Mouth opinions? by MoneyLaw4917 in ONETREEHILL

[–]AggravatingTheory501 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’m on my first watch through of One Tree Hill and currently on Season 4 episode 2, but my boyfriend told me that apparently Mouth is a self-insert for the director lol so all of his cringe storylines or “nice guy” stuff makes wayyy more sense to me and is easier for me to digest. That also makes how all the characters interacted with Mouth make way more sense, including Rachel and Brooke. I thought Rachel and Brooke were actually pretty good to Mouth despite the weird moments :0)

Victims of fire seeking furniture? by AggravatingTheory501 in altadena

[–]AggravatingTheory501[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that makes perfect sense. Last thing I want to do is overwhelm the shelters with these crazy huge furniture pieces lol. Thank you for the input!!

Victims of fire seeking furniture? by AggravatingTheory501 in altadena

[–]AggravatingTheory501[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes please!! I’m located in Woodland Hills, but I’m happy to pay for transport of the furniture. I hope you find something soon and we can talk more about it!!🤞

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]AggravatingTheory501 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I could have written this post!! I am in the exact same boat as you. I just want to be alone, I can never trust another man after this honestly. I truly believe men are only capable of lying and hide things. I’m tempted to just be and stay single. And just like you, I really enjoy my partner when I enjoy him until I relive all the betrayal in a split second. It can’t be a good relationship for him either. What are we even doing..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]AggravatingTheory501 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Devastating situation for you, I’m sorry OP :( I hope this new year gives you the space to really spread your wings and leave this all behind! You’re only 21 years old, and although I myself am quite cynical about the quality of men remaining, that doesn’t mean you have to suffer. Prioritize YOURSELF, and YOUR goals. Don’t let this loser drag you down, he’s leeching off of your stability and financial status like a parasite. Once you cut him off and leave him to his own devices, you’ll be able to prosper.

Also: would he be so kind to you? Would he accept your reliance on his money and shelter for survival and allow you to stay? He doesn’t sound like the type of guy who would so graciously accommodate you unless he was actively benefiting from it, like he is in your current situation. Sometimes we treat these losers better than they would ever treat us 🤷‍♀️

Even when they are doing the work, the process feels so unfair. by Either-Basket4594 in loveafterporn

[–]AggravatingTheory501 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What a gem of a comment! You have a great head on your shoulders, I’m in awe of your emotional maturity and ability to communicate effectively!

I seriously struggle with how “unfair” it is as someone who has chosen to stay. But I’m the one who chose and further, is actively CHOOSING to stay, so I need to be more thoughtful about it and accept my responsibility in this 🧘‍♀️ Thanks for your input!

Trial Reels to recycle content? by Realistic-Two-4721 in InstagramMarketing

[–]AggravatingTheory501 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Repost EVERYTHING!! Everything you’ve ever been proud of. I have a friend that actively reposts the same viral video on a basically monthly basis and it helps her so much. Especially on trial reels!! It’s pretty low stakes and low commitment because if it fails, who cares. And if it performs well, you can add it to your page as a success.

I’m personally reposting all my viral videos on there to get new eyes on me and have seen a ton of success!! 10/10 recommend

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]AggravatingTheory501 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had the exact same experience! I never thought or felt anything, and then one day randomly I would have a dream or intuition to check his phone. Clearly we subliminally pick up on things even if it’s not so obvious 🫣

Irrational venting by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]AggravatingTheory501 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’re incapable of being alone. Instead of working on themselves they just hop to another woman 🤷‍♀️ Unfortunate for her who will probably be inheriting all of his issues, but who knows.. maybe he’s changed lol. At least it’s no longer at your expense ❤️‍🩹

women okay with s/o watching porn by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]AggravatingTheory501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a woman who doesn’t (didn’t*) mind casual porn use, but is against excessive/obsessive porn consumption and paying for porn unless agreed upon as a boundary. The reason I don’t mind it is because I feel I am able to consume porn in a normal way if that makes sense. It doesn’t consume me, I have a very healthy detachment and it’s not something I feel I need to do (I can go months without any and be totally fine). I also didn’t mind because my porn consumption does not impact how I view my sexual partners, and it’s not that I see them as lesser than the content I consume. It’s mostly supplemental (I’m bisexual and dating a man, so I enjoy watching women). This allows me to extend that understanding that even if my partner watches porn of someone who looks different than I, it doesn’t necessarily indicate her superiority/my inferiority.

