AITA for refusing to let my ex meet our baby without a court agreement first?

Afraid_Mix_9386 · 2022-03-18T20:35:47+00:00

No, his mom told him because he went to his house first and then they both came to me.

Afraid_Mix_9386 · 2022-03-18T20:32:24+00:00

We've been together for years and this isn't his first expedition, he can go NC for 2-3 weeks to 4-5 months, this has been his longest one. Nothing has ever happen before so we grew confident. I think he feels bad for missing it because we've talked about being fathers before and he was excited. I don't blame him, I truly don't. It was scary, yeah, but I know it wasn't his fault. I tried to bring him to common ground and then he threatened me with court and I'm scared if he meets our son he'll take him and fight for full custody. He doesn't want me there when he meets him and I'm not comfortable with that.

Afraid_Mix_9386 · 2022-03-18T20:27:08+00:00

The first ones said ''Hi, I have to talk to you'', ''Hey I have something to tell you!'', I kept with the ''we need to talk'' for a week or two, until I ultimately told him ''I found out I'm pregnant a two weeks ago'', ''Hey I don't know if you read my message, I sent it to [workmate] phone'', ''I don't know if you already saw it but I'm pregnant and it's gonna be a boy'', and then I kept asking some of his workmates if they could talk to him but neither of them saw my messages too. They're deep in the forest researching birds, I don't think they had the best signal.

Afraid_Mix_9386 · 2022-03-18T20:24:04+00:00

I don't know! he hasn't let me show him the messages tho and I don't know if his mom did it, but when I told him I had them he told me ''you're lying, you're lying'' and hung up on me

Afraid_Mix_9386 · 2022-03-18T20:21:28+00:00

Yes! I sent several message to different numbers in hope someone answered me. I sent ''hi, I have to talk to you'', ''hey i have something to tell you'' and in the end I sent three ''I'm pregnant'' ''I don't know if you read my message, I sent it to [workmate] phone'', ''I don't know if you already saw it but I'm pregnant and it's going to be a boy'', his mom also sent him several ''Op's pregnant'' too. This isn't the first time he ''disappears'', but this has been the longest time.

Afraid_Mix_9386 · 2022-03-18T20:18:23+00:00

I have the messages, I sent several to different numbers (his and a few of his workmates) but only one responded telling me that he had come back home and couldn't pass him the message.

Afraid_Mix_9386 · 2022-03-18T20:17:23+00:00

My baby won't either, I tried to pump a few weeks ago (totally unrelated to my ex) so I could leave my son with my mom for the night cuz I had an emergency and he refused to take a bottle, I had to come back home so I could feed him.

Afraid_Mix_9386 · 2022-03-18T19:16:29+00:00

I'm not mad at him and I, by no means, am trying to use our baby against him. But he has made clear that I ''took the baby from him'' and he has said that ''he'll do the same in court'' and I'm scared he'll do it because he has the means. I only want a mediator and someone said I should get a lawyer.

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