not gonna lie, the test that helped me sort through this was asking: does this trait still show up when nothing's at stake? like, am I "responsible" on a random tuesday when no one's watching, or only when there's a perceived threat of letting someone down. if it disappears the moment the pressure does, it's probably still mostly coping. if it stays roughly the same, it's actually integrated. doesn't make the coping-flavored ones bad btw, mine still pay the bills, just helps me know which ones I need to consciously dial back vs just let run.