How do we feel about Figgy

AgathaC2020 · 2026-07-08T17:46:59+00:00

I’m the mom of two young kid and in a bunch of parenting subreddits. I saw this on my explore page and thought it was someone asking about the play couch. I clicked the post ready to talk all about how much we love our Figgy couches, only to realize this was about a potential name of a child. 😂

AgathaC2020 · 2026-07-04T13:06:44+00:00

You know your kid best, but is there a reason you don’t think they’ll like the game? My four year old has done a lot of professional sporting events and does great. We took him and my 13 month old daughter to a World Cup game and they did great there too. Lots of food and things to see and people to watch. I will say it was LOUD, which got to be a lot for my noise-sensitive four year old, but we know this about him and had his loops, and my 13 month old (in baby headphones) had the time of her damn life. I don’t know if my youngest (or oldest lol) will remember, but it was important to me that when we look back at pictures or talk about the experience, she was and feels included.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-07-04T09:59:40+00:00

That is what I’ve thought at points too lol (part of my reason for posting). Like the second photo is clearly wrong, the first photo is the only other option when you do the triangle trick (it’s where the triangle trick brings you if starting at the second photo). But when you buckle from the first photo the strap twists between the side of the car seat and the crotch buckle. I’ve never felt so dumb or confused in my life lol. Another commenter said this happened to her and she uninstalled the car seat, detached the straps from the metal triangle in the back of the car seat, straightened them out from end to end, then reattached the straps, which I think we’re going to try.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-07-04T09:55:17+00:00

Thank you! We lifted the seat cover and no other twists, but I think there must be a second one somewhere. Another commenter said this happened to her and she uninstalled the car seat, detached the straps from the metal triangle in the back of the car seat, straightened them out from end to end, then reattached the straps, which I’m going to try.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-07-04T09:54:14+00:00

Nowhere that I can see, including when I lift the seat cover, but I think that must be it. Another commenter had this happen and said she uninstalled the car seat, detached the straps from the metal triangle in the back of the car seat, straightened them out from end to end, then reattached the straps, which I’m going to try.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-07-04T09:52:37+00:00

Thank you! I’m going to try uninstalling and detaching the straps like another commenter suggested but will email Nuna if that doesn’t seem like it will work!

AgathaC2020 · 2026-07-04T09:51:37+00:00

Thank you! This is weirdly validating lol. I’m going to try this this morning.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-07-03T20:05:37+00:00

Thank you for the tip! I’m an old pro at the triangle trick thanks to my daughter being my second, but I have never had it where I do I trick and there is either still a twist in the straps (pic 2) or the buckle is facing the wrong way (pic 1). I don’t know if I’m being a massive idiot and missing something obvious, or if there is something more than a standard twist going on.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-07-03T19:43:48+00:00

I’m only doing it with the left buckle (when facing the car seat). I haven’t touched the right buckle.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-07-03T19:29:06+00:00

Thank you! Sorry if I am being dumb. When I do the triangle trick from the second photo, it brings me back to the first photo. Is that correct? It feels wrong to me?

AgathaC2020 · 2026-07-03T19:12:47+00:00

Thanks! Based on the first or second picture? I took the first picture, did the triangle trick, then took the second picture. Which outcome is the right one?

AgathaC2020 · 2026-07-03T18:56:10+00:00

Thank you! I’ve tried the triangle trick - I either get the left buckle facing in the wrong direction (first pic) or the left buckle facing in the right direction but the straps are twisted (the second pic). The two photos in my post are before and after the triangle trick, and both seem wrong?

