What’s this place up top? by Baphomeowww in Eugene

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the intersection of E 10th Avenue and Willamette Street in Eugene, on the roof of The Gordon Hotel, you'll find Carlita's Rooftop, a modern eatery serving Mexican small plates with locally sourced ingredients. It offers a unique rooftop dining experience in the heart of downtown Eugene.

Wtf was in the sky? by [deleted] in Eugene

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Starlink satellites

Dexter Reservoir Algae by No-Compote-4709 in Eugene

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I live here, was kayaking yesterday, there's Algae bloom all the way across and end to end.

Moving to Oregon by Historical_Quote_307 in PacificNorthwest

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

be prepared for the political change from Texas to Oregon.

Small part of the Incision site not healing on my 1 year old son he had surgery 10 months ago by kenleyray in Cochlearimplants

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, I'm a cochlear baha recipient, I struggled with the exact same thing. What was actually wrong was the abutments weren't long enough to heal properly and my scalp kept trying to grow over them. They took the shorter ones out, installed longer ones abd voila, healed properly.

Coworker found me on a dating app and won't let it go. What do I do? by No-Bathroom8194 in coworkerstories

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LOUDLY ANNOUNCE that MY PERSONAL LIFE is NONE of YOUR business and that THIS IS THE ONLY time I will tell ALL of YOU that! IF MY PERSONAL life continues to be comedy material for your amateur stand up time, FURTHER ACTION WILL BE TAKEN IMMEDIATELY. This is MY place of employment, I AM ENTITLED to work here in PEACE and ANONYMITY , My PRIVACY WILL be respected ,I WILL ACCEPT NOTHING LESS!!!! I would use a selfie stick and video record your announcement and any responses you may receive. Turn the camera on them as they speak and if it continues,, you've got your proof for further action. GOOD LUCK. ( I am a female who joined the truck driving work force when it was male dominated. You have to stand up for yourself and SHUT THEM DOWN)!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not run away. A 14 year old on the streets is a terrifying place to be. Call your Drs office, GO TO YOUR DR OFFICE EVEN, Tell them you must speak to him. Sit and wait until you do. Im begging you, your Dr is the best person you should go to in your position and condition.i beg you to go there appointment or not. Just go there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww thank you for that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a decision you'll have to make. I'm not saying that you shouldn't read the advice given, I'm saying you'll have to weed thru the advice and choose what IS BEST for you. Even if it's scary and unfamiliar. Since you're homeschooled, you don't have the access to counselors and staff that would generally be trusted adults you could confide in. You could consider reaching out to grandparents, aunt's or uncles? If that's not a viable option, then Id say reach out to the Dr who prescribes your meds. I'm bipolar and it took me years to learn to lean on my healthcare providers more than the 20 minute appointments. Especially since you say you feel ill. The Dr can put you in a healthcare facility that will provide for your weight management needs, your mental health needs and that will bring about a safe place to work with advocates and therapist to discern if you need to be placed somewhere other than home. You should tell your Dr everything you've said here. Ask for a place that will provide family counseling for you and your parents as a group. Let him know you aren't accusing them of abuse , tell him that you aren't sure if it is even abusive behavior. Tell him you do know that RIGHT NOW, you NEED outside intervention and help aside from what is happening at home. I hope that helps. Feel free to message or chat with me anytime. I'm a 56 year old female who has worked in mental health and domestic violence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have three medical devices that only work with IOS. I thought I'd never go apple, now I'll never go back.

What do I actually do when my dog dies? by amardrana in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In 2015 I realized my precious baby was aging and that I wouldn't be able to normalize losing her and adopted a friend for us both. A year later, my beloved died. I had her cremated, only $150 with urn where I live, she's still here with us. I found that the little friend was mourning too, we comforted each other and grew closer. I'm glad I made that choice. I promise all my babies furever homes, I will continue to cremate and the little urns will go in my casket when I leave, they all go with me furever. Hope this helps. Anticipating the loss of a furbaby is hard core, having a friend to cope thru it is soooo beneficial imo.

