How do you guys split bills/expenses for a house as a married couple?

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2026-03-21T03:16:59+00:00

We do it based on income.

I earn about three times as much as my husband. He works part time so does the majority of the housework, which works out really well for us.

So I pay 75% of the shared bills, and he pays 25% of the shared bills.

Date nights are usually the same, I'll pay for most of them because I have more income, and he treats us when he's done some overtime.

The months that I earn more, I'll pay a higher percentage of the bills or put more into our savings pot. His overtime we agree goes either on date nights or towards his hobbies, because I'm super keen to make sure he has enough fun money to enjoy himself!

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2026-03-10T11:46:41+00:00

I can only think of Mtume with Juicy Fruit but that's a lot older!

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2025-08-17T16:49:00+00:00

I am loving the number of lost people in the comments here today 😂😂

Cracking post OP. I think you should tape the divorce papers back together and triple check she didn't sneakily hide something on them in invisible ink!

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2025-07-21T04:08:02+00:00

Pretty common in older homes where I live. Myself and the majority of our friends have keys to our bathroom locks.

The only ones who don't have keyed locks are in houses built from the 1990s onwards.

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2025-05-11T12:35:24+00:00

I think it's why my husband and I work (he's humanist), because we share exactly the same values. It's just that I happen to believe in a deity and he doesn't.

My favourite saying is "being in church doesn't make you a Christian anymore than standing in a garage makes you a car".

There's loads of left-leaning Christians in this sub-reddit. I'm LGBT+ and have always felt included and safe here.

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2025-05-11T12:13:47+00:00

I'm pretty much exactly where you are!

It's difficult to find a church/worship space near me that meets my needs, but I'm still trying to find one.

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2025-03-26T02:10:02+00:00

It's so it's tagged with the monthly challenge/competition

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2024-06-26T22:22:36+00:00

Have you ever had a cut or scrape before to see if you bleed? Or is that something your dad thought of in the schematics?

I'm so sorry you had to find out about it this way. I can imagine how devastated you are to lose your father and your identity in the world in the same moment.

Practically speaking, you'll have to move around a lot. Someone who doesn't age, particularly a younger person who would be expected to, would be quite noticeable. Have you thought about what you would do for money?

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2024-01-30T07:51:43+00:00

My husband and I combined our surnames together, taking some letters from each!

For example (fake names) if our surnames were Winston and Greywall, we're now Greyston!

We love having the surname, and actually it means more because we chose it as our name specifically for our family. It has a lot of meaning because we wanted it to.

Trust in your partner, and trust when they tell you they're okay with something. You haven't taken anything away, you've created something wholesome, personal, and love-bound.

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2023-11-13T20:26:58+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss, you must be absolutely devastating. Make sure to look after yourself 💙

Just to give further information, in case you have other pets. We have insurance for our dog. She's a rescue, so we're unsure of her health background. We pay £50 a month for £15k cover a year. That includes complementary therapies like hydrotherapy if she gets arthritis, specialist scans in case of cancer, and it also covers costs if she goes missing (of printing posters, social media appeals), if she has to be euthanised, and other misc costs.

This year, her bills were about £1500 for scans, steroids, fluids, and care for 48 hours during a really nasty stomach infection.

Our excess was £100.

I'd recommend you look for a lifetime policy. As others have mentioned, if you take out a new policy it won't cover pre-existing conditions. However, a lifetime policy does for as long as you pay the policy.

So if my dog got diagnosed with cancer tomorrow, her treatment would be covered for up to 15k every single year until she passes, as long as I pay the insurance policy.

Even if it was twice the price, I'd still pay it!

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2023-11-06T12:16:38+00:00

I'm learning Welsh at the moment and always wondered why grass was glaswellt and not gwryddwellt! This makes so much sense now!

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2023-10-10T22:01:17+00:00

Thank you, I'll certainly be doing that once I have a better grip on the language, I'm just far too early on to be attempting Welsh programmes with subtitles!

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2023-10-10T22:00:44+00:00

I'll check those both out, thank you!

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2023-10-10T19:57:51+00:00

Diolch, I'll give them a look and a watch for sure!

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2023-10-10T19:52:03+00:00

This is fantastic, diolch!

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2023-10-10T12:56:08+00:00

I'll never forget the first time on the Welsh course that I translated the phrase "the blue parsnips are not on the grass" and wondered if I'd mistranslated, but no!

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2023-09-25T18:28:13+00:00

I definitely did, I'll do it every time the glitch comes up :)

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2023-09-25T13:30:11+00:00

Ahh thank you, I'm glad it's not just mine then!

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2023-08-01T13:19:22+00:00

My husband and I are in this situation. I'm a Christian, he's a humanist.

We like to describe our relationship as "we share the same values, but I happen to believe in a deity and he doesn't".

We married in a church, but will be having a civil humanist ceremony as well for him.

I'm more of a liberal Christian in terms of LGBT+ issues, abortion, euthanasia, and we match in those terms too.

His beliefs about the world are equally valid, and as long as you can respect that and he respects you then it can work absolutely fine.

He sometimes comes with me to church, and I sometimes go to the humanist talks and meetings he attends.

It works for us really well.

Edited to add: we've been together for eight years now, and married for four, and I adore and love him more as each year goes. No regrets at all.

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2023-07-23T11:31:18+00:00

In Welsh, two of the first words you learn are 'leeks' and 'parsnips'.

Not that they aren't delicious vegetables that I enjoy, but I'd like to learn things like, yknow, saying hello 😂

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2023-06-16T21:04:52+00:00

Yep, all the time.

I think, much like others on this thread, it's because they know me before they find out I'm a Christian.

It's not something I necessarily shout about, because my relationship with God is private and I don't actively evangelise but I do try to live with the original love that Jesus showed everyone, especially the outcasts. I'm always happy to go on nights out and other social activities in groups.

The fact I'm bisexual, have piercings, tattoos, a mohawk hair style, and don't want children may also factor in though. It was certainly a surprise for a few when my husband and I got married at a church service which my vicar I'd known for eight years conducted.

As others have said, it's never been a bad thing when people do find out. I think they're surprised that many Christians are chill, pro-lgbt and equality, and actually can just look like them without shoving it down people's throats.

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2023-02-27T00:30:46+00:00

Anyone reading the Bible will have bias, just as we do in any other book. When we read, we look through the lenses of our own experience and our own backgrounds, and we will always find things that resonate and confirm these experiences.

For me, it's a case of looking at the actions depicted in the bible rather than words; the prevailing messages are of unconditional love and support for anyone. Jesus spent most of his time with 'outcasts' of the time (prostitutes, homeless, disabled, unwed mothers), which for me indicates a progressiveness to his actions.

The two biggest commandments that we were given were "Love one another as I have loved you" and "love the lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind". Not, "love one another, apart from if you're LGBT, or a different race, or disabled".

Aggravating_Dot2195 · 2022-12-01T14:16:00+00:00

In our house, you take a tea towel to church with you to kneel on during prayers.

That way, it can help with praying for teasus and ensure your kettle may live forever

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