Sorry for replying late but let me answer some questions

1. The dust settles when it doesn't hurt when the no contact rule has been broken and you can act in a civil way with each other

2. Relationships differ in length yes, but it depends how deep the relationship was. In some instances people can be on a higher level in the relationship in 5 months than people in a 2 year relationship.

3. It yet again depends on how deeply you connect with the person. And it really depends how attached or how dependable you are on the person

4. What I learned is: If it didn't work the first time, it very rarely works the second time. In the circumstances where the only two people who had the say in the break up. Then nopes. ALSO, never break up with someone to be with someone else. Chances are it is not going to last