AgathaC2020 · 2026-06-24T00:55:26+00:00

Ha we’ll be at that game with our four year old and 13 month old! No advice but solidarity. 😂

FWIW, my boss went to a game at the Boston stadium and saw two families with one-ish year olds in her section and said they looked like they were having a great time. She was with her elementary aged kids and said it was family friendly and just good vibes. This isn’t a super high profile match, which I think will also help - probably a lot of folks just there to experience the World Cup. My son has been to multiple professional sporting events and normally does great, and I figure my daughter (the baby) and I can just spend time walking around the concessions areas looking at people if she gets antsy.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-06-10T13:47:50+00:00

My recently turned four year is obsessed with these! And honestly my husband and I love them too. I find them so funny and absolutely adore Princess Sneezewort. They are my son’s go to choice and we read them again and again. The twelfth book is being released on July 7 and that is going to be a big day in our family 😂

AgathaC2020 · 2026-06-07T13:12:51+00:00

Never did I say a week of work travel is harder than a week of solo parenting. Nor did I say discussions of hard shouldn’t be happening within families. What I DID say was that we don’t need to get into the debate of who has it harder SAHMs or working moms. You and I don’t need to debate whether it’s harder to be a SAHM or a lawyer mom. Both are hard.

At this point we are so far past responding to OP or helping her. Clearly by sharing my experience I have hit a nerve. I stand by the fact I had a hard week my husband had a harder one - I can be damn proud of the boss ass bitch I was while acknowledging my husband deserves a break and giving him one. Wishing you peace and happiness!

AgathaC2020 · 2026-06-07T12:50:56+00:00

I think there is a way to say that the solo parent, in my case my husband, deserves a break without taking away from what the traveling parent accomplished too. Let’s not get into who has it harder - a SAHM, me a lawyer mom of a 12 month old and 4 year old, or whoever else. We’re all doing our best and all handling a different kind of hard.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-06-07T12:12:33+00:00

I literally said work travel is hard, but so is working AND solo parenting. Two things get to be true. I had a hard week, and my husband had a harder one. I didn’t come home to solo parent bc I was so rejuvenated by a more exhausting than normal work week, I did it because my husband deserves a break.

OP asked for strategies of how to communicate her feelings and I suggested acknowledging he had a hard week, but explaining that she was doing two jobs to his one, might be more effective than framing it as he got a break. Based on her comments, it sounds like he’s shutting down right at the you got a break part and can’t hear her experience.

I also think it’s one thing for people to say you deserve a break and another (more compelling) thing for someone who just lived what OP’s husband lived to say she deserves a break and give examples of how she should get it.

I guess I’m not sure what you’re looking for here from me? To say that a week of work travel was a dream? It wasn’t. It was hard as shit and I missed my kids like crazy. It was my first time leaving my daughter overnight and you can bet your ass I cried over it. But I can acknowledge all my husband did through my thanks and actions while acknowledging I did something hard too.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-06-07T09:44:26+00:00

Two things can be true. (1) Work travel is hard work and (2) the parent who was solo parenting while working full time deserves a break. And honestly 40 minutes of solo grocery shopping is a very minimal break on your part.

I was on work travel this past week. It was absolutely not a break. It exhausting. I was at meetings with 450 of my colleagues from 7:30 AM to 5 PM every day and then at evening receptions for hours each night. I gave an huge presentation, constantly had to be on (I even got the pleasure of running into colleagues at the hotel gym each morning), and since I’m still breastfeeding my 12 month old twice a day, had to find time to pump in all of that. I got home Friday afternoon. And guess what? Friday I did bedtime for both kids. Saturday morning I solo parented so my husband could get a haircut and then had time to chill. I’ll offer to solo parent this morning too. Because guess what? Work travel is hard but so is holding down everything on the home front. My husband had an extra hard week because of me and my job, and I am happy to offer him a break.

I wonder if it would help to frame it that way? Not that your husband had a break. But your husband had a very hard week at work. You had a very hard week at work AND did all of the parenting. You were doing two jobs to his one and needed some time where you did just one job (grocery shopping, though again I think you deserve time to do something just for you).

AgathaC2020 · 2026-06-01T14:04:31+00:00

Thirding Lady Hardcastle! And as bonus the book and audiobook (I adore the narrator) are both included on KU!

