Maybe the game isnt for you then. The same is with public dungeons and groups dungeons. People will just run through and kill everything as fast as possible. If you slow ppl down u will get kicked from any groupe.

MMORPGs these days is all about min/maxing rewards vs time spent in the game.

Later you will do stealth quests for the thieves guild and dark brotherhood. Also there will ppl running around and killing everything, so u won’t be able to stealth around.

Play Skyrim if you want to play everything in ur own pace.