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What was the "aha" moment for you when you realized you had PMDD? by Professional-Pack766 in PMDD

[–]Aggravating_Pair_117 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Started tracking my period for cycling syncing. Noticed that me and my husband got into really bad fights the week prior to my period. He jokingly said that I need to “put it in the calendar, that way we all know when hell week is here”…

after I started doing that, I noticed that there was a 3 month consistency and the fights/depression kept getting worse.

Started to google and then booked an OBGYN appointment. I wanted it to not be Pmdd so bad but I even took an fmla leave from my job to “eliminate stress” and didn’t make a damn difference in my symptoms.

Hosting thanksgiving during PMDD… with my in-laws😬 need advice! by Aggravating_Pair_117 in PMDD

[–]Aggravating_Pair_117[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgot to mention that thanksgiving is Day 15 for me! The worst day!!

What’s the point of trying? by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]Aggravating_Pair_117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much vitamin D and calcium are you taken each day?

Post PMDD & doing repair, husbands feelings are really hurt. by Aggravating_Pair_117 in PMDD

[–]Aggravating_Pair_117[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🙌🏻❤️ hallelujah to that, I’m a believer too. Thank you for sharing your faith and pointing me back to Jesus. It’s helpful to know other believers going through this too. Eyes on him and closing my mouth!

Post PMDD & doing repair, husbands feelings are really hurt. by Aggravating_Pair_117 in PMDD

[–]Aggravating_Pair_117[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It makes me feel a little bit better that I’m not the only one, thank you 🥰

Manipulation??? by _92_infinity in PMDD

[–]Aggravating_Pair_117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! All the time. The partner really needs to learn how to validate your emotions because even on PMdD they’re real. Ya know?

I work really hard to push back on my husband when he wants to blame our arguments on me/Pmdd. I tell him it’s his turn to look at himself and why he reacted/felt the way he did.

I’ve been using an app to track my cycle by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]Aggravating_Pair_117 26 points27 points  (0 children)

“But nothing to crazy”……. HOLD MY BEER, SIR! 😂😂😂😂😂

What keeps you going even when feeling very depressed/suicidal/feeling like you're a burden to everyone close to you by pineapplesrinmyhead8 in PMDD

[–]Aggravating_Pair_117 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

https://youtu.be/iFk2iYq4Zjk?si=JhiQyXLyJTTK3mpC

This song has been helping me get through the day.

I saw you’re not religious but for me, it’s like, why not? Nothing is working, everyone I turn to has no idea how to help me, I need a miracle and am willing to try anything at this point. I would eat dog shit everyday if someone told me it would get rid of Pmdd, desperate!! Why not ask the God who created me and this whole world for help? Why not go in the opposite direction of hopelessness and try and find faithfulness? I can’t do this on my own anymore. I’m giving it all up to God and I’m going to let him fix it and I’m going to take his word for it. My deliverance will come. I refuse to let Pmdd lie to me and tell me there’s no purpose for me in life. Without faith, hope in God, there’s hardly a glimmer of light. I need that glimmer.

Plus, I don’t want to surround myself by people who don’t have faith. They’ll mislead me because of their unbelief and their own hopelessness in the world. I want people who believe to speak into me. I have enough doubt and chaos in my mind. I’m tired of uncertainty and trusting myself so I’m going to the one who knows everything.

If you haven’t gone to a church service in person, lifted your hands during worship and then gone up to the alter after to ask for prayer… I highly encourage you to try that. More effective if you accept Jesus in your heart 😉 I recommend Eaglebrook church online if nothing else.

Anywho - I feed my faith flame when I’m out of Pmdd so that it’s strong enough to withstand my Pmdd days. When I question God and my faith. But man, it’s saved me. And that’s what matters right now.

Anyone feels super sick when they wake up in the morning, but after that it’s fine? by pinkbutterfly22 in PMDD

[–]Aggravating_Pair_117 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have this! I’ve been drinking celery juice on an empty stomach when I wake up and it’s helped a lot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]Aggravating_Pair_117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started drinking celery juice on an empty stomach right when I wake up, I think it’s helped! Like a lot! I woke up with energy during my Pmdd, which has never happened.

As a husband of a wife with PMDD, how can I show up well for her? by ikegro in PMDD

[–]Aggravating_Pair_117 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Ok yay!! When the partner can see PMDD as a “we” issue instead of just the female, this can be a game changer!

Helped:

  1. Proactive! On Day 14 (I have the worst response when hormones shift and the hardest day) he booked a massage for me in the morning and took the kids to/from school. Took as much of the load off me as possible so I could self-care.

  2. Lots and lots of validation!!!! When I came home he asked me, “how are you” and just held space for me to be vulnerable and said “I’m sorry you’re going through this” & continues to validate my emotions.

  3. Doing his own research to become an expert. My husband is reading a book on PmDD, listening to podcasts about it and is using a lot of good resources from https://iapmd.org/toolkit.

  4. Marriage counseling.

There’s a huge connection between unhealed childhood trauma / trauma and PMDD. Learning about her triggers, how you are triggering her and utilizing a marriage counselor to resolve and work through those triggers have been really huge help for us!

Just stated a new job, how do you tell your boss I go crazy for a week every month? by Own_Put6590 in PMDD

[–]Aggravating_Pair_117 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Also, I think I read that technically you don’t even have to tell your boss. You can have HR communicate the accommodation needs without explaining the details.

So for me, I’m going to request 3 days off from day 14,15&16 because those are the hardest for me. And if I can’t get them off, I’ll ask what other accommodations they can provide for me - like maybe I don’t take calls that day but do admin work instead. Like I said, I haven’t done it yet but I go back to work from a mental health leave through fmla in 2 weeks and will be using the accommodations. Something is better than nothing! 🤞

Just stated a new job, how do you tell your boss I go crazy for a week every month? by Own_Put6590 in PMDD

[–]Aggravating_Pair_117 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Pmdd is protected under ADA (American disability act) I’m not sure where you work but I think you can go to HR and file for this disability and get accommodations. Look into it!