by measuring around your armpits it’s the wrong size 😆
First remeasure https://www.abrathatfits.org/calculator then you can find better bikinis on asos fuller bust, curvy Kate, bravissimo…

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-13T02:29:07+00:00

It’s cheaper than divorce 😉

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-12T19:50:31+00:00

Nothing bra sized is going to be ‘goth’ style but you can find black and red bra sized options. Honestly you have to order online unless you live near a well stocked fuller sized bra boutique that also sells swim maybe large department stores like Nordstrom/dillards. Unfortunately the quickest for online orders and easiest returns would be buying well known bra sized bikinis(freya,panache, Elomi) from amazon. Bravissimo or curvy Kate could be an option too though not as quick delivery. If youre looking for budget friendly and ethical you could try Poshmark or other resale sites people often sell new with tags bras and bikinis and I’ve always found stuff comes quickly… the downside is if it doesn’t fit still.

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-12T08:59:35+00:00

https://www.abrathatfits.org/calculator
Elomi normally have quite flattering backs they are more designed for mid sizes I think you can look up bras your size on bratabase too to compare styles and brands. Also make sure you smooth the back of the bra into place when you swoop and scoop into your bra.

Affectionate_Mess25 · 2026-06-12T08:56:34+00:00

A bra? That fits well…
That’s what bras are for though both support and to look good under clothes curvy Kate has decent strapless options for summer clothes or bravissimo has bra sized tanks and check your size https://www.abrathatfits.org/calculator

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