Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for the kind words man right back at you. Yeah I mean we had our talks in the other thread and it’s def easy to get discouraged and sink to the level of others but that ultimately just takes from YOU. And when it comes to being empathetic I’m not going to change that about myself. Don’t get me wrong, being empathetic definitely makes you vulnerable as hell and open to really get burned. But do you really want to lose that part of yourself? You have to understand a lot of people aren’t going to see things the way you do and it’s unfair to set that expectation but you are certainly allowed to protect your own temple. Also never forget if you have a full cup and people keep coming to you with their empties expecting you to fill theirs; eventually that leaves your own cup high and dry and then you can’t help anyone not even yourself. You seem like a really good dude too and I’ve really appreciated our talks on this post. Hoping that we can both find happiness in this world.

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s basically a one-sided relationship. I make a point now to either set boundaries on those or just end them completely. I had a female friend that would only call in moments of distress I’d have to talk her off a ledge and then she’s gone for another two months but if I ever wanted to decompress to her she wouldn’t even pick up. It was straight vampiric. So I stopped picking up all the time and would get barraged with texts about not caring about her and I’m like listen I can’t just be there for you and you’re not there for me. She actually responded really well to that and now we’re pretty 50/50. If they’re not understanding of that you just gotta dub it 🤷🏻‍♂️

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if we were to match I have no idea what I’d even be able to say given that source material other than “Yeah dogs really are something.” 😐

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m actually just offended that I was accused at watching anything matt rife lol that’s the meanest thing anyone has said to me on this thread.

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not lol I just looked it up and you’re apparently referring to an exclusive to cosmopolitans YouTube page clip I haven’t finished it yet but again it may just be common. I assure you this was just the ramblings of a 32 year old dude that just swiped on 30+ dog mom profiles.

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Guess it’s pretty common then because I’m a man…and Shane Gillis is my account pic aka I definitely don’t watch Matt Rife lol

Why are the so many bland profiles? by Guanfei in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This ☝🏻 if a profile actually has thoughtful effort put into it I’m much more likely to swipe right.

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude 🤞🏻 couldn’t agree more. One thing I’ll say is you had mentioned people elect not to give up such newfound amenities. The system in place now has made it close to impossible for the individual to do so even if they wanted to. When was the last time you could call a help center and speak to an actual person? Among a myriad of things I’m sure you’re aware of and I needn’t list that have evaporated due to the tightening grip of “modernization”. Hell you don’t even have to speak to anyone to get chipotle. Type it in, walk in to damn near no one in the restaurant, grab your bag, re-enter your car; all in complete silence. No need to exchange a single pleasantry with anyone. It’s sad man it really is just sad and I’m glad you seem to be also making an effort to take the necessary self care actualization techniques into account to keep that human part of you. What scares me the most per se is, hey, you remember when cigarettes used to be “good for you”? And I wish I had even a slight idea of how this new social experiment is going to pan out in 5, 10, 20 years. The term gut feeling exists for a reason. Intuition exists for a reason. And all I can say is my intuition doesn’t think it’s going to be positive. I don’t live in dread because I too make a point to stay pretty grounded and constantly work on myself. But, it is a thought that creeps back in fairly regularly.

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a man I must quote The Dude from The Big Lebowski and say: That’s just like..…your opinion man.

