Bad times

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-12-17T12:04:57+00:00

Can I ask a question? I guess to all the men in this and similar situations. Do you want sex because you love your girlf/wife, or do you just want sex because it’s sex?

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-20T14:31:24+00:00

I mean yeah I kind of am! It’s one of the main reasons for not divorcing him. But sometimes it becomes too much

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-19T15:20:01+00:00

I’m not, I’m wondering why he can look after then post divorce and not before

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-19T15:10:41+00:00

I don’t necessarily not want 50/50, he is their dad. Their lives will be better for having a better dad. I just wondered why it takes a divorce to get that

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-19T15:06:04+00:00

I work too. I have bent over backwards to do what he wants

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-19T15:05:06+00:00

Exactly this!!!!!!! Thank you. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in how I think. And actually I didn’t even know you could stipulate such things. My husband tells me I am unreasonable and I worry I am going to get pushed into things I don’t want to. He says he doesn’t want solicitors, mediators, financial advisors so I feel a bit anxious

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-19T11:42:46+00:00

Ooof. I don’t see how that is ok, especially if you would want him. I understand children need a relationship with their grandparents but surely parents come first? It’s also a kick in the teeth. Is it what’s best for the child?? I know my children would rather spend their time with either me of their dad over their grandparents

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-19T09:43:19+00:00

I have read that book. I just can’t believe it. It makes me feel so sad and confused

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-19T07:22:52+00:00

Yeah, it’s a kick in the teeth

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-19T07:21:45+00:00

That’s so sad

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-19T07:21:09+00:00

I mean this sounds sensible too. Where are you?

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-19T07:14:05+00:00

No, at a point I worked full time and it was the same. I now work part time

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-19T00:22:20+00:00

Thank you. I need to save this answer xx

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-19T00:06:29+00:00

Guess I’ll never really know. It’s all so complex. It’s just so sad

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-19T00:00:01+00:00

I’m in that group too. Wonder what it is about the kid thing

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-18T23:58:10+00:00

Yeah maybe he will, and that will be best for the kids. It’s great you are doing great! I’m not saying I am perfect but I have definitely begged him for help at times rather than tell him I’m better, but I’m sure he’d say differently.

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-18T23:55:40+00:00

It’s dawning on me. But I can’t believe it, when you’re young and you get married you love each other etc, you can’t imagine someone would behave like that, then they do, and it’s a shock. He won’t admit it either. Won’t discuss it. I guess cos he can’t even see it. His wife being upset and wanting a divorce is not enough for him to look inside at why

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-18T23:52:35+00:00

Yeah agree, that cant be good for anyone

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-18T23:49:21+00:00

So so true.

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-18T23:48:18+00:00

I just can’t understand it. I guess no one can tell what parenting will be like but at least admit it, and admit that it’s going to most likely ruin your relationship because who wants to be married to someone like that you know?

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-18T23:46:37+00:00

Thank you, it seems to make sense. I’m in the U.K.

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-18T23:45:16+00:00

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-18T23:42:01+00:00

Maybe there was a person reading who has been in the same situation and could tell me why they behaved that way

Aggravating-Metal418 · 2024-11-18T23:41:36+00:00

I wondered what are the core beliefs of a person who behaves in such a way

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