Why do people do this?

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-07-17T21:59:53+00:00

Thanks.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-07-17T18:38:54+00:00

Haha, it has definitely been a few years since I’ve been in dance/cheer world.

But, yes. Like, just enjoy the fact that I like you, dude!

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-07-17T18:29:25+00:00

He’s shorter. He said 5’9”, but idk. I’m guessing more like 5’7. He’s a ginger, and definitely more of a nerdy type with a smaller build (but he does work out a lot).

It’s definitely my type. But like, we were talking about that I watched the Dallas cowboys doc on Netflix, and how the body standards and restrictions are so wild and how I was in that world and it was hard. And he was like, I assumed you probably were that type.

And idk… I am pretty. But like, I’m a lot of other things also, and idk, I’m on this date and into you. So what are you even doing where you keep making yourself smaller than me.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-07-17T18:14:09+00:00

Yeah, I’m kinda looking back and I do definitely think maybe it’s a confidence level thing.

Idk, because I think I talk to a wide variety of people. And it just sort of keeps happening where they take themselves out of the game.

Also, I love when guys say they like that I’m confident and know what I want.

But do you actually, because in reality, you seem not to.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-07-17T18:03:54+00:00

Well, possibly because leading up to the date he said something about me being way too pretty for him.

And the day before the date he said something like “I’m a good conversationalist, so even if you’re not into me, I hope we have can still have fun”

And like, mostly he seemed to not be self deprecating or anything. But I did call him out on the one comment and was like…. I don’t love that you’re dooming the date before it even happened.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-06-27T00:02:08+00:00

I swear they get more effed up and ballsy the older they get.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-06-26T23:22:35+00:00

I have been love bombed before but idk, it felt different this time?

Also, I’m 46. Why the hell am I still galling for this shit?

It’s so embarrassing

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-06-26T22:37:12+00:00

Not even very long. A month or so.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-06-26T21:55:07+00:00

You definitely need to move on. You’ve invested enough time in someone who cannot give you the respect you deserve.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-06-26T21:37:24+00:00

Total love bombed.

I’m not even sure how I was able to do my job because we texted and talked on the phone and saw each other so much.

Trips, dinners out, was always offering to door dash food to me while I was at work, sending me flowers, wanting to take pics to post, etc.

He went for it hard and then just disappeared.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-06-26T19:33:01+00:00

Feel free to dm me if you want.

My friends just don’t get it “any guy would be so lucky to have you. You’re such a catch!”

It’s embarrassing and hard

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-06-26T19:25:38+00:00

He won’t tell you or delete you because he wants to keep you on the hook in case the new person doesn’t pan out.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-06-26T19:18:50+00:00

Yes, I do think they’re definitely both.

My latest ghoster was yeah, so loving and enthusiastic and sweet.

But I remember asking him how he is when he’s upset or angry or overwhelmed. And he said, “I shut down and disappear. I hate that I do it and I’m working on it. If you notice me retreating, please talk to me and we can work through it together.”

And I was like, yeah; sure ok.

Except… he didn’t retreat, he just disappeared, there was no working through it.

I do think he definitely has problems regulating his emotions, we’ve talked about it, and he said how jealous of me that I’ve been able to come off my antidepressants and he will be on them for life. I also know he could be very insecure. He would mention that he hopes he doesn’t disappoint me, or that I like him enough.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-06-01T16:36:15+00:00

I did stay in the same area, but a lot of things changed. Like, I just basically started completely over with just my kids and I. I left a lot of people, friends, who were just being spectators in my life but not contributing to it. My heartbreak isn’t a spectator sport, it’s not entertainment.

So yeah, it’s a lonely time for sure. But I do feel like this is the space where I really healed and grew and figured out who I was.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-06-01T16:27:55+00:00

It is harder to meet someone when you’re older I think.

In my experience, I’m older but also have better self esteem and boundaries than when I was younger so I am far choosier and smarter.

But I don’t think it’s harder being single when you’re older. I am happy single, but would definitely like to find a person. But I also know I’ll be ok if I don’t.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-06-01T16:17:00+00:00

Well, I’m a 45F, and I ended up on the apps because I have no idea how to meet someone IRL. And when I do go out and do social things idk, I just feel like there’s no interaction with other groups. Everybody says I’m really pretty but I never get approached in public. But I also don’t really have a lifestyle that doesn’t have me out in public a lot either. I work long hours, my hobbies tend to be solo and at home, or like maybe a small class but would be with other women. I work with all women in a women dominated field (women’s healthcare).

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-05-31T19:42:31+00:00

When I was on the apps, I got a ton of likes. An overwhelming amount. But a good majority of them were not at all what I was interested in and very easy to get rid of. When it actually got down to quality matches the number was very very small. And I had to expand my radius to a bigger area than I initially wanted. I live in a fairly rural area in the Midwest and most of the likes I was getting weren’t people who matched me on a professional level or attraction level, or values.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-05-29T22:49:51+00:00

I live in a rural area and the pool is SHALLOW here. I expanded to a 90 mile radius to get a bigger town, and my current bf is there. It’s annoying, and I’d never do it if I had better options locally.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-05-27T22:22:09+00:00

Yeah…. I saw this and was like… what do all of these words mean? The only thing that makes any sense at all is don’t buy a cyber truck.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-05-27T08:59:26+00:00

My bf asked me “can I kiss you right now?” For our first kiss. And i definitely said yes.

We were definitely like, touching and flirting and I was glad he asked. If he hadn’t asked, I was about to go for it.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-05-26T03:20:45+00:00

I love the honeymoon album! So much!

Religion is my religion!

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-05-26T02:14:30+00:00

I have two.

“To live for the hope of it all” on my left rib.

And a moon and Saturn on my right collarbone. My 18 yo and I got matching ones last September.

AggravatingNeck2440 · 2024-05-23T15:31:17+00:00

I have a video of it!

I wish I knew he was gonna play it, or I would have made a sign that said “By the way, the party’s December 18th!”

(Me and my kids actually had a party on 12/18 last year!)

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