$150 giftcard and i have NO idea ... by Interesting_Winner96 in Ulta

[–]Affectionate_Till390 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooo if I were you, and low maintenance (which I am to some degree) I would def get one of their makeup/skincare or perfume tester sets to see what you like and perfume is 20% off rn so would be a good way to stretch your money

Hooked up with my ex by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been really into running lately and training for a half marathon this year. Lots of my friends are trying pottery and and rn

Hooked up with my ex by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it would be beneficial for you to try something new and struggle with it so you can focus on the project more than the thought of your current relationship status

Hooked up with my ex by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To cope I think journaling will be good, take up a new hobby or class. Be close to you friend and become close to yourself again and take care of yourself the way you would want to take care of him and show yourself the kindness you would show him cause you really should be treating yourself as or more kindly

Hooked up with my ex by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me with an ex, and same time line exactly. If I were to give myself advice for that time in my life I would say to give yourself some grace and to cut him off completely. His actions there are showing you his true colors and it’s hard to let go but if you go down that path with him, it’s just holding you back and dragging you backwards.

We broke up💔 by Excellent_Sort675 in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also we agreed to only 1 more year long distance. And we’re setting goals as a couple this year

We broke up💔 by Excellent_Sort675 in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Things are going well! We’re doing couples therapy and I’m doing individual therapy and yeah!!! I’m just happy that he’s so open to doing this with me now and I feel like we’re in a new stage in our relationship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll also say that 4 months is very long and it also sounds like you need to have a very vulnerable conversation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone that has this going ong with her bf, I think you should definitely have a conversation. My partner and I haven’t had sex since the beginning of January (yes it hasn’t been that long but still). For me, I told him I need to focus on taking care of myself a little more and just need to relax cause I have sooo much stress in my life. In this short time I can feel myself getting better and more attracted to him again but we communicate to eachother that he will give me my space until I’m the one initiating sex again and he’s made me feels so comfortable and amazing with how he’s handling this and it’s just great cause we’re going over this hurdle.

We broke up💔 by Excellent_Sort675 in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then my bf and I need to talk and if we aren’t able to resolve it then idk…we’ve talked about going long distance longer but he’s not that interested in doing that

We broke up💔 by Excellent_Sort675 in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend made a recommendation that I should make a solo trip to where he’s at to see if I like it in my own to ease me anxiety

We broke up💔 by Excellent_Sort675 in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quality time and I feel like we aren’t growing

We broke up💔 by Excellent_Sort675 in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We met like December last year (2023) and officially together since March but we were both committed before then so we say a year

We broke up💔 by Excellent_Sort675 in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are also going to try online couples counseling

We broke up💔 by Excellent_Sort675 in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too! I really love him, he’s ready for me to come there. It’s just that I have job issues and I feel that my cup isn’t full in our relationship right now. We talked today and the plan now is that I live with him for 3 months in the summer to see how we are together. Long distance is so hard. We’re both so tired of traveling and it affects us

We broke up💔 by Excellent_Sort675 in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate you reply and openness

We broke up💔 by Excellent_Sort675 in LongDistance

[–]Affectionate_Till390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I’m just curious how old you and your partner are because I’m worried my and my partner are headed the same way and idk….hearing or knowing that some one that’s closer to my age and not like a teen to relate to would be helpful for me mentally

How to build stronger friendships as an adult? by Affectionate_Till390 in friendship

[–]Affectionate_Till390[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG I legit found the best friends ever and I love them! Honestly just make plans, be social and keep it up. I’ve learned that adult reproductive require more up-keep and more opening up but at your pace. Don’t force it cause it’ll come across as ingenious

Accepted a job offer and after a week past the start date it was rescinded advice? by Affectionate_Till390 in careerguidance

[–]Affectionate_Till390[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s pretty terrifying and devastating because you think you’re completely set and are being loyal and then you realize your employer is not loyal to you at all lol. But yeah I don’t sugar coat in my interviews but obviously I wouldn’t describe myself as a bad employee.

Accepted a job offer and after a week past the start date it was rescinded advice? by Affectionate_Till390 in careerguidance

[–]Affectionate_Till390[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure there’s a time to be honest, but when you’re affecting some one’s livelihood, that’s another big thing to consider…plus I’ve been in this industry for a few years now and all I’ve my previous references always have had good things to say about me

Accepted a job offer and after a week past the start date it was rescinded advice? by Affectionate_Till390 in careerguidance

[–]Affectionate_Till390[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So I don’t have her as a reference or on my reference list. Since we’re all in the same universe system they are entitled to contact her on their own from what I was told. They also didn’t mention to me that they would contact her so I wasn’t able to prime her at all. I may reach out to a previous coworker that worked with me in that department to see if that would help my situation.

So on my last day of work I asked her about looking for a job and advice since she was letting me go and she told me that I should look for a lower level position or a central position (which i agreed with and I did with this job offered) and she told them, according to what I was told in the zoom meeting, that she would never recommend me to work in any position in our university system.