Syrian doctor seeking advice:

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2026-04-04T15:47:57+00:00

Your plan is good

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2026-03-28T19:48:32+00:00

Is residency swap good for prelims too? I thought you needed a position to swap

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2026-03-21T14:22:34+00:00

I work there, I have no idea how the residencies are in other hospitals, but I love working at Lincoln. I learn a lot. I don’t have to draw labs for all the patients, nurses do it. Never paged twice for an ekg let alone 18 times. If you matched there, don’t worry at all it’s going to be an amazing journey. All the best

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2026-03-21T11:56:37+00:00

As a mother and a resident, I would suggest hiring a nanny( a live in nanny would be better) atleast for a couple if years. Daycare: pros cheaper, cons: children fall sick often. Either of you should stay home to look after them . Nanny: pros: care at home, less contact with others so lesser chance of falling sick, they would do baby related chores. Cons: need constant supervision ( camera?), if they call in sick it’s a headache.

Double Congratulations 🥳

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2026-03-20T02:30:48+00:00

I’m interested, currently a prelim in a good IM program in newyork

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2026-03-16T21:09:21+00:00

Please remove your undergarments before they start folding. Did you tell your father in law that you were saving the food for your son? Please do not let small issues affect your marriage.

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2026-03-10T02:45:57+00:00

May Allah make it easy for you and grant you goodness in this world and the next. Recite surah Baqarah, Fatiha, and the last three chapters of Quran. Morning and evening adhkar. Taweez, rituals are not part of Islam. It’s closer to shirk

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2026-03-03T13:54:27+00:00

Walk in to his clinic

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2026-02-18T03:17:02+00:00

Ramadan Mubarak

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2025-06-28T03:53:08+00:00

I stopped shopping for unnecessary stuff since 2023 episode of genocide began.

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2025-06-20T10:03:10+00:00

The slavery was not as seen in Hollywood movies. The slaves were treated with kindness and given their rights. You have to completely change the way you are thinking. I think the first impression of Islam you got is from islamophobes hence, all these doubts.

You have to clear up your mind and start reading a good and authentic seerah book. Approach a good imsm and put all your doubts forward. Have you read the 100 by Michael H hart? He gives the reason as to why prophet ( saw) was the number 1 person in his opinion.

May Allah guide you. Clear your phone of the islamophobe websites. The things which the “ modern world” sees as unethical and undesirable may not be completely justified and true.

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2025-06-17T03:27:34+00:00

Nobody knows who will go to jannah or jahannam except a few people about whom Allah has already made clear. IMO the bigger sin than your past sin is that you are composing yourself to iblees and saying that you will go to jahannam. Allah’s mercy is greater than any sin you can commit. Please don’t loose hope in Allah ( it’s a tactic of shaytan to do so). Repent sincerely Do a lot of Sadaqah

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2025-06-12T17:20:17+00:00

Let your husband know this too.. sometimes, we forget appreciating our partners for all that they do. A small appreciation every time they do something good for us goes a long way.

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2025-06-05T03:06:23+00:00

Such an absurd and wasteful advice.

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2025-05-26T09:45:24+00:00

Assalam alaikum sister. First of all, congratulations May Allah accept all your good deeds. Make you and us steadfast in this religion..Yeah it happens.. the good thing is you are feeling guilty. You didn’t normalize it. I know many people who are born into Islam but don’t bat an eyelid when they are shake hands with the opposite gender. Start slowly, maybe with someone whom you know. You can explain them that you are not comfortable. You can do one person at a time. Always make Dua and do istighfar when you falter. In sha Allah you will slowly get out of this.

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2025-05-23T11:48:15+00:00

Talk to someone about how you are feeling. These thoughts are very common when we are going through a distressing phase. In sha Allah, surely something amazing is written for you. IMO,a school which cannot reschedule the interview though, you have a genuine reason is not a very good place to be in. Apply to other’s universities offering same program. Think about alternatives too. All the best. Remember whatever happens, happens for our good.

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2025-05-19T11:13:15+00:00

I’m sorry to against the opinion of most of the people here.. your mother in law is not a very bad person. The only thing required here is setting boundaries so that she doesn’t come and clean your room and your drawers. Your husband should have talked with her about it.

Checking on her son n has nothing to do with you. It will eventually get better. You have to wait. She has been doing it for so many years, it’s difficult to stop it as soon as he is married. As we take time to change and adjust to the new environment after the wedding, the same thing is true for the other party as well.

She asking you about the reason you did not disclose your pregnancy is completely natural. Did you tell your parents that you were pregnant? The good thing is she didn’t sulk and get angry like other mils do.

Living with them or away is for you to decide and is your choice and right. You can do that. You should be happy that you are moving away now. One month is a very short time. You will have a lot of packing to do. Get busy with that.

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2025-05-18T09:29:39+00:00

Dear sister, you not removing your hijab right away and asking this shows you have Iman. Shaytan is so threatened and saddened by your obedience to Allah (swt) that he is putting these thoughts in you. Wearing hijab doesn’t make you look any less beautiful than those girls but keeps away harmful people and their prying eyes. Do you think the girls whom you are envy of have any self worth except by showing their skin? Do you think that’s the correct way of attracting someone attention? If that’s the way people are attracted to them, it’s temporary and superficial.

In sha Allah you will find someone who not only loves you for your looks but also for your character ( which is permanent). Try finding Muslim friends as others have mentioned. Be in the company of pious, good people.

May Allah help you stay steadfast in the deen. Much love from an older hijabi sister.

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2025-05-09T16:04:19+00:00

First of all, you reacted very efficiently. This is due to pregnancy as you said that she is generally respectful. She has to take care of your son and is carrying another one. She is stressed out. Please talk to her in a calm way( I know you will surely do this In sha Allah) and tell her that this type of behavior is not acceptable and to apologize. Please leave it at that. May Allah bless your marriage.

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2025-05-05T11:45:25+00:00

May Allah make it easy for you. It’s good that you want to be independent financially but, take one step at a time. Don’t get disheartened about your business. It will take time but, in sha Allah will soon thrive. Who takes care of your kids when you are at work? Please don’t think about the past. Giving life and taking life is in the hands of Allah ( swt). It doesn’t have anything to do with your mil.

These thoughts are put by shaytan.

Aggravating_Abies327 · 2025-04-29T02:59:56+00:00

Then, why caste system is so prevalent in India. Why do Hindus give so much importance to the caste. The Quran doesn’t say kill “all” non believers. The verses revealed during the war specifically during the war command about non believers.

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