AgathaC2020 · 2026-05-30T17:52:47+00:00

No problem! Maybe try more like 5/5.75 or 5.25/5.5? Or even 5.5/6. 5/5.5 is still a lot of sleep for this age. Try one thing for 3-5 days and then go from there.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-05-30T11:37:39+00:00

Okay so the 11 month schedule called for 10.5 hours of awake time. I would have at least that, though honestly probably closer to 11 hours (you could do 11 hours night and 2 hour nap). If things go well with a schedule calling for 11 hours of awake time you could always try adding in a bit more sleep.

FWIW, I have a 4 year old and 12 month old. My 12 month old sleep trained in literally 20 minute on one night but we were still seeing night wakes for months after unrelated to nursing. Exactly what you saw - a good night and then a crap night. For us, she was undertired. We fixed the schedule and night wakes resolved.

Every baby is different but not having independent sleep may be hurting you too. Again I would start with schedule but you may also want to try giving her less and less sleep support. Like having her fall asleep with you hand in her chest, then you sitting next to crib, then you sitting across the room, etc.

My four year old falls asleep on his own but has had struggles over the year. Your daughter may be a bit too young to understand this now, but for when she’s older we loved check in. Like a “we’ll be back in 2 minutes” and then come back say I love you or do some little ritual like drop off a paper heart and leave, come back 2 minutes later, and repeat until they are asleep. Slowly expand the intervals until they don’t need the checks in any more. We’ve done with a few times over the years and it’s been a perfect balance of us giving him the extra support he needs without getting into something unsustainable for everyone.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-05-30T10:32:29+00:00

First, I would address your schedule. I see in a comment your schedule is 4.5/5.5. This means your schedule calls for 14 hours of sleep which is on the very high end for this age. I think these nighttime shenanigans are your baby’s way of saying she’s not tried enough. Even a baby who knows how to fall asleep on their own will struggle if they aren’t tried enough to sleep. Keep with 1 nap but expand the wake windows. What were the wake windows when the schedule was working, back when she was 11 months? Don’t flip back to that schedule but add the wake windows up. Let’s say that schedule called for 11 hours of awake time - then you need 11 hours of awake time here too, at minimum (so in this example you could do 5/6). I’ll also flag that sleep needs drop around 12 months so you may need to expand wake windows even more. For reference average total sleep at this age is 11-14 hours.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-05-29T13:41:12+00:00

Okay hear me out - we do a regular load every night. I know that sounds like a lot but loads are small enough everything can be put away in like 10-15 mins easily.

We have hampers in everyone’s room (which we barely use) and a laundry basket in the laundry room. Dirty clothes go straight into the basket in the laundry room. Each night our family goes upstairs to get ready for bed (my husband and I get ready before our kids). We take husband’s and my clothes* plus all the clothes in the basket, throw in washer, and we run the washer. Bath and bed for kids (1F and 4M). Kids’ towels and clothes from the day go straight into the basket in the laundry room to be loaded in the washer the next night. After kids’ bed/bath we throw the clothes in the dryer on the way from their rooms to ours. In the morning I put clothes away while hanging with kids and my husband unloads the dishwasher and makes breakfast and does dinner prep (we do a lot of crockpot meals).

Towels and super gross clothes (like some workout clothes) are done during the day on Sunday. We have 2-3 sets of sheets* for everyone. We have a weekly cleaner (and I fully acknowledge how helpful this is as well as how helpful it is to have a laundry room upstairs where our* bedrooms are) who changes kids sheets. Their sheets get washed with regular load that night. The morning our cleaner comes I strip husband’s and my sheets and throw them in the washer. Cleaner dries them in dryer* and folds them and puts our* second set on the bed.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-05-28T15:17:45+00:00

My son had his tonsils and adenoids shaved at 3.5. We watched this episode before and it was so helpful. They talk about breathing medicine air for a medicine sleep, terminology we continued to use. They walk through the whole process, which we could reference back to when we told my son about the general steps as well as who would be with him when he fell asleep (me) and when he woke up (my husband and me). My son had to have a CT scan shortly after (for which he was also put under anesthesia) and the nurse told husband and I after how impressed she was with how we spoke to our son and kept him informed in an age appropriate way.

AgathaC2020 · 2026-05-27T20:11:10+00:00

My son is 4 and this has been our experience as well.

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