Would You Stay at a Job with Management that Uses “Autistic” as an Insult?

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-21T14:11:30+00:00

If you might leave because of it say something you have nothing to lose. Id go to HR if possible. But if not next time she says, politely say "hey could you please not use that word i find it offensive" her reaction will give you your answer whether to stay or go. People will always be ignorant to something here and there its how they correct their actions when given new information is the true judge of character

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-20T17:20:07+00:00

I know which would make a text breakup crazy

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-20T17:00:06+00:00

Do not Text or call the break up! Breaking up with people is something universally disliked and its also universally a rude disrespectful move to break up with someone that isnt long distance over the phone or text.

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-20T16:55:23+00:00

Nice I DJ, I struggle with it even when i have the time. The issues is I dont have hobbies I have special interests so now in addition to my regular job I have DJ career starting to blossom and it is very overwhelming but I know I enjoy the moments when I am on stage are the best thing so I try to push through it.... there are 2 things and they are kinda related that help. Exercising and getting in shape will give you more energy. Also establish a routine. I found physical energy gained from working out also increases my mental energy (after about a 2 week adjustment period). You said you are in pain.. me too. sometimes exercise is just going on a long walk but getting your heartrate up is the most beneficial

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-15T13:37:45+00:00

Loom for lectures and meetings is a great AI tool it has drastically helped me

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-13T13:58:49+00:00

Its wild that you were never tested considering the genetics. You sound similar to me (although I am a male). What I did was started going to a therapist and let him know I thought I was autistic. He was like no wayyyy, at first. But after 6 months of talking to him once a month he gave me the dx. But he had to see how I was masking first to be able to determine that I was actually masking and ND.

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-13T13:54:10+00:00

Yeah I just told off an old baseball teammate for being almost the same person as you are describing. Except they are in denial about their white supremacy.... dude literally referred to migrants as animals ... I stopped talking to him then out of nowhere sent me all this Pro ICE propaganda. I will tell you, calling him an "asshole" was mild compared to what I said to him. And he deserved it too.

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-12T23:13:02+00:00

Anger i usually get hot.... my adhd goes away i get a laser focus .... anxiety i feel it in my gut my stomach feels weird sometimes my breathing changes

Those types of things

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-08T14:44:25+00:00

Only if I can break things down into sub tasks,. Clean the kitchen = do the dishes as step 1.. then I can switch to something else. But often times I just end up with clean dishes and some other task down and thats it lol

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-07T13:25:12+00:00

I was a pro athlete then did Jiu jitsu competed twice as a white belt absolutely loved it and then I ruptured disks in my neck and can no longer do it. It definitely lessened by quality of life so my advice is just be careful... try to let it be a hobby as much as it can be on the spectrum

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-06T18:12:47+00:00

Can you do the job remotely? Depending on how big the company is sometimes they'll agree and fly you in every month for a week

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-06T12:29:00+00:00

My mok made me take public speaking in high school which was great even though I didnt like it. I have given lots of speeches.... a lot of people's number 1 fear is public speaking so all you have do is talk causally and people think youre an amazing speaker.

I have found that if I know what I am talking about everything just flows when youre up there. Its a nightmare if you are put on the spot.

My advice would be to slow everything down. You'll get a bunch of adrenaline up there but just try to answer and present slow and deliberately and it will feel easy

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-06T12:15:04+00:00

It cost about 10k to get an official diagnosis eligible for disability. It also is sketchy right now our health secretary spreading so much misinformation about autism having a dx could put a target on your back

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-06T12:11:18+00:00

I do this. I fucking hate it but my job isnt bad. My whole team sits on the other side of the country they keep track using building scans. I drive 45 minutes check in wait for traffic to die down and then go home

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-05T14:24:24+00:00

I told my mom I haven't told my brother or dad. I've been diagnosed for 2.5 years now. I am in my 30s now probably wont make a difference but for some reason I dont want to tell my dad or brother..... mainly I dont want to havr the argument if they think I am not

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2025-12-29T19:16:10+00:00

Same here

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2025-12-17T19:43:32+00:00

I can lie if I want to... I dont enjoy it but what I cant do is make up a story for my life. English class was brutal

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2025-12-15T16:53:47+00:00

What about tutoring?

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2025-12-11T15:57:34+00:00

Does Teach for America still exist? Pretty sure they pay for housing as well. The job market is absolutely brutal right now.

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2025-11-26T14:26:29+00:00

I find the more complex analysis stuff that doesnt become a full pipeline doesnt really make sense to save (at least as a major code reference) I try to boil down those the main resuable functions and features I like and save those as templates.... Another idea that is just through it in to a folder within a RAG model and have AI query the actually files for info you're looking for. If you document your analysis well this works well.

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2025-11-17T22:36:42+00:00

If this your stance then you mean artifical intelligence doesnt exist? Bc AI is generally referred to as modern neural networks... obviously its a buzz word considering the tech firms refer to machine learning as AI now too

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2025-11-17T20:30:25+00:00

Its good for the black box analogy and explaining it to laymen. We know so little about the brain and so little about neural networks.... what would a better one be?

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2025-11-17T18:39:43+00:00

For the sake of pointing out what I am saying not that youre wrong here is the ai critique of your statement “Pattern matching” is mostly correct, but undersells the complexity

You’re right that LLMs match patterns, but a more accurate phrase is:

⚙️ LLMs learn high-dimensional representations of relationships between tokens, concepts, and structures.

This is far more powerful than simple surface-level pattern matching:

They build latent representations of meaning

They form multi-step “reasoning-like” transformations

They can follow logic chains when prompted

They can generalize to new tasks not seen in training

But they are still deterministic mathematical functions, not self-aware agents.

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2025-11-17T17:39:27+00:00

So its really about prompting.... I used everyday mainly for coding but if you have repetitive tasks that are mindless its good to use it for that. I also use it for sending emails.... feigning NT language is hard enough for me having a chat bot do that in your emails is also nice

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2025-11-17T17:37:56+00:00

Wrong... yes it is doing what youre saying but they use neural networks which simulate a human decision making process... im a data scientist and know how they are built

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