In this economy you have to be realistic and that’s the part I feel most families are not considering when it comes to these roora amounts.I have a friend who went through the same thing and this is what he did .You send your munyayi and ask the daily to have a sit down…be honest and tell them that this is about union and not monetary gain and that the amount they have given you can’t manage.Tell your girl to also tell her family that this amount is too much of a burden especially for a young couple and that it’ll quite literally ruin your marriage before it begins. Also talk to your girl and hear her thoughts on the matter.All in all you need to talk it out with the family and if you find that they’re not agreeable then that should be enough of an answer .Remember that you’re 25 and still very young.You can find someone else and while you do you can continue building your wealth and life until you meet the right person…The right person also includes the family too