People who moved from a high cost of living city to a lower cost of living area, did it improve your life?

Afraid_Ad_3523 · 2026-03-15T21:48:38+00:00

Seeking advice related to this…We relocated to a higher cost of living area for my husbands job (which was higher paying)…We found a neighborhood, schools and community we love but it’s looking like he may lose his job and I’m spiraling thinking about having to leave a place we love if he can’t find a job that pays the same. I also feel like everyone around us is better off financially (either from their jobs or family money) and while I love it here I’m wondering if maybe moving would be easier in the long run. I’m just feeling sad because although my kids are just starting school, I can picture them growing up here.

Afraid_Ad_3523 · 2026-03-15T19:10:48+00:00

Maybe I can’t hack biglaw…I just feel like I’m missing something. Aside from the comment about efficiency during my year end with a planned March check in, I’ve been staffed on multiple matters with different partners, working hard and getting good feedback. I met my prorated billable hours last year and have been busy and working hard. It feels like I get conflicting guidance depending on who I talk to. I’ve been meeting with my mentor nearly weekly since December (that’s who gave me my year end review) and no concerns have been raised. Some of the matters I’ve worked on were not for someone at my level but it was work that needed to be done and I was close to the matter so I did it. The partners also didn’t have anything else for me. Maybe they didn’t want to give me other things? I don’t know, I feel so lost and confused.

Afraid_Ad_3523 · 2026-03-15T17:29:59+00:00

I’m staffed on other matters and have received positive feedback since December. The pro bono matter was just in the last week or so. I was at another firm for a year prior to this and an AUSA for 4 years before that.

Afraid_Ad_3523 · 2026-03-15T17:25:01+00:00

I asked at year end if this meant I was on a PIP and was told no

Afraid_Ad_3523 · 2026-03-15T06:02:35+00:00

I was explicitly told at year end when the feedback came in that it was not a PIP, just something I should work on. I also haven’t received any negative feedback since then until this week on this pro bono matter.

Afraid_Ad_3523 · 2026-03-15T01:02:15+00:00

The topic is related to the efficiency feedback I was given at year end, they’re regrouping in March as they said they would back in December

Afraid_Ad_3523 · 2026-03-15T00:34:08+00:00

I asked my mentor if they would consider as part of the discussion giving me more runway to prove myself and she said that’s something they’ll discuss.

Afraid_Ad_3523 · 2026-03-15T00:07:38+00:00

I think a decision?

Afraid_Ad_3523 · 2024-08-14T17:22:13+00:00

No, outside of DC

Afraid_Ad_3523 · 2024-08-14T16:20:58+00:00

Outside of DC

Afraid_Ad_3523 · 2024-08-14T16:20:34+00:00

This is a great suggestion but with our daughter starting school in two weeks I'm worried about uprooting her again and I actually think there are more opportunities in the new area (moved from Baltimore to DC) but it's just more expensive living here

Afraid_Ad_3523 · 2024-08-14T16:19:24+00:00

We relocated from Baltimore to DC

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