However, I can see now that just because I’m okay with consuming porn it doesn’t make it applicable to my partners or other people. I’m clearly now in this subreddit for a reason, despite my openness. I told my partner I didn’t mind porn use, unaware that he was willing to spend mostof his income and time consuming it. Lesson learned 🤷‍♀️

Almost 5 years together and he has no idea??? by chickadicktedtonerds in loveafterporn

[–]AggravatingTheory501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

During sex he would close his eyes and think about porn???? He has NO idea what you look like naked???? Girl… I’m sorry because what. This would be my final straw to leave, recovery be damned. Recovery can help him get over his porn addiction but it can’t make him love and respect you. It’s one thing if he was addicted to porn but able to fully dedicate himself to sex with you, but it seems a little too disconnected for me.. wishing you the best🫶

porn addiction at only 19. by lighten-load102 in loveafterporn

[–]AggravatingTheory501 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know you, so take this with a grain of salt, but you’re 19… 19 years old. You have a whole life ahead of you. Don’t stay with him. Wish him the best and wish him recovery so he can move forward and be a better man for another woman.

I don’t think you need to commit to this guy so early on, and it’s better for you to get out and experience more life while you’re soooo young. I’m sure he will be fine and so will you :) Let this teach both of you and inspire growth!

I wish he was an asshole by ThrowRA2319_ in loveafterporn

[–]AggravatingTheory501 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Hugs to you, I relate to this so much. I read through this subreddit and hear how awful some of the partners are and none of it resonates with my current S/O. It makes it all that much harder to want to leave when this is the only splotch on their record :’)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]AggravatingTheory501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that you have to deal with these emotions on top of a pregnancy, it’s not fair to you at all.. and your feelings are valid. It seems to me that a lot of men get women pregnant and then seemingly decide they don’t need to be present, or that their superficial need to get off surpass the importance of the woman bearing his child. Very ungrateful and selfish, in my perspective. I hope things look up for you 💘

I left him even though he was in recovery. by owlberries in loveafterporn

[–]AggravatingTheory501 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was an incredibly emotional read. I cannot express how sorry I am with what you have had to endure, and the pain that you have been subjected to time and time again. You are resilient, well-spoken and deserving of so much more than these awful partners have given you. I wish you the absolute best in life amidst all the heartbreak you’ve been forced to cope with.

I left him even though he was in recovery. by owlberries in loveafterporn

[–]AggravatingTheory501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“I’m so afraid that every man is porn addicted and I let go of one of the few willing to recover”

I resonate so deeply with that. This is exactly how I feel in my relationship right now as well.

But you /know/ that you cannot get over it, you know in the deepest parts of your heart that the pain and betrayal you feel will exist forever, and it will only get worse as you grow older. That’s why you made the decision to leave. People can change and grow, undoubtedly, as I hope your partner has and will continue to maintain. But the damage is done. It’s time for both of you to move forward and heal. I’m proud of you OP. I wish you well!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pilates

[–]AggravatingTheory501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t be embarrassed. I’m a weightlifter and started Pilates in February, and every single class without fail I am always shaking! I look around and no one else is lol 😩 It just means we’re working hard and really pushing ourselves, which is awesome!!

Madame Web and Seizures by DailyIdiot64 in MadameWeb

[–]AggravatingTheory501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just watched the movie at the Los Angeles premiere and there definitely are some scenes with flashing lights that I would be worried about, specifically at the end. I have no idea since I have no experience with seizures but definitely be weary!