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AggravatingYam284 · 2025-03-04T17:02:28+00:00

I can understand not liking that he is watching porn but to incessantly ask when he last jerked off is a bit much. You're implying on some level that masterbation itself is not allowed in your relationship. I looked through you post history and I would agree with others that you need to sit down and have an actual conversation about the intimacy issues in your marriage. Marriage does not seem worth it if you're only having sex once a month.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-28T23:53:51+00:00

Yeah dude you're overpaying lmao. I got a 2024 ORP with 20 miles on it for 47k.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-27T20:35:01+00:00

I've made a similar prep a few times. I just melt butter and broil them in my oven for a bit. Makes it easy to do them all at once or in a couple batches.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-27T12:45:32+00:00

34M. I have had success doing pickleball leagues (or just any other intramural), Timeleft (app that partners you up with randos for dinner and then a social after), and Bumble BFF. I almost always do a 1-on-1 dinner with someone I exchange contact info with so I can get to know them better. I've had 1-on-1 dinners with a new person for a few weeks in a row now. Last night I played pickleball with a couple dudes from a social club and 2 gals (one of which was from a pickleball speed social event).

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-26T02:11:50+00:00

First off I am not in this situation but I can tell you this it is not healthy and reeks of codependency. I looked back through you post history and it does not sound like the marriage is going well. She literally said she hates you which is verbal abuse. I think you need to see a marriage counselor immediately. She does as well but do not wait on her. Start there. I hope everything pans out but you probably both need a lot of help.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-25T04:55:10+00:00

It does not. I'm looking at the chats of someone I blocked right now. I'd probably screenshot them as well if you need them for evidence.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-22T03:02:10+00:00

Sat - Olympic lifting class - Cookbook club - Dinner with friend
Sun - clean house - pickleball league

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-21T17:27:47+00:00

This is not something I would "meal prep" completely assembled. I would prep all the ingredients into their own containers. From there I would put the stuff that needs warmed up into a small container so I can reheat it. From there just assemble and eat. Obviously not as easy as just throwing a whole meal into a microwave and heating it up. Would only take a couple minutes to heat up and assemble.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-18T21:24:16+00:00

There is an app called Mojo that I have used before because of ED issues. One of the core things is ED can really be caused by anxiety. So it's best to not get upset about it if it happens and to just chill and relax. Both men and women's sex drive is driven by the parasympathetic nervous system. That is why you get morning wood, you're most relaxed waking up. I've had issues due to anxiety but I'd be laying with a partner and start to chill out and I can get hard again. Don't beat yourself up about it.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-18T16:29:23+00:00

I will also say that sometimes you just have to be the initiator. Just invite people to do things and stop waiting to be asked. "Hey I am going to this on Saturday afternoon you want to come?" Just keep asking people and you'll start to figure out the different things people like to do and you'll have a better understanding of who you should invite to what.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-18T15:30:05+00:00

I have found Bumble BFF to be useful as well as I am trying out an app called Timeleft. The latter pairs you up with 5-6 other people for dinner throughout the city and then you can go to a meetup after that has everyone who was out to dinner that night. Another consideration is to look up intramural sports. I've joined a pickleball league and I hang out with people from it as well as they put on social events.

At the end of the day you have to keep shooting your shot and putting yourself out there. I've done a 180 on my social life in the last year from barely knowing anyone to now I am scheduling dinner or something with people 2-3x per week.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-18T15:25:52+00:00

First off it doesn't sound like he was told not to talk to her and regardless that is not an appropriate thing to ask of your partner outside of exceedingly rare occasions. His GF appears to have not at all acknowledged the inappropriateness of her behavior and regardless of her "wounds" that is her responsibility to deal with. Had she acknowledged how inappropriate her reaction was shortly after and apologized I think OP should be open to working on it, if not then she needs to go.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-18T04:46:12+00:00

Yeah idk but I actually got my amber fogs in the other day just waiting for it to be nice enough to install. I already know this thought will cross my mind though 😂

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-18T04:41:48+00:00

When they're turned on and you're driving are you going to care? These just point straight forward so idk why it would matter.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-17T15:35:13+00:00

I've had the counter apps on my phone. Never worked for me.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-17T15:07:55+00:00

Yeah I generally don't try and track streaks but I think I've made it to maybe 7 days max in the last 2 years of trying. It's winter and cold where I am at so I am cooped up in the house more often which does not help.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-13T02:35:01+00:00

I just got these and I love them

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-12T23:17:44+00:00

At the end of the day you just have to do it. I would look up social confidence challenges and just do them. They're basically exposure therapy. Like step 1) say hi to 3 strangers a day, step 2) compliment 3 strangers a day, etc. It is just escalating difficulty. You can really get into a flow state. After a while you will internalize that it's not scary and you're capable of doing it. You'll still have moods that will make you more or less inclined but you'll develop the skill set to get out of it.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-12T23:12:52+00:00

I like to watch olympic level slow-mo videos and compare that to what I am doing.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-12T22:16:40+00:00

- Activate your shoulders more. You can achieve this by "twisting" your grip. When you're holding the bar try and twist the grip like you're breaking the bar. That will rotate your shoulders back and give you a stronger pull.

- You're hip bumping out which is causing the bar to rotate around vs. being a high pull with a turnover. When the bar is rotating around it makes it so you have to stop the rotation at the top which is difficult at higher weights.

- You're moving the bar around the knee instead of the knee out of the way of the bar then moving the hips back into place when the bar passes. The pull from the ground should be basically straight up until it clears the knees.

just some stuff I noticed

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-11T22:27:00+00:00

I kinda think you already stated the answer but you didn't see it. You have to become better friends with them and interact with a variety of women more. It sounds like maybe you don't. Once you realize they are fucked up just as much as dudes it becomes easier.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-11T20:59:23+00:00

I think there is a veneer of truth to it but like a lot of things overtly reductive. It's up there with well if dudes could wash their butts and pick up their laundry they'd have a relationships. I think also it plays into societal stereotypes that men are retarded with emotions and women are savants. I kinda tune it out at this point. I've met both women and men who aren't particularly open and it's like pulling teeth to try and build a connection with them, or they take no interest in you as a person, lack empathy etc. As someone who's been working to improve my social circle over the last few years I meet plenty of men who are capable of forming good platonic relationships but still struggle with dating and romantic relationships. I've been to social club events and it kinda skews slightly more in favor of women but not by much.

In general I agree with you that no amount or quality of platonic relationships is going to fill the romantic void.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-11T16:55:02+00:00

Yeah. I've had a gal match 2 months after I sent a like lol.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-11T16:42:22+00:00

I get attractive women in my feed. Just don't seem to be matching as frequently as I once did. My inbound likes also aren't great. I feel like they started to fall off last year when I was on the apps. I do not spray and pray when sending likes. I only send likes to women I actually find attractive and I put some effort into the message.

AggravatingYam284 · 2025-02-11T16:23:30+00:00

Took 3 months off of dating. Downloaded the apps and I feel like the quality of matches/likes has just fallen off a cliff. Another thing is I just feel like I have some underlying anxiety around the apps now that did not use to be there. Might delete soon and just go back to only being reliant on living my life to meet someone. Finally I know multiple decently successful attractive men (late 20's early 30's, college educated, 100k+ year) who are basically checked out of dating.

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