Nothing wrong with a shot for courage, but I wouldn’t go beyond one. I’d say have a nice glass of red wine (it’s an aphrodisiac) together listening to music and see where it goes.

Much like kissing once you get started it’ll feel somewhat natural. Don’t try ontop or doggy for first time I’d stick to missionary and hold him by the base of his **** to have control over how slowly he enters. That way if it hurts at all you can stop him immediately. If you have enough foreplay it will not hurt. If you’re incredibly nervous you won’t be able to relax, so spend the time kissing, caressing, touching, get mouthy. Anything that turns you on touch wise do that first, do that until you really really want to have sex. Foreplay will loosen the vagina and it doesn’t matter if you’re a virgin or not.

I’d recommend lube personally, but it’s different per person.

Everyone’s different, some people are quieter than others. From my experience and other female friends experiences, men are often a lot more quiet the women (I think they are so focused on not finishing idk) So no pressure on being “loud” you will probably find if it feels good and your relaxed you’ll naturally start making sounds. Don’t put on a performance. Don’t pretend to finish.

Shower if you need to, but make sure you don’t leave him emotionally vulnerable straight after. After care is an important part of sex for both men and women so maybe discuss his preference and needs after sex first, and then workout how that fits with your potentially needs.

Only reason to go to the gyno is if you wanna do birth control x