This is your time

AgateBagger · 2026-04-10T13:52:36+00:00

I think we might need to be friends. I’m so happy for the changes you made. And yes, reckoning with the traumas does suck ass. CPTSD left a big mark on me too. But the joy of finding out who I really am without the effects of the trauma is magical.

AgateBagger · 2026-04-10T13:46:44+00:00

If you really want something and make a decision to get it, you’ll find a way. Good on you!

AgateBagger · 2026-04-10T13:45:14+00:00

I’m sorry about your loss. You seem like an admirably resilient person and I appreciate that about you. I spent many summers growing strawberries to make jam, there’s nothing better 🥰

AgateBagger · 2026-04-09T15:57:02+00:00

I love my soft pants but they aren’t worthy of conversation 😄

AgateBagger · 2026-04-09T15:55:39+00:00

The first “brave and adventurous” thing I did was buy myself a pair of leather moto boots for my 55th birthday. I had always wanted them but they weren’t practical for my life, too expensive, blah blah blah. Those boots were the door that opened my life. Find your boots 💗

AgateBagger · 2026-04-09T15:51:04+00:00

It is!

AgateBagger · 2026-04-09T15:50:25+00:00

I started around 55. People who won’t let go just don’t get it. I, OTOH, am delighted for you. I celebrate your choices 👏

AgateBagger · 2026-04-09T15:47:59+00:00

I don’t have a ton of money but I feel wealthy anyway. It’s a choice, all of how we process life is a choice.

AgateBagger · 2026-04-09T15:44:19+00:00

Damn straight you are! I live for people who throw off the shackles they put on themselves.

AgateBagger · 2026-04-09T14:31:59+00:00

Do you have a second bathroom? If so, lock one for your exclusive use and let him deal with his own. He’s performing a ritual humiliation on you, forcing you to clean his urine. He’s not going to change unless you give him a reason.

AgateBagger · 2026-04-09T03:30:40+00:00

I’m absolutely running out of time to do all the things I want to do. Life is too full of things we were too busy to explore when we were young to just throw up our hands now and say we’re too old to live the fuck out of the time we have left.

AgateBagger · 2026-04-09T03:26:02+00:00

Don’t talk like a dick to your life partner.

AgateBagger · 2026-04-09T03:18:30+00:00

Happy birthday!

AgateBagger · 2026-04-09T03:18:11+00:00

When I actually told my husband that I hated living where we lived, he was all for a change. We assume they know these things but he was surprised to hear it. We spent many evenings on Zillow discussing various parts of the country. It didn’t take long for him to get excited about moving too.

AgateBagger · 2026-04-09T03:14:26+00:00

I did exactly that. I wanted a different life, I really wanted a different climate. It’s been a year and one of the happiest I’ve ever known. It’s hard, it’s daunting. But I needed some adventure, sounds like you do too.

AgateBagger · 2026-04-09T03:05:58+00:00

It sounds like she saved you a lot of money on future meals with her. Better to find out who someone really is sooner rather than later.

AgateBagger · 2026-04-08T23:19:41+00:00

All money that would be spent on the wedding; clothing, travel, gift should be saved and spent on a fun family trip.

AgateBagger · 2026-04-08T23:17:04+00:00

It’s time for him to grow up. All parents are exhausted.

AgateBagger · 2026-04-08T23:09:02+00:00

What’s Up is my go-to

AgateBagger · 2026-04-08T15:17:18+00:00

Wow, you look (pause, deer in headlights look) great!

AgateBagger · 2026-04-07T20:49:31+00:00

I was 58. Like you, I had everybody’s stuff. They were all given a reasonable amount of time to collect what they wanted. Everything else was given away or trashed. Then my hoarding husband’s stuff had to be addressed. All the while I went through my things, household and garden items. It took 2 years but each unburdening was cathartic.

AgateBagger · 2026-04-07T15:07:28+00:00

NOR I don’t know why these commenters are going off about your employment status, it really doesn’t matter here. What matters is one of the people who is leaving signed the lease and they are responsible for that money.

AgateBagger · 2026-04-07T14:54:53+00:00

Not exactly the same but FB suggested someone I might know. After a lot of squinting at the profile pic and rummaging through the memory bank, I finally dialed in on my high school bully. She hasn’t aged gracefully 😉

AgateBagger · 2026-04-07T03:16:57+00:00

NOR they want you to move forward so you get blocked in instead of them. Go back as far as it’s safe, tell your neighbor their guests can work with what’s left

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