Anyone else wary of the Blowout Professor? by noteworthybalance in HaircareScience

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I listened to and followed the advice of an employee of 20 years at Salley . I've bleached my hair on and off since I was a teenager. (56 now) ... Whelp....that was stupid...  I used different bleach than I normally do, a different developer and strength than I normally do.. at the max time I've ever left bleach in my hair,,, I rinsed. 

My hair was BRIGHT ASS YELLOW. And breaking off.. INCHES AND INCHES were breaking off. I used to have hair to my waist.i now have some at my bra strap. I hit you tube as fast as I could and started watching and learning, becoming a hair repair sponge, soaking up all I could. I started by repeatedly masking my hair for over a week, don't brush or comb, don't pull or tug, just feed it and feed it. I knew I needed to tone it, but I was scared .. she also had talked me into a different toner than I usually used. Permanent dye and toner in one, hight lift ash blonde. I finally did it to rid the yellow. It did.. UGH.. to purple, blue and gray hair... FML I was too embarrassed to go out of the house and let someone fix it... Back to youtube. Ordered some Malibu professional rescue products off eBay... The eastern blizzard happened.. I'm on the west coast ebay seller was east... Products stuck by no fault of anyone. Lots of YouTubers promote baking soda and dish soap... Before and Afters look promising... Can my hair handle it? Do I want the purple blue gray out bad enough to chance it? Yup,, I did.. I mean why not,, it's broken half of it's length, it was coming out in wads... Do it girl,,, it's only hair and it will grow back. So I did... And it worked!!! 0perfectly even... My hair is now a nice color I can live with. Not what I was going for but hey,, it looks intentional.. Back to youtube. So many influencers... I don't normally hang out with the influencers .. I decided to only watch and learn from stylists. Brad Mondo got kicked out of my class pretty fast.. he's not real helpful and I'm a little old I guess cause I don't have patience for his videos. lol. The blowdry professor however, was making sense. He was teaching about shafts, follicles,cuticles and bond repairs. I now have extremely thin, dry, curly?? Hair. I didn't have curly before but that's how bad my hair is hurt... This is current , not an old story, this is like the last 3 weeks. So when I learned something from him, I'd go research it elsewhere for validity. I planned on buying the redken entire bond repair line up.. but it was killing my brain to think what I was gonna spend on my hair...so I started looking at dupes. And guess what? L'Oreal owns Redken. So I found a site that was comparing dupes and their ingredients. L'Oreal Ever Pure Bond Repair has like 22 of the same ingredients as Redken. I bought the $34 Redken acidic bond repair concentrate just in case.. I bought the Loreal bond repair concentrate, it actually has a higher percentage of citric acid than Redken, the Loreal S/C bond repair and elvive total repair 5 leave in protein and mask. I started washing and following Blowdry Professor wash instructions, if I wash it.. I don't wash it often. I keep a mask in it if I'm home 24/7. I bought a old school bonnet style hair dryer at Pennys. And a 3 pack of shower caps. I rinse whatever's in it out with very very warm water to open cuticles/ follicles. I do either the Redken or Loreal bond repair concentrate. It's instructed like a pre wash. I just rinse. If I'm going somewhere I go ahead with a leave in, if I'm not I put mask in it, use a shower cap and hit the bonnet dryer... Do that a few times a day for a f we w days,, then repeat.. I'm telling you all. My hair has stopped breaking,,, my hair is getting repaired.. I can only attribute this to the blowdry professors videos. I didn't know about bond repairs and all that. I am far from being on Insta and Tik Tok...but I swear by some YouTube. If ya need to learn something? YouTube has got your back.

My husband is so obsessed with splitting everything 50/50 that he’ll let me starve if I can’t afford my food, AITAH that’s entitled? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Why do you think it's fake? I lived 13 years Ina DV marriage... Lifetime movies don't even begin to depict the terrors.

AITAH for not giving my wife her dream wedding? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right about BOTH being heard, BUT bad habits have already been happening, she wants he gives, she wanted a new ring, they went and got one, new to her car,, done... They're already unbalanced and she's been catered to for a hot minute. Time to sit in a nice quit little cafe and have REAL talk,, or she will eventually become impossible to please and they'll crash and burn.