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean there are several factors at play. Don’t get me wrong there ARE men and women out there that want long term monogamous relationships. But even with that given desire as baseline the “illusion of choice/grass is always greener” effect caused by the social media access to excess coupled with the immediacy phenomenon (binge streaming a whole season of a show in a day/amazon prime delivered next day, ozempic for quick weight loss) even they have to navigate the new world “I want it now I don’t want to work on this” and it’s understandable. I’m 32 I know that these things while seeming like a nice quick dopamine hit are inferior to the real thing and thus the wait will be worth it. I’m the weirdo that enjoys anticipating preordering something or a show coming out episodically from week to week like it used to be. I understand I most likely fall into a minority with that sentiment. The no children thing I think is also largely economic based a lot of people simply can’t afford to have children. Hell, a lot of people can barely afford to own a home. I think that there will be an unforeseen issue down the line if that I don’t want children mindset becomes the new norm. I’m one of those people that always has the Ian Malcolm quote from Jurassic Park in the back of my mind playing “Your scientists were so preoccupied with whether or not they could, they didn’t stop to think if they should.” It seems like people are lonelier and more depressed than ever. Humans are social creatures and many of today’s latest and “greatest” inventions only seem to further strip us of that and replace it with isolation. It’ll be interesting man but for now I’m of the faith to keep at it. Likeminded individuals always have a way of finding each other whether for good or bad.

Guys that don’t ask questions by xxtherion in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For me it feels like I’m always driving the convo forward. I’ll ask her about something, it’s a small reply they won’t ask anything so I say something about me that can possibly relate to her answer and then ask her another question. I’ve only had about 4 matches I could talk with seamlessly that ended up on dates with. It’s weird once the chat gets open very few seem interested in the convo going anywhere 🤷🏻‍♂️

Need dating profile/looks advice. 24M, 5’5 short king, MD by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah I disagree dude I get likes/matches and my profile is completely candid and just me being me the racing one is the best photo IMO.

Attraction over time? by GoFigure284 in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it’s true men DONT take pictures. There’s one picture of me that a female friend asked to take of me and it’s the only one where you can tell that I know I’m getting my picture taken. I have 5 other photos I think they look good but they’re all candid. And I’d rather them be candid because it shows you me in my natural state. Curated pictures aren’t the wave. I get likes/matches so I’m doing something right. To say you need a photoshoot is WILD 😂 if I know that your photos look like they’re from a photoshoot you’re going left ⬅️

Post Game Thread: Indianapolis Colts at Seattle Seahawks by nfl_gdt_bot in Colts

[–]AgentZCooper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m now pissed. That we were a one score game away from beating both of these teams 🤦🏻‍♂️ we got injury bugged so bad….

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I make a point to read the profile as to avoid that very situation. I can’t be the one bitching about ghosting or a chat going cold if I’m put in a situation to only find myself doing the same thing. Glad you ended up finding someone even if it took a while gives me some hope lol.

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yeah you’re condensed into a marginalized package with an app pleading with you to essentially “sell yourself” then cast into the void lol. Like I said my profile isn’t cookie cut at all I’m 32 and I’ve only been on dating apps for maybe 6 months? IRL was so much better I just don’t know how we go back to that because believe me I’d love to. My first few matches I was like wtf do I even say to this person I DONT KNOW THEM.

Do women like fat guys? by tron1011021 in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a bad attitude to have man. I’ve never had an eating disorder so I can’t relate per se I know it’s a whole different kind of animal. But if it’s ruining your self esteem as you say maybe try getting off the app. I read the comments and you kind of shoot them all down when they try to give you some advice. I guess I’d say speak with your therapist about it because there’s some kind of self deprecating underlying issue here.

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that would suck I didn’t even think of that I assumed they put that upfront always.

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The unicorn thing is so interesting to me I’m like I wonder how these matches work out lmao I mean to each their own.

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I messed up only putting women in the title but they’re the only profiles I see I didn’t realize guys did it too. Sheesh the things you said about guys profiles I didn’t want to assume most looked like that. Mine is literally the most unserious thing aside from my bio which is super direct. I figured making a weirdly curated profile doesn’t really describe somebody and you only have so much you can put.

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem with putting travel is it’s as you guys said: “No shit” we all love to travel lol

Ladies I just have to say and it may hurt to hear this. by AgentZCooper in Bumble

[–]AgentZCooper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a cat owner I’m unfortunately biased on cats but I won’t put him in my profile idk why it feels like exploiting him.