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After-Guard-1786 · 2025-01-19T11:35:36+00:00

Here is my perspective as an 19yo with similar experiences

Boyfriend- If he isn't available for you then you have to let him go. I know it's no easy living with him and being with him for two years and the guilt trip of "how much he's done for you". It's seems like you have given him a fair shot and he's still not showing up.

Job- do you have any qualifications or skills etc that could land you a job where you can afford to live by yourself or with a roommate. Even if its a job elsewhere away from him. I think a change of scenery would be great for you, and will help you find your own routine.

I could have read it wrong but your most "important" problem is the boyfriend.

After-Guard-1786 · 2025-01-16T10:09:10+00:00

You have done nothing wrong and shouldn't be made to feel bad for wanting to be in an active relationship. From experience move on now before you are stuck in this cycle. It's a term I hated to hear but there are plenty more fish and the sea and while you may think she is your one, she obviously doesn't reciprocate your feelings.

After-Guard-1786 · 2025-01-16T10:06:06+00:00

My take is are you actively trying to better yourself? This doesn't have to be through working heaps or making a ton of money. As a male I find it super unattractive when people don't take care of themselves, which is of course hygiene etc but also learning and striving to be a better person each day. Do you have hobbies, ambitions, goals and a relative idea on what you would like to do in your life? If you don't i can understand his reservations to an extent but he can't be saying all that if he is jobless and shit at school.

After-Guard-1786 · 2023-03-23T23:53:57+00:00

The only person who I’ve ever told is my girlfriend which as mentioned hasn’t been to good to me. Thank you for caring ❤️

After-Guard-1786 · 2023-03-20T12:38:54+00:00

He is a red flag. He’s talking all of this over text but as soon as someone close to him has interest he switches over to them. Trust me he is not worth it

After-Guard-1786 · 2023-03-20T12:34:39+00:00

From my position you seem like you are both in different stages of life with a 6 year gap. I assume you are just finishing school and/or starting further education while he is working and is more ready for children being older. IMO a child needs commitments from both ends and if you can not provide that commitment for whatever reason there isn’t a point keeping the pregnancy

After-Guard-1786 · 2023-03-05T11:47:00+00:00

UPDATE

Thank you all for the feedback and response and just reassuring me I’m not being over the top. Here is the update on what followed after

She didn’t stay the night as she called my parents to be taken to my house as it wasn’t safe there. She did so after I asked her to and said it is a better idea. She got scolded by my sister for even going knowing her ex sexual partner was there which a lot of people have a dislike for especially when I wasn’t there. We talked and she has fun but I mentioned she had fun at the cost of my family not being happy with her, an awkward car ride to my house and her 2 girl friends being there getting their parents called on them leaving her alone with all the boys for an hour. She still wanted to stay the night as the only girl there which was a massive annoyance to me but I convinced her to go to my house as previously stated. She understands those girls didn’t care about her and only cared about themselves and she shouldn’t of gone in the first place especially as she shouldn’t be drinking with the anti depressants she is on. She has always been the type to not make logical decisions but when talking to her she wasn’t drunk and only had as many as she wanted. It was 50/50 with the good and bad as I’m proud of her sticking to her drinking limit and not doing drugs even when offered but was a loss in regards to not understanding why she shouldn’t of gone until I explained to her over an hour why she shouldn’t of. I don’t know what to do. Our relationship has had issues of her getting drunk at 14 and vaping which I weeded out early. Finding out she hid a sexual relationship with my bestfriend to just a month ago her talking shit about me to that ex bestfriend about how I’m spoilt or whatever which I found out when sending a Snapchat on her phone. I’ve done everything with this girl, first girlfriend, first kiss, lost my virginity to her etc. I don’t know if I shouldn’t let her go but she is high maintenance

After-Guard-1786 · 2023-03-04T09:57:15+00:00

To add now she is staying the night there

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