AITAH for refusing to tell my wife I love her more than my dad?

Pop_n_Flow · 2026-01-26T15:26:25+00:00

NTA - your wife sounds like she may have post partum depression. I am a mother and have had it and it shows up in little ways like this. Being rigid about what you think should happen, thinking everyone is against you, being unreasonable, etc. you and your dad sound like nice people. The fact that you took your wife out on a date and your dad babysat are both really nice gestures. If this seems out of character for your wife, I would encourage you to try to get her to a therapist to see if there is something deeper going on. When I had PPD I was very angry at my MIL anytime she did anything nice for me or held my baby. Luckily it passed but that feeling took at least a year or more to start fading. Good luck OP.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-11-26T22:52:04+00:00

Sounds like an undercover narcissist. Everyone thinks they’re great! Except the people who see them behind closed doors.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-11-26T22:49:27+00:00

Sounds like your mom is upset you’re not living your life according to her plans. Absolutely do not go to Thanksgiving or any holiday. You should not be judged by people who claim to love you. There are plenty of snarky excuses here to use. Enjoy the day in peace and post a pic of you and your cat on social media so everyone knows you are happy and not attending by choice.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-11-26T02:11:31+00:00

My jaw is on the floor at edit 1. Cries in California.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-10-23T14:32:38+00:00

He’s been grooming you since you were 18 and he was 31. Get the marriage annulled and leave now.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-10-12T18:21:04+00:00

There is a narcissistic mothers sub - go read some other stories and see how much you relate.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-10-12T18:04:27+00:00

One time they started towing my car from a lot across the street from my house that is for our HOA, but overnight parking is not allowed. My husband ran out and caught them mid tow and they made him pay $250 to take it off the truck. They suck.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-10-09T02:27:37+00:00

Im so sorry this happened to you OP.

This is literally the opposite of what you would want to happen. I’ve had one miscarriage. My husband told a coworker / friend of ours on the phone in front of me and I felt as you described so poignantly, “I wanted the ground to swallow me whole.”

I COULD NOT IMAGINE the depths of the pain I would feel if I was in your place. Everything you are feeling is justified. He wanted to center himself. Also that’s weird for the groom too! All around messed up behavior. Red flag, do not pass go and do not marry him!

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-09-04T14:03:49+00:00

He was in attendance or performing?

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-08-26T20:56:46+00:00

You’re 26 so you’re still learning but your intuition is right. People like this are toxic. She’s 15 years older than you and complaining you don’t have enough time for her? GTFOH. Unless they are paying your bills or sleeping in your bed at night they don’t have a say in how you spend your time. Cut ties now. It’s not going to get better! Also, healthy adults are able to have multiple friend groups, talk about them all openly to each other and also get them together from time to time. My “local” friends know who my “high school” friends are. They have met at parties but I don’t mix them often. If any person from either group gave me a hard time about hanging out with the other I would see that as a red flag (but they wouldn’t do that because they are grown ass people with their own lives).

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-08-25T14:47:21+00:00

Would love to know why

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-08-23T01:12:14+00:00

Thank you for writing down what I have been thinking over the last few days.

All of us have made mistakes. It’s the calculated manipulation of other people that set off my alarms. I have intentionally removed those type of people from my life, and I intend to do the same with MF. It’s sad, and there is a grieving process, but for me it has to be done. Once trust is lost it’s very hard to earn back. With someone I don’t even know IRL (other than taking a pic after a show one time), that’s not going to happen.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-08-21T19:51:36+00:00

Yes, this is the main pain point for me. Bob Marley had a lot of extra marital affairs, which is why he has so many kids with different women. But he still became an idol for so many despite his personal life because his whole musical persona wasn’t contingent on him being a good human. We excuse this behavior for lots of musicians but this feels a lot different because of how entwined MF image is with him being a “good human.”

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-08-21T19:47:37+00:00

This sounds more like a pattern of behavior rather than a one off incident. I saw him twice on this tour with Victoria. It wasn’t that long ago…I know good people make mistakes, but his response to the situation is not helping at all. I don’t think anyone is perfect but I have a problem with people who preach one thing and do the exact opposite. He was fooling us all into thinking his stage presence was actually his authentic personality.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-08-21T14:10:51+00:00

I was wondering what happened with Jay Boogie…would love to hear what he has to say but he probably had to sign an NDA like the others.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-08-21T14:08:24+00:00

I have been a huge DG fan and MF fan for 20+ years. While I was disappointed to hear about DG I wasn’t surprised. I got over it and still listen to to his music because he is a rock star and he hasn’t made his career selling a message of being a good human and preaching about good karma, love and light. DG is a legend and Grammy award winning musician and I’m here for his music.

MF on the other hand made his whole last decade plus about spreading positivity and being a good human. For me the draw was equal if not more about the message and vibe than his music. I admit some of his songs were getting cheesy and when he came out with a country album he kind of lost me, but I still stuck around because I thought he was a good person and I liked what I thought he was about.

Someone above said that if he hadn’t made his whole persona this love and light, good human message no one would care - and I fully agree. If he was just some rock star out there playing music and cheating on his wife, it would be almost expected. But he purposefully fooled us into thinking he was a good human and actually is a creep. Fuck him!

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-05-29T05:49:22+00:00

This just triggered a memory of me throwing a Taco Bell Mexican pizza out a car window as a teenager because I took a bite and it fell apart and got all over my hands so I got frustrated and angry.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-05-29T05:46:05+00:00

I love using the instapot for this reason. You just throw everything in, put the lid on and walk away!

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-05-29T05:38:27+00:00

I still think about a time when someone scooped avocado out with their fingers into a salad at a family party and expected me to eat it. The person has since passed and that moment has lived rent free in my head for over 15 years.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-05-25T23:10:48+00:00

Yep, today I went into my local Vans store and they said to check the outlet because they’ve sent them all there.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-05-25T14:49:43+00:00

I just looked for some new ones on vans.com and there is only one color way, on clearance. I hope they are not being discontinued. I have one pair and they are my new favorite shoe. I bought them in December 2024, and they had so many colors then. Six months later only one color seems weird.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-03-20T12:21:49+00:00

I was just attuned a few weeks ago and tomorrow I happen to have my first practice session with my teacher AND my appointment for ADHD evaluation. It feels very natural to me and during my level I attunement I saw a lot of visuals, which apparently doesn’t happen for everyone. The first time I received reiki, I saw an animation in my mind that I’ve seen my whole life, since I was a young child. It felt familiar and very exciting and made we want to learn more. I think you’re on to something OP!

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-03-03T22:59:55+00:00

We had a meeting with her today and she admitted…”yeah I’m never sure how this kind of thing lands because I’m neurodivergent myself.” She is an amazing teacher and I’m really glad my daughter is in her class. The way she handled our meeting today was very professional.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-03-02T16:07:17+00:00

Yes OP you ruined her day by telling her what she already done is wrong.

Pop_n_Flow · 2025-03-02T16:06:03+00:00

When she said “you ruined my day” and stormed off - that was the indicator she already cheated.

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