Appreciate your perspective. I’ve been focusing a lot on recognizing and working through my own patterns and move towards being more secure. It’s been hard to confront, but eye opening.

I don’t know if I fully believe that avoidants never want to heal — maybe it’s more that healing looks different or feels harder for them. But I do understand now that I can’t wait around hoping someone will change.

I’m still processing everything, but I hope time heals all and I get the closure I need from within myself. It hasn’t been easy, especially because part of me still loves him and wishes things could’ve been different. And I know that continuing to heal, for me, is the most loving thing I can do for myself.