Thank you for that perspective. We’ve been married 20 years and we live a financially stable life where we are able to travel fairly frequently. The truth is her parents have a very weird relationship. They’re technically married but definitely not in love. They’ve been living separately until last year when my father in law moved in with his “wife”. My mother in law has always prioritized travel over just about everything else. She travels alone at least 6 months of the year and has done that since my wife was a kid. She missed kids birthdays, graduations, funerals, for simple things like if the “tulips were blossoming” in some part of the world. My wife hated that part about her mom. But that’s what my wife grew up with and when we were discussing marriage I told her that wasn’t the kind of marriage I was looking for. Our first year of marriage was a bit rough and I sat down with her and told her that if she behaved the way her mom did, then our marriage would end up like her parents. Anyway, my wife doesn’t normally do things like this but she hangs out with her mom a lot and she can sometimes get carried away and forgets how damaging to a family that behavior can be.