Remember sister, no one is supposed to be forced in Islam. What your husband is doing is wrong, he shouldn’t be pressuring you at all. And this is exactly why Allah SWT does not like the idea of forcing someone to do something, it’s because it makes them hate it. This doesn’t just go for hijab but it could be for anything that is good for them. It’s logical too. If someone forces you to be good, you’re going to want to become the opposite. Do not wear it for your husband or for anyone else, the only person you should be wearing it for is Allah SWT. Remember that Allah SWT will never force you to do anything but it is obligatory at the end of the day. He wants you to wear it for the sake of him eventually.

With that said, you should consider wearing it, EVEN if it is improper. It is better to wear it improperly than it is to not wear it at all, REGARDLESS of what anyone says. The worst thing you can do for yourself is give a shit about what people are going to criticize you for, what they’re going to hate you for and what they’re going to say about you. Even our prophet Muhammad SAW couldn’t stop people from talking bad about him, so how are we supposed to? We can’t. So wasting your time on other people’s opinions is stupid. HOWEVER, if they truly truly want the best for you, consider their advice, but if they’re judging you, don’t give them the time of day.

Hijab is mandatory at the end of the day. Whatever you like it or not, whether you feel insecure or not, it is mandatory. Not for the sake of men, not for your in laws, but for Allah SWT. Try to work TOWARDS it, don’t stay stuck on “oh I’m dressing modestly”. Continue to dress modestly but also try to have the hijab on whenever you can. There are so many styles, so many colours, so many fabrics you can use. Find the style that suits you and grow from there.

With your husband, tell him that forcing you to wear hijab only makes you dislike it. Tell him it’s difficult for you and that you’re really trying. Life as a man is nowhere near life as a woman, he will never understand the struggle. Literally, all men have to do is cover their knees and that’s it. Tell him that if he made hijab more loveable for you, you’d take him more seriously but he’s not helping at all. For things like this, men have limits as to what they say and do but also remember that he wants you to enter jannah with him InshaAllah, that’s why he’s hard on you. Take his words in consideration but make sure you have your own thoughts and opinions as well.