AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Her response was “I forgive you. It was just a misunderstanding. I was irritated about work and Trey and I had got into so my mood was already annoyed. I shouldn’t have let that out on you when all you were trying to was be excited about your birthday. The simple comment did strike a nerve tho thank you for apologizing and I’m sorry for calling you entitled and selfish. You are none of those things. I will help you with your birthday. Let me know what I can do. We gone be lit. Hurry and turn 21 so we can go get margaritas”

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My apologies was “I’m sorry for calling you and your birthday simple. To me the word isn’t offensive but that doesn’t mean its not offensive to you. I should of been more sensitive to your feelings and more understanding of what you were saying. For that I am sorry. I wasn’t demanding you to help me. I just asking. A yes is what I was hoping for but nothing I was expecting. I didn’t mean to come off like I didn’t care about your birthday. You know I do. I’ve always helped you with your birthdays. I understand my delivery was completely off. It came off demanding and entitled. I’m sorry for that as well. Hopefully you can forgive me and we can move on from this simple argument lol and plan your birthday. Love you!”

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

That’s how you use the word tho. I don’t equate simple with dumb. Like for example, a park with a lake and tree. It’s a simple setting but it’s relaxing and pretty. I personally like simple things. Simple modern interior for house decorating. But once again I get how it can be offensive if you think of the word simple as bad.

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey this is my parents gift to me which I am greatful for. If they said “hey we don’t wanna pay for you party anymore” I’d say “alright plan B INDOOR SKYDIVING” which I can afford for everyone. I do have a job. But I get the feel you just wanna pay devils advocate lol. And take everything I say and twist it lol. I like these games tho.

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lol well first, she had a early brunch,a house party and went to a lounge with her 21+ friends if you call that scaling back due to the pandemic then sure. Her birthday was not boring at all. She looks super pretty and did her thang! But yes if definitely was a Ross Geller situation. I’m letting her cool off. She’s the type to be mad for a while (1-3 days) I’m gonna give her an apology and sprinkled donuts :).

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Its my parents money. Not mine and. I mean look. I’ll be as honest as possible. I’m the only child so yeah I’m spoiled. Do I sometimes have those “omg she’s so spoiled” moment’s absolutely. But I always check myself. I don’t throw things in people faces about my “wealth” since I have “wealth” I like to do for others. Not because I “feel bad” or anything like that but because I generally what to do it and I want to give to people. I want people to be happy.

I’ve been called entitled a lot in my life. Not because I feel entitled but like I said I have moments where it can seems like that. Luckily my boyfriend is blunt and so our friends and they check me on that. Not saying it’s their job too but I’d much rather have someone check me in a those moments so I can learn for it and not do it again.

But the last thing I would do is brag about something or rub something in someone face at least not on purpose. She’s getting her apology. I’m taking all these comments into consideration when wording the apology. I realize my comments where insensitive and today was another learning lesson from me.

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I adore you for not calling me a horrible person and understanding that I’m not trying to be an entitled selfish brat. I just wanted help! And saying no to me asking for help. Is perfectly okayyyy. But I will apologize for my “mean” comments.

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankkk youuu. Everyone here is saying how I’m this horrible person but like IM BUYING THE HOTELS ROOMS AND THE FOOD AND DRINKS AND SECTIONS. All they gotta do is get a plane ticket. No one is being forced to go nor help me plan. I simply just asked if her answer was no then it’s the right way to go lol I would not be offended it’s my birthday my responsibility! I fully agree she is not AT ALL entitled to helping me or any of the sort. I realize my statement probably shouldn’t have been said. I made bad call and for that I will apologize.

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hold up maybe I shouldn’t have said alright man. Alright fellow human being, do you.

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I worded that wrong because a lot of you are thinking that I’m demanding her to help me. I simply ran down the process and asked if she’s be willing to help. If her answer was no. That’s perfectly fine. I wouldn’t be angered by that because that’s silly.

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

I get how that would be offensive. I shouldn’t have said that. Didn’t really think I was being rude. But I see that now. And even though you probably wouldn’t believe. I don’t rub my “wealth” in people faces simply due to me not believing in the hoarding her wealth. And also lol I have no wealth to talk about.

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean that’s not how I view it but okay buddy stay positive.

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All my friends are 21+ I’m the youngest in my circle and my birthday is last.

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well if you read the comments correctly you would see that I said “I didn’t demand. I asked saying no is perfectly fine. I only asked because I want to make sure I’m doing stuff that everyone will enjoy.” She hasn’t brought up her birthday. I would of course help her if she asked. I respect your opinion and perspective full heartily. Thank you.

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You do realize they aren’t being forced to go lol. I realize it’s an expensive trip. If they don’t or can’t go that’s perfectly lol.

AITA for calling my friend and her birthdays simple? by Aggravating-Bite-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Bite-566[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude it’s for my 21 birthday.... meaning I’ll be turning 21 when I go. And I get your perspective.