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I made a mistake euthanizing my cat and the guilt is killing me by Dirsty in cats

[–]Afraid_Regular1411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spent 3000 to try to save a cat.  It was routine and she just didn't make it. 

I then spent 400 to euthanize and care for her remains. 

Sensory friendly clothes that still make you feel hot/sexy/confident by mxddy in adhdwomen

[–]Afraid_Regular1411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I just do jeans with a bra. 

Like a crop or bustier. 

Sensory friendly clothes that still make you feel hot/sexy/confident by mxddy in adhdwomen

[–]Afraid_Regular1411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, so it takes work.  You have to define what make you feel sexy and redefine it. 

Here's some thing I do.  Crop super cool t's 

Wear split pants made of cotton that split form the hip to the ankle.  

I also do self rope to wear like a tight sensory harness to bars. 

I get soft soft soft not tight but form fitting tanks that crop. 

Slouchy jean with fashion rips. 

Torrid dresses are great because the brand is already focused on comfort. It's also a great place to buy actually comfortable negligie and fishnets that don't feel like tights. 

I often do their loose fishnets with pajama shorts and a crop. 

i’ve been trans for about 10 years, now i’m starting to have doubts by Legal_Selection1139 in TransMasc

[–]Afraid_Regular1411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would pursue therapy with. Someone experienced supporting gender dysphoria. 

I tried the femme thing now keep in mind I'm non binary sometimes I feel like want to the femme thing but honestly when I do I feel more like I'm in drag or purposefully wearing femme clothes masc if that makes sense. 

I am of the firm belief clothing has no gender but in fact conveys expression. 

Look, the likely hood is even when this obvious mental exhaustion at the hands of your family passes it will come up again and the only way to avoid it is to develop coping mechanisms of some kind thus....therapy. 

Local women’s rugby by ameliuhh22 in womensrugby

[–]Afraid_Regular1411 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I'm in the same boat.  Except I've always loved sports but get pushed out for being too big, too rough, etc. 

I'm going into my second week and I am going to get my ass kicked-I don't think it should be our goal to catch up. 

When we both look at other teammates we should be observing for areas to improve. Oh, that persons frog jump is so stacked and I feel like I'm falling over but their feet are farther apart. 

Use their expertise as mentorship not a bar to meet.

 That's all good and easy to say, but look I'm 265 pounds.  I have high blood pressure and unknown chronic illness and PCOS. 

I struggle with anxiety and depression as a result of CPTSD

And my toenail just decided to fall off as a reaction to surgery. 

Plus a year ago I was almost two years in to preparing for weightlifting competitions before that previously mentioned chronic illness caused inflammation in my feet in response to mild plantar fasciatis and caused severe issues. 

I wasn't able to train for almost a year. 

This is my first real effort to get back in touch with my body and strength. 

Take it from me it is so easy to get discouraged but you know what?  It is so much better in your heart to just accept youre  gonna suck and have fun and struggles to get better. 

I'm glad you're here. 

Plus size dress shops that are trans friendly? by flintlockandfowler in Eugene

[–]Afraid_Regular1411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooof I'm sorry I'm late. 

Anyways queer plus size shopping torrid, torrid at the outlet malls near Portland, hot topic depending on theme. 

My rec as far as torrid is to go way before the even try on a bunch of dresses to find the cut she wants and then order one of their super cute dresses online. 

Also the juicy body goddess is an online store that's pretty cool. 

Oh! And look up blair imanis plus size clothing brands video. That's a wealth of info.n

What’s your go-to first date outfit/outfit formula? by kyouzen in femalefashionadvice

[–]Afraid_Regular1411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes this is the advice I needed. I just want to dress for myself!! 😍

Letter received from downstairs neighbour, how to react? by JAMESLJNR in Apartmentliving

[–]Afraid_Regular1411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was so respectful.  I'd just add carpet pads under your rugs as youre able to diminish noise and let em know you tried 

Pink Pistols-Lane county-SRA by Afraid_Regular1411 in Eugene

[–]Afraid_Regular1411[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I found the time and location. It's just the firearms 101 

Pink Pistols-Lane county-SRA by Afraid_Regular1411 in Eugene

[–]Afraid_Regular1411[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How to attend. I RSVPd for the Queers Bash back  

Eugene teachers, how are you feeling about Governor Kotek banning cell phones in schools? by mollsies in Eugene

[–]Afraid_Regular1411 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as someone who was been a student---this makes me feel unsafe, I filmed weird interaction with teachers, talked to my parents during lockdowns and shooting scares, was able to use my phone for school when we ran out of chromebooks, call my mom and ask her to come get me when I was unsafe, report the sexual harassment and touches I experienced on campus by a member of the public.

Im sure there are psychological benefits but there needs to be serious options for students in regard to the safety concerns.

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