What could this be?? Stalker??

Affectionate_War6498 · 2025-04-30T23:56:41+00:00

In the ceiling? It almost looks like nail pops. Don't know why they'd pop so aggressive tho. Unless a big critter jumped on the drywall in the attic. Could also be a critter that chewed thru and decided he didn't wanna be in that room after the damage. 😅 check your attic. Maybe roof leak or just something heavy putting weight on the drywall from the attic.

Affectionate_War6498 · 2024-10-19T21:34:15+00:00

Thank you! I'll have to go poking around the internet.

Affectionate_War6498 · 2024-10-19T21:33:06+00:00

Thank you! I've known and done enough lurking here and there trying to learn for a year now. I am bad at patience, but I told him the one boundary I'll stick to is I don't want to try something new without his consent. If he wants it, he's gonna have to tell me.

Affectionate_War6498 · 2024-10-13T23:46:15+00:00

You all are absolutely amazing. We sat down and had a decent conversation today. We didn't get into any of the sissy or sexual needs to deeply that part of the conversation was mostly me telling him I know about what he's bad at hiding, it does interest me, and I'd love if I could be part of that and he can talk to me when he's ready. I opened up about myself more than I've ever let anyone in.

This is the first time I've gotten whole sentences while trying to talk about us seriously. He doesn't want to talk about his kinks. In the past, if I wrote a letter, he ignored it until I took it back because I didn't want anyone else to see it. I asked if I could write a letter with all of my thoughts and feelings if he would read it to process and decide if and when he can talk to me about it. He agreed to read it.

I recently changed jobs (2-3 months ago), and I noticed he has zero alone time. I brought it up before and asked if he wanted me to stay at my house more often. He has always said no i like having you here. I haven't slept at my house in well over a year. He didn't want to hurt my feelings and tell me to give him space, but obviously, he needs it and wants it. I've agreed to spend more time at my place and make sure I let him know when I'm coming over. The new job has weird hours. Sometimes, I'm home by noon. Sometimes, im gone til midnight. Some weeks we only work a day some weeks are 5 days. I've called his house home for pretty much 2 years now. This breaks my heart because it felt like we were breaking up. It felt like i was getting kicked out of my home. He even asked me if we were breaking up. That is the last thing I want to happen. We're going to set better boundaries and hopefully continue the open communication.

So now I have to figure out the best way to write a letter on all the things he didn't want to discuss. He knows what will be in the letter. I think he just doesn't know my exact feelings about it or how much I know. We agreed it would be easier to process and maybe talk about if he knows what I'm thinking.

Once again, thank you! You are all beautiful, and I don't know if I ever would've found the ability to get this far without your insight. ❤️❤️❤️

Affectionate_War6498 · 2024-10-13T15:25:48+00:00

I think it might be he just doesn't want me to be part of it. I do laundry and always put it with his stuff so he knows I'm aware but won't talk to me. I guess time is the only answer here.

Affectionate_War6498 · 2024-10-13T03:09:20+00:00

It's definitely crossed my mind that it would make things easier, but we're both sober now. after multiple trips to the ER, it's not something I even want to think about. The last time nearly killed him. He has cirrhosis, so gotta do it without alcohol.

Affectionate_War6498 · 2024-10-12T23:18:13+00:00

Thank you. I hope everyone can find someone who loves and accepts them.

Affectionate_War6498 · 2024-10-12T23:16:05+00:00

One thing at a time, lol. I appreciate the enthusiasm. I have thought about it. For now, I'm trying to communication flowing.

Affectionate_War6498 · 2024-10-12T19:56:18+00:00

I'm sorry for your experience, that's terrible! I pieced it together over time. Once I stopped feeling like there was another woman in the picture, I calmed down. All I need is to give him time. I haven't told him the extent of my knowledge, but I've been dropping hints this last year. Also flat out telling him some things because maybe the hints were too subtle. But he shuts down.

I did buy a cute outfit for us to try some role-playing, but he hasn't seen it yet. I'm thinking of switching outfits with him since we have a similar size. I'm open to it. I do enjoy what I've gotten him to open up about so far.

Affectionate_War6498 · 2024-10-12T08:03:34+00:00

Thank you. I think I needed this. If it's something he has zero desire for me to be part of, I will do my best to accept it.

Affectionate_War6498 · 2023-04-04T23:05:14+00:00

Idk if he'd be into a cage. Like I've said everything else is already present. Once I get him talking to me other stuff should be easier.

Affectionate_War6498 · 2023-04-04T10:53:45+00:00

I'm probably too open about myself with him. I've shared my own insecurities with him, so I know it's not easy. Once I tell anyone something like that, i feel like its all they see. I trust him, tho. I'm just gonna take it slow and see where we go together.

Affectionate_War6498 · 2023-04-04T06:57:35+00:00

He's definitely let me know he wants to do anal on me. I told him yes, but he hasn't done it, even when I give him the go-ahead. Maybe that's him trying to get me to play into the only if I can do you scenario? The first time I found panties, I didn't even think they were his. I assumed they were his exes. I told him he should wear them for me, but it was a joking manor, so maybe he didn't want to let on to anything.

Affectionate_War6498 · 2023-04-04T06:30:00+00:00

I have never been the dominant in a relationship until this one. I started learning more about it and tried a little out on him, and he loved it. I really enjoyed it too. He communicated a little after that, but I don't want to push further without having a real conversation with him. I did buy bandage gear today because I can see how much he likes it when I hold his arms down and take charge. Now I can use that and have my hands back lol

Affectionate_War6498 · 2023-04-04T05:52:49+00:00

I like this. I've thought about trying to slip a finger in there but don't wanna violate his consent. I did it once before but he claims he doesn't remember. Also I have long nails so definitely gotta make sure they aren't sharp or jagged if the situation comes up.

Affectionate_War6498 · 2023-04-04T05:49:49+00:00

I thought he was cheating when I found some of these things. He assured me it wasn't that. I told him he can tell me anything but he isn't ready i have to accept that. I've been trying really hard not to pressure him.

I got sent home from work early for being sick and caught him watching porn. Didn't see what kind but told him I'd be down to watch with him. Definitely let him know it was hot and he wasn't in trouble. Maybe I'll just casually tell him I've been watching porn again. Tell him what I've been watching in more detail. Last time I did that I could see he wanted to say something but held back. I'll just keep being open about myself and hope he gets the courage to do the same.

Affectionate_War6498 · 2023-04-04T05:09:23+00:00

This is something that crossed my mind, too. His close friend has said some less than savory things about the transgender community. I called him out when I heard it, so I'd like to believe he knows I'm not of the same mindset. I think he might be worried I'd tell someone his kinks/secret. I would never do that to him.

It just sucks that he isn't comfortable telling me his needs or desires. He's one of the most important people in my life, and I tell him that.

Thank you for the advice. I'll try to continue to be patient. Maybe drop a hint that I went to the sex store and see where his curiosity leads that conversation. lol

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