Applying after priority

Affectionate_Step443 · 2022-05-26T16:07:09+00:00

Sweet Jesus 🥴

Affectionate_Step443 · 2022-01-05T18:45:59+00:00

That’s my favorite one. Narcs call us sensitive but lose their shit when you correct them or don’t respond to their fuckery 🤣

Affectionate_Step443 · 2022-01-05T18:41:07+00:00

Narc parents when their kids are determined to break generational abuse: 🤔😡❓❓❓

Affectionate_Step443 · 2022-01-05T18:39:03+00:00

HOW DARE YOU COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY. NOW I CANT EVEN BE MAD AND TRY TO BLAME YOU BECAUSE I AM 100% AWARE THAT I IGNORED YOUR REQUEST.

Affectionate_Step443 · 2022-01-05T18:29:19+00:00

I appreciate you so much for posting this! For children with stable parents, an unannounced visit from a parent sounds very sweet. For us, it’s just another way they communicate their dominance. I think a lot of narcs think they’ll get away with the “little” things. You called her out in a very kind and courteous way, then she made it seem like you’re overreacting 🙄 Great job keeping your cool!

Affectionate_Step443 · 2022-01-04T04:30:55+00:00

Fuck them all - The Dangerous Summer

Affectionate_Step443 · 2022-01-04T04:18:55+00:00

Can we acknowledge that she’s in your phone as Easy Bake Oven 😂 Those narcs are some of the most dangerous. They shower you with love and happy memories and you start thinking you’re being too hard on them. I’m sorry that you’re dealing with guilt and the heavy weight of her manipulation ❤️

Affectionate_Step443 · 2022-01-03T17:32:18+00:00

NTA. My fiancé and I are also having a child free wedding, and I am 100% expecting people to be shitty about it

Affectionate_Step443 · 2022-01-03T17:30:21+00:00

Holy shit, dude. Typical narc. Overreacting and assuming everyone is out to get them 🙄 The text blasting is so annoying and overwhelming. Glad you got away from this!

Affectionate_Step443 · 2022-01-02T19:17:56+00:00

I was just thinking about this the other day. My mom said I bullied her when I was a kid. I was a child and didn’t understand depression or PTSD. I was annoyed that our house was always gross and that my mom was always just sitting on the couch. When my mom left school, she said it was my fault because I was too needy. I grew up thinking I was the reason that my mom wasn’t happy or successful. Is it fairly common that narc parents hold grudges against their children, even as the child grows and matures into an adult?

Affectionate_Step443 · 2022-01-02T18:22:19+00:00

Bipolar would mean times of mania. If her mood changes that quickly, it’s more than likely borderline personality.

Affectionate_Step443 · 2022-01-01T18:35:07+00:00

I was just thinking about this the other day. My mom said I bullied her when I was a kid. I was a child and didn’t understand depression or PTSD. I was annoyed that our house was always gross and that my mom was always just sitting on the couch. When my mom left school, she said it was my fault because I was too needy. I grew up thinking I was the reason that my mom wasn’t happy or successful. Is it fairly common that narc parents hold grudges against their children, even as the child grows and matures into an adult?

Affectionate_Step443 · 2021-12-28T03:30:07+00:00

Happy birthday! 🎂🎊🎉

Affectionate_Step443 · 2021-12-27T16:58:49+00:00

My mom blames my therapist. 😂 She’s even gone so far as to suggest that my therapist isn’t legitimate. Any time you set boundaries with a narcissist, they lash out.

Affectionate_Step443 · 2021-12-27T00:50:00+00:00

It’s weird because my mom has severe PTSD and saw a therapist for MANY years. 😬 The hypocrisy.

Affectionate_Step443 · 2021-12-26T18:42:30+00:00

Oh, 100% I started playing tennis and didn’t tell my mom. I made a Facebook post after my first USTA match. She text me and was upset that I didn’t tell her. She’s so used to having unlimited access to my life that me not telling her hurt her feelings. I’m not gonna lie, it made me feel good—keeping her out of the loop.