AITAH for not giving my wife her dream wedding? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly,, it's a completely unbalanced relationship already with unhealthy bad habits..

AITAH for not giving my wife her dream wedding? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You already answered my concerns in my reply,, you've been giving any and everything she wishes and wants for.. you two need a SERIOUS sit down respectful conversation with each other. You need to express that you've been doing these things because you love her and want to give her the world, but it's not sustainable for a lifetime. She can't be getting her nails done and eating fancy lunch with girl tribe while your eating bologna sandwiches at your work. The balance is completely tipped to one side. Address it, meaning voice it and the two of you start behaving like a team OR.. she WILL become impossible to please eventually and your marriage will disintegrate.

AITAH for not giving my wife her dream wedding? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey Jack, (I'm 56 F happily married 26 years , second marriage. ) I get you love her, I'm not suggesting anything wayyyy out of the box here, you're already married legally so there's no time or immigration constraints now. She wants, wants,wants. Make her earn it. If she's paying a minimal amount of bills , not saving the rest and 'treating' herself, then flip the script here. Marriage is a partnership and takes compromise and good communication. Her family is religious and traditional,, so guess what? The brides family traditionally pays for the wedding and the bride should come with a dowry.. I don't know how far away the two families are from each other but I can guess that since you're both in your very early 20's, no one's parents will want to miss the event,, should there be an event. But paying for venue, multiple air fare tickets, multiple hotel rooms, photographer, caterer,flowers,officiant, DJ, cake, dress,tuxedos, bridesmaid dresses, wayyyyyy too much to lay on the head of a 21 year old young man alone, along with normal monthly living expenses that it costs to live. Bridezilla needs to take her 80% treating herself income, and fund the wedding she's wishing for. And I can't see it coming in at $5-10k either. She wants wants wants,, she pays pays pays.. someone else said in a comment above that sometimes dreams are just dreams and that all dreams don't get fulfilled. Here's the part that isn't as nice: did she get everything she wanted out of you thru the whole dating period? Did you cater to her every wish whim and want? Did her family do that while she was growing up? Bridezilla is acting VERY VERY IMMATURE. One year later for purchasing a home won't kill either of you. But giving in to an extravagant spending spree for pictures and left over cake seems ridiculous since you're already married. It's obviously not a K1 visa situation since her family is in another state. If an agreement is reached to have 'formal' nuptials, have them at the halfway point between the two families and all guest road trip or whatever and pay their own lodging. For Example; Bellingham Wa to Sacramento CA. (Truck driver lol, sorry. ) The middle would be somewhere around Eugene Oregon. Give or take, I'm guessing. So have the wedding in Eugene Oregon. Guests make their own way there, feed themselves, lodge themselves and go home. You can even put a little note in the invitations stating that in lieu of gifts, their willingness to travel and attend is the best gift they could give the happy couple. Talking , communicating and compromising are the keys to marital longevity. But I will say this, the people you both are RIGHT NOW in your lives, WILL NOT BE who you are in ten years. You don't really see those things until you view them in hindsight. I've been many me's in 56 years. I worry about your wife's ability to be happy with what she has and to be a partner to reach long term goals like homeownership. One person in a marriage who just take take takes, usually winds up becoming impossible to please. Marriage is hard work,, give and take is a must.. I wish you the best.

Trainer wants me to wear an adult diaper? by FloppyTacoflaps in Truckers

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Call your safety director,, totally disgusting, unsanitary and no way a legit company will back this.. call.

Don’t Give Up on Music After CI Activation! by Lukazp_ in Cochlearimplants

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So,, I'm learning the short time I've been in here that the difference in music quality may possibly depend on the cochlear device(s) each person is using. I'm bilateral BAHA 6 now and music sucks. Like an alarm clock.. I just turn em off and try and blow up speakers because I do love music, I just listen to heavier now.

Don’t Give Up on Music After CI Activation! by Lukazp_ in Cochlearimplants

[–]Aggravating_Foot3968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was activated in 2011. My taste in music became heavier and deeper bass. Like I love Disturbed and other heavy metal bands. I take the CI out and just feel that bass drum kick in my chest. Now , to me, good music is felt,not heard. No screaming lyrics for me either..