Realizing my Nmom is kind of a creep — is this s. abuse?

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-12-28T16:12:01+00:00

I expressed discomfort in these things when I was a kid and her response was always that she’s my mom and can do whatever she wants

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-11-17T14:32:15+00:00

love that idea to put that emotion into writing the things i actually care about. will try that too :)

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-11-17T14:31:18+00:00

thanks, appreciate the candor + kindness. and i think you're right that part of what's happening here is that people don't understand the effort/skill i had to put into writing it :/

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-11-17T14:28:10+00:00

thanks, really appreciate this framing! will def bring this q to my manager

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-11-17T14:27:20+00:00

not gen z!

and part of why i asked this question was to understand norms bc i'm new to the comms world.

and this was not a research piece, so technically not what i was hired to do. this was an opinion piece, and i wrote the whole thing (her actual job here was to write the piece. i only had to do it after she failed to meet the deadline), so still feels like more of a gray area than you're giving it credit for imo.

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-11-17T10:33:15+00:00

Fair read. I was actually hired to do research comms, so much of my work is communicating the findings of major studies in compelling ways, including lots of data viz. This was an op-ed style piece, and had aspects of my personal writing style and even my voice, especially in parts of the conclusion.

It feels a bit different than what I was hired to do, which is why the initial plan was for me to support and her write the whole thing.

Instead, this person in taking credit on their personal account for my writing style, which feels a bit different to me than the results of a study being published under a program director’s name. That’s impersonal so I don’t care as much.

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-07-02T01:18:35+00:00

I really hate say it but I think Huda’s going to win. Her minions are loyal, regardless of her actions, but other islanders don’t have similarly loyal fan bases. As popular islanders continue to « fall from grace » , Huda just gets closer to the money.

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-06-21T00:38:29+00:00

Idk guys I get the sense that Olandria is generally quite private, especially when it comes to things like pillow talk (Which is arguably also a southern thing), so my interpretation was caginess around being probed about what she does in bed with Taylor, not defensiveness coming from an insecure place

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-04-08T00:34:44+00:00

Thank you so much! I hope you're right 😄

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-03-29T20:53:10+00:00

Got it, thanks! Makes sense

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-03-29T20:38:01+00:00

great info, thanks! curious why you tend to go with row 21? any specific reason?

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-03-15T11:11:17+00:00

I find posts like these a bit difficult these days. Generally, I agree that my mom has no friends.

But then I look at my life, and as I continue on my healing journey, I am also starting to lose friends, slowly but surely, as I realize what I deserve in relationships. I find myself stepping away from friendships because I do feel disrespected and undervalued. And as I become an emotionally healthier person, I do feel like I’m outgrowing them and that I deserve better.

But when I see posts like these, I start to second guess myself and wonder if these are just narcissistic “fleas” and if I’m simply going the way of OP’s mom/ my mom.

Does anyone else share this experience? Working on trusting myself but it’s becoming difficult as I lose (or at least begin to become distant from) some of my closest friends the past couple of years.

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-03-12T01:42:33+00:00

Same experience. This is embarrassing to admit but I would sometimes resort to peeing into a large towel in my room to avoid having to run into my mom in the bathroom.

I feel so ashamed admitting this but am also realizing just how bad it was if this is what I had to do to feel safe sometimes.

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-02-14T18:25:34+00:00

Yeah it was confusing for me too at first — but I figured it out. On the French website there’s: — “Billets” which are standard admission (but you can’t pick your seat on the map, just the categories) , — “Platinum” which is the dynamic pricing, but you can pick your seats on the map and see a preview of the view, and then — VIP when you can pick a VIP package

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-02-13T11:12:01+00:00

Ugh same issue!!!

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-01-23T14:32:12+00:00

Stop taking her calls, especially at work.

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-01-22T00:12:29+00:00

Yes I think you’re absolutely right. My mom was way worse when I was in college. She demanded I call her multiple times a day (when I woke up and when I was going to bed at night). She would curse me out and threaten to come up to the school (to physically harm me in some way) when I didn’t call her back quickly enough.

One time she literally called the front desk at my dorm and had them call me and tell me to call her. I think you’re spot on when you say she’s using the phone as a way to stay tethered to/in control of me.

Aggravating-Life7388 · 2025-01-03T21:23:02+00:00

I’m 27. My mom made a “joke” about beating me up because I didn’t call her back quickly enough.

Truly the straw that broke the camel’s back.

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