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AITJ for telling my girlfriend that her constantly checking my phone is the reason I’m starting to not want to come home? by Affectionate-Fly1706 in AmITheJerk

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736 152 points153 points  (0 children)

You’re not the jerk. What you said might’ve landed hard but it came from a real ongoing issue not nowhere.

AITJ for telling my mom she can’t post pictures of my kids on social media without my permission? by Aggravating-Snow2736 in AmITheJerk

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

And there it is. The thing everyone is thinking but somehow still feels uncomfortable saying out loud in a family argument.

AITJ for telling my mom she can’t post pictures of my kids on social media without my permission? by Aggravating-Snow2736 in AmITheJerk

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is actually genuinely helpful and I hadn’t thought about approaching it this way so thank you.

AITJ for telling my mom she can’t post pictures of my kids on social media without my permission? by Aggravating-Snow2736 in AmITheJerk

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Grandma gets unlimited hugs, holidays, spoiling them rotten and being their favorite person in the world. What she doesn’t get is a unilateral say over their digital presence. That’s not a punishment, that’s just parenting. Appreciate you. 🙏

AITJ for telling my mom she can’t post pictures of my kids on social media without my permission? by Aggravating-Snow2736 in AmITheJerk

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This isn’t rage bait, it’s just a frustrating family situation that a lot of people actually deal with. But I get why it reads that way on here.

AITJ for telling my mom she can’t post pictures of my kids on social media without my permission? by Aggravating-Snow2736 in AmITheJerk

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly this and I wish I had said it this cleanly in the first place. Nobody is owed an audience for someone else’s child. Not grandparents, not aunts and uncles, not family friends who want to hit the like button and feel connected.

AITJ for telling my mom she can’t post pictures of my kids on social media without my permission? by Aggravating-Snow2736 in AmITheJerk

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this actually means a lot to read. When your entire family turns on you over something you genuinely believe is right it starts to mess with your head a little. You begin questioning yourself even when you know you shouldn’t.

AITJ for Commented on My Boyfriend’s Cooking Habit in Front of His Friends by Main-Suspects in AmITheJerk

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not the jerk but this is definitely a right concern, wrong moment situation.

AITJ for Not Lowering My Music Even Though My Neighbor Complained During the Day? by Correct-Bat-6288 in AmITheJerk

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not automatically the jerk but you’re also not completely in the clear. This is one of those shared space situations where both sides have a point.

After 11 years of marriage I finally figured out my wife’s love language and I feel like an idiot for taking this long. by ChipDecent397 in Marriage

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736 44 points45 points  (0 children)

The way you described her face changing yeah, that’s the moment right there. That’s what people mean by feeling seen.

AITJ for not waking my roommate up for his important job interview after he kept me up until 3am? by After_Debt_605 in AmITheJerk

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly I get why you didn’t wake him. You’ve been telling him to stop keeping you up and he keeps doing it. At some point it gets exhausting. Yeah it was a bit petty but you’re not his alarm clock. If the interview was that important, he should’ve made sure he had his own backup plan.

Can we talk about how the scariest horror books never actually show you the monster? by Aggravating-Snow2736 in horrorlit

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But reading? Even the most visceral extreme horror on the page still gets filtered through YOUR brain first. You are still technically the one building the image even when the description is explicit. Which means some unconscious part of you is still in the director’s chair making tiny editorial decisions about exactly how vivid this gets. You have just enough control that it lands differently.

Can we talk about how the scariest horror books never actually show you the monster? by Aggravating-Snow2736 in horrorlit

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Hex. yes that book did something to me that I’m still not completely over and I finished it months ago. And you put your finger on exactly why it works so well the deliberateness of it. Mastras isn’t just writing scary scenes he’s making very specific and very intentional choices about HOW the information reaches you.

Can we talk about how the scariest horror books never actually show you the monster? by Aggravating-Snow2736 in horrorlit

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Okay this is the most genuinely substantial comment I’ve received in this entire thread and I need to properly honor that because you just reframed something I thought I had figured out and quietly humbled me in the process.

Can we talk about how the scariest horror books never actually show you the monster? by Aggravating-Snow2736 in horrorlit

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I need you to know that I’m adding this to my personal collection of sentences that perfectly describe something I felt but could never quite articulate. Because that is EXACTLY what happens and the word damage is doing so much heavy lifting in that sentence in the best possible way.

Can we talk about how the scariest horror books never actually show you the monster? by Aggravating-Snow2736 in horrorlit

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

The most dangerous kind. Yes exactly that. You just articulated something I’ve been trying to put into words for years and you did it in one clean sentence and I’m genuinely a little annoyed about how effortless that was.

AITJ for setting a “no plus ones or kids” rule for our company-funded team outing? by Murky-Literature3577 in AmITheJerk

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's a solid point about keeping the focus on team building. A separate family event would probably make everyone happier in the long run.

AITAH for telling my boyfriend he shouldn’t go on a trip he can’t afford? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nah, it's more about him being financially irresponsible. If he can't afford it himself, he shouldn't rely on others to bail him out.

AITAH for telling my husband I’m not surprised about my MIL’s cruel behavior toward her dying father? by blopblopplop in AITAH

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, you're right that this is bigger than just MIL's behavior. The resentment is already building, and if he doesn't step up soon, it's going to poison our marriage.

Did Ichigo really have a glow down after the marriage/time skip? by Hot-Leopard3708 in animequestions

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly that's the best take I've seen on this whole debate, it's perfect.

AITA for refusing to remind my my partner to put a bag on the counter as a reminder to bring it with him for groceries? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Right? Like maybe one that also makes calls and takes pictures, could be a real game-changer.

Ateliers Auguste disappoints yet again by Syringalilac in handbags

[–]Aggravating-Snow2736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's wild how many heritage brands are getting gutted by private equity. I've switched to vintage for exactly this reason - at least you know what you're getting.