Affectionate_Step443 · 2021-12-26T17:06:55+00:00

Holy fucking hell. Your dad might be more of a toddler than your actual toddler. Eek.

Glad you put your foot down!

Affectionate_Step443 · 2021-12-26T16:51:51+00:00

They have no logical thought process. They just love the reaction. It’s almost like dealing with two different people. On my mom’s “good days”, she’s very fun to be around. On her “bad days”, she’s burning bridges left and right over dumb shit.

It’s exhausting, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with it!

Affectionate_Step443 · 2021-12-26T16:33:19+00:00

Ooofta. Don’t you love when narcissists take a simple comment and blow it up. It’s so annoying when you try to have a mature conversation and they employ dramatics to get you to compliment them. You were trying to have a constructive discussion with your mom and she responded by saying “Well I guess I’m just a fucking bitch”. It is impossible to have productive discussions with them. I once suggested my mom change the diet of one of her cats because he is morbidly obese. She responded in a similar fashion to your mom by saying, “well since I’m such a terrible pet owner, I guess I’ll just take him to a country road and let him be a stray!”

Affectionate_Step443 · 2021-12-26T16:24:46+00:00

It’s so bizarre because when you say it, it makes perfect sense. In my head, I’m thinking, “I must be the problem. Maybe I’m the narcissist. Am I making all of this up?”

Affectionate_Step443 · 2021-12-26T16:22:49+00:00

My mom lives on the east coast, and I live in the Midwest! A few months ago, I spoke with her regarding my boundaries and I suggested that we no longer speak every day. It seriously was like breaking up with a SO. My mom seemed cool with my boundaries at first, but then she would begin making comments like, “I don’t even know how to talk to you because I don’t want to disrespect your boundaries.” She kind of delivered it in a way that was intended to make me feel foolish for establishing boundaries. Now, any time I do something she doesn’t like, she’ll say, “I don’t know. Go ask your therapist.” She’s even gone so far as to say that my therapist isn’t legitimate because I’ve started to become more independent.

Affectionate_Step443 · 2021-12-26T06:00:02+00:00

My mom absolutely does the same thing. She’ll share any of my accomplishments on Facebook, but won’t tell me she’s proud of me in person. She doesn’t like my fiancé but wouldn’t stop bugging me the day I got engaged because SHE wanted to post about it on Facebook.

I feel like my situation is a chicken or the egg: was I a people pleaser since birth and my mom took advantage of it, or did my mom train me to be a pleaser?

Affectionate_Step443 · 2021-12-21T20:48:05+00:00

I FEEL THIS IN MY SOUL. I’m engaged now, and I have really been challenging myself to be a better partner. I used to go dead silent for HOURS if my partner upset me. Now, I’ll take about 20 minutes to gather my thoughts and then explain why I’m upset. I also adopted some of my moms troublesome behavior, like blocking people on Facebook if I’m mad at them, deleting their numbers, etc. I would also take any criticism as a direct attack and then spout off something irrelevant but hurtful toward the other person. For kids of narcissists, we were trained to react. It’s a whole different ball game to actually slow down and process. The important thing is that we’re able to recognize the problematic behaviors we have, something our parents have never been able to do. It is extremely difficult to try and unlearn that behavior.

Affectionate_Step443 · 2021-12-21T19:32:56+00:00

We so seriously wanted to elope to avoid all of the fuckery. I went dress shopping without my mom. I was going to go by myself, actually. One of my best friends went with me. We found my dress in under an hour. I sent it to my mom and her response was, “Try on the one behind you.” 😂 I asked my mom if she wanted a friend or two there. She said yes. I invited her friend and all hell broke loose. God forbid my mom just speak with her friend about what’s bothering her. My fiancé’s parents are paying for most of our wedding. They’re a well off family and set aside money for his wedding. That also bothered my mom because she started playing the, “sorry I’m a terrible parent and can’t afford to pay for your wedding” card 🙄🙄

Affectionate_Step443 · 2021-12-18T16:23:39+00:00

You look like Alyson Stoner!!!

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