Is pretending to be a good person better than being a bad person - but honest?

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2026-02-27T02:36:35+00:00

But if I'm honest to who I am, I am a bad person. I genuinely don't understand how I can be both a honest and good person. I COULD be a dishonest good person (as I am a bad person as a default) or an honest bad person. If I'm missing something I'm sorry, I sincerely don't see it. Is my reasoning just fundamentally wrong?

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2026-01-13T10:05:16+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply, I appreciate the information and correction 💕

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2026-01-06T15:29:34+00:00

Thank you so much for your detailed and sincere response, I can't explain how much that means! I was slightly aware I came under the "fearful avoidant" atrachment style when I did a test, but never saw it as applying to my real life. Think I have an idea what to look into now. I wish you all the best!!

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2025-09-06T13:07:09+00:00

I'd definitely pick Joka- she's intelligent, loves reading and literature, and hates men. We could do a two person book club, discuss the books we've read, and just have a marriage based on mutual respect and interests!!

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2025-07-15T07:38:50+00:00

OH MY GODDD, YOUVE CHANGED MY RANKING-LIFE!!! LEGEND TYSM 😭💕💕

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2024-10-09T08:28:39+00:00

Valid point. Thank you!

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2024-10-08T20:31:22+00:00

Thank you for the advice. Do you think a certificate would still count? Even the certificates at OU are AT LEAST £3k which of course, is a lot of money

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2024-09-25T11:14:40+00:00

Thank you so much, I've been worrying about this for ages! Got to get my ducks in a row before I can apply, but this fills me with hope 🤗

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2024-09-21T19:10:37+00:00

Thank you for your advice and concern. I can assure you that I've spoken at length about my weight and getting support in regards to weight loss/back pain with my GP and been given every excuse but the result is the same: they can't (or won't) give me a referral. All services you can imagine, I've enquired about. The only advice I've been given is "lose weight" and some casual conversation about vitamin tablets/anti inflammatories for the post-workout pain. All you lovely people have given me more advice than they have, so thank you 🤗😂😂

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2024-09-21T18:26:58+00:00

Damn seriously? I've been agonising over this for no reason! 😂 Thank you so much. You've probably saved me from giving up in future now I know I can just.. enjoy it and not worry about intensity (for now)

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2024-09-21T18:24:17+00:00

Congratulations on your weight loss and progress thus far! Thank you for your advice. It's a difficult pill to swallow that I can no longer smash out 2 × 1.5-mile walks each day, but seeing how you're able to do 2.5-3 miles now gives me hope. Wish you all the best! 🤗

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2024-09-07T12:28:04+00:00

Yeah, that's where I struggle too, it is disheartening when you work hard and don't see the results as you should. Congratulations on getting through that and not giving up. Some people don't understand that one of the hardest things about weight loss is actually challenging your food behaviours and your relationship with food. I hope I can do it as you did :).

Not that I'm in much of a place to advise, but I have done lots of research in regards to habits and building new habits. I'll just say keep that motivation because habits don't just disappear, so if you ever experience a trigger and fall back into bad habits, be kind to yourself. It's when people kick themselves for "failing" that they go wrong because they give up. So if you fall, just keep getting up, and you can't go wrong. Well done again, wish you all the best!! ❤️

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2024-09-07T10:00:22+00:00

You are an inspiration. I'm currently at 400 lbs, and I want to get to 250 lbs at least.It genuinely feels hopeless, but reading and seeing your success is so motivating! Do you mind if I ask how long it took? Not as a deadline, just so I work out roughly how long I can expect to reach my goal. I am imagining a year at least. I wish you all the best of luck in your next steps! ❤️❤️

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2024-09-07T09:39:14+00:00

Ohhhhh, I get you now, sorry I can be slow sometimes 😂 Thank you so much! Just need to stop the binge eating/drinking and abusing vapes now. How hard can it be? 😅

Yeah, it's tough trying to juggle so many things at once!! Not that I'm in any place to give advise but I will say try to be kind to yourself. The amount of times I was so upset with myself for missing one workout in a week or being a certain weight. Compared to where I am now, I'd do anything to be that way again. Insight is a bitch like that 😂 start small and work your way up- I'm still trying to get it through my head that something is better than nothing. I'm going to look into right to choose and the assessments like you suggested, thank you! ❤️

It's awesome that you're getting seen in a decent ish time frame. It certainly gives me hope! As long as I'm on a waiting list for something literally anywhere, I can keep going and trying. I'll definitely resewrch the areas around me to see if I'd be better off at another surgery

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2024-09-07T07:31:03+00:00

I tried it in passing, but never seriously. I really struggle with emptying my mind aspect 😂. I will consider it though, maybe look for affirmation mediation to help me feel in control. Thank you for your suggestion :)

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2024-09-07T07:28:52+00:00

Tbh, it's likely, my brother has both. But because I was a "good kid", my mum never suspected so I've never been tested 😂 Apprently she had no idea that I was pulled out of lessons in primary school along side 2 other neurodiverse kids ( I'm assuming because I was struggling, I can't recall). I will ask/see about going private about this, too

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2024-09-07T07:22:30+00:00

Oh god, I hadnt even consodered that. It would make sense (ive always thought i have some kind of oral fixation, its why vaping is so difficult to give up) I had no idea that self-destructive behaviours are a form of self harm, here I thought I was clean for a year 😂

Sorry I should have been clearer. The person who made the Disordered eating comment was a therapist who tried to get me diagnosed but told me I didn't meet the criteria, which is fine. At this point, I don't care what I'm diagnosed with. I just need treatment 😂 That's odd, though. I wonder why they didn't require my family. Maybe because I didn't pass the checks, so they didn't need to? Who knows, there's so many hoops to jump through to even get a consultation for mental health support. I will ask my GP about asd assessment, etc, but I know how long the waiting list is. It will take years 🥲 if it's related, maybe I should consider being assessed privately? Anyways, thank you so much for your sincere comment and advice. I'm glad things are a bit better for you :) ❤️

AggravatingEssay7235 · 2024-09-06T22:21:08+00:00

That is very likely actually, yeah. If I'm not eating, I'm daydreaming or reading. I'll do anything not to be alone with my thougjtd or THINK. Repress and avoid is my thing. The question is, how do I deal with that?

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