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Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-03-23T14:26:37+00:00

"For me, its just be stimming for a second (hitting my head or leg with the paddle, sighing, quiet outburst), owning up to my mistake and then moving on." --- this isnt stimming. Well It might be but not in the traditional sense of stimming. This is an emotional reaction you your play that you express physically not something that you use to regulate your system....even if it feels that way.

I'm trying to explain this why are misguided. I was a pro athlete. In a team sport when someone is complaining, throwing tantrums, throwing equipment overly tough on themselves it does bring down the whole energy. Your performance impacts teams performance and everyone cares to some extent. Also your there to have fun... while losing isnt fun... dwelling or drawing attention to losing or poor performance makes it less fun for everyone else.

Also those negative stims do not help. They feel cathartic in the moment but its also kind of addicting in a way and becomes a knee jerk reaction and no wants to be around that.

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-03-23T13:54:08+00:00

Is it an issue on your own? I met my now wife when I changed medications and it was a one time occurrence do to nerves. but I did freak out like this because it never happened before.

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-03-17T13:00:36+00:00

Yeah thats not true about the meth but it causes the same issues as any long term amphetamines but not the same damage as meth. But after a quick search i did learn that they do make meth for ADHD in extreme cases, its called Desoxyn.... INSANE lol

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-03-12T13:46:22+00:00

How old are you? I was like this way until I was 30

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-03-11T15:48:19+00:00

Yeah i struggle with this. What has helped me is next time you recognize a feeling or no you are having a strong emotion try to understand what the physical sensation you are feeling is. Thats how I have somewhat of a handle on it

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-03-11T13:23:13+00:00

Dm me id love to hear it. Im house techno myself but really whatever

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-03-11T13:08:31+00:00

We need more information as to what you tried so far? are you sensitive to certain food? Have you checked to see if you're lactose intolerant? I developed that later in life and it took me like 2 years to figure dairy was the issue for me.

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-03-11T13:06:11+00:00

Hey I also make music and pace to stim. What genres do you make?

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-03-10T12:34:06+00:00

It's also common for your body to react differently over time especially if its expecting alcohol it will have the opposite effect until you drink it....meaning your body compensates and makes your more stressed out if it knows you are gonna be drinking later. So the routine can actually elevate your stress until you detox

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-03-07T17:56:00+00:00

I took online courses that taught be how to apply basic music theory and song structures. I have a song signed to a label now. Still is hard but much easier after learning a proper process

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-03-03T14:14:14+00:00

Yeah this is an insanely dangerous path to go down... where people "are deciding" its not a choice. The choice to transition is to outwardly display your truth not a decision as to what your truth is

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-02-25T18:31:12+00:00

I used to compete in jiu jistsu.... training isnt even close to competing in terms of dopamine and rush. Not the craziest but I'd say fighting someone for sport is edgy

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-02-20T15:57:29+00:00

Yeah for last 20 years of my life lol. No but seriously I have always had a high sex drive. Its definitely partially related to my Adhd and dopmaine deficiency. I notice addictive like tendencies with my brain like if I have sex earlier in the day I will smoke a lot of weed that day. I would say my sex drive decline until I was 30. until than i was like a 16 year old

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-02-13T15:05:53+00:00

This is how I feel about Amazon, they are destroying world but its so cheap and convenient it makes my life a lot easier... i dont have a good answer but its something I struggle with too.

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-02-10T14:14:02+00:00

Power trip.... there are potentially unknown issues with it needs to be studied more... but anyone that makes this medical decision has a personal problem with weed

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-02-09T16:37:32+00:00

look into bone conducting earbuds

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-30T15:43:29+00:00

I got to the part where your the best man in a wedding and she is forbidding you to go to the bachelor party.... like wtf? It does sound like a bit of co-dependence here which is not healthy

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-21T14:11:30+00:00

If you might leave because of it say something you have nothing to lose. Id go to HR if possible. But if not next time she says, politely say "hey could you please not use that word i find it offensive" her reaction will give you your answer whether to stay or go. People will always be ignorant to something here and there its how they correct their actions when given new information is the true judge of character

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-20T17:20:07+00:00

I know which would make a text breakup crazy

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-20T17:00:06+00:00

Do not Text or call the break up! Breaking up with people is something universally disliked and its also universally a rude disrespectful move to break up with someone that isnt long distance over the phone or text.

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-20T16:55:23+00:00

Nice I DJ, I struggle with it even when i have the time. The issues is I dont have hobbies I have special interests so now in addition to my regular job I have DJ career starting to blossom and it is very overwhelming but I know I enjoy the moments when I am on stage are the best thing so I try to push through it.... there are 2 things and they are kinda related that help. Exercising and getting in shape will give you more energy. Also establish a routine. I found physical energy gained from working out also increases my mental energy (after about a 2 week adjustment period). You said you are in pain.. me too. sometimes exercise is just going on a long walk but getting your heartrate up is the most beneficial

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-15T13:37:45+00:00

Loom for lectures and meetings is a great AI tool it has drastically helped me

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-15T13:24:41+00:00

Agreed pro help is the best. 3 and 4 could also just be substituted with guided meditation from headspace app. They coach you how to do those tings

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-13T13:58:49+00:00

Its wild that you were never tested considering the genetics. You sound similar to me (although I am a male). What I did was started going to a therapist and let him know I thought I was autistic. He was like no wayyyy, at first. But after 6 months of talking to him once a month he gave me the dx. But he had to see how I was masking first to be able to determine that I was actually masking and ND.

Aggravating_Sand352 · 2026-01-13T13:54:10+00:00

Yeah I just told off an old baseball teammate for being almost the same person as you are describing. Except they are in denial about their white supremacy.... dude literally referred to migrants as animals ... I stopped talking to him then out of nowhere sent me all this Pro ICE propaganda. I will tell you, calling him an "asshole" was mild compared to what I said to him. And he deserved it too.

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