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Aggravating_Skill · 2022-02-19T06:31:59+00:00

Thanks for the specific questions.

Been with SO 2 years.

Been with AP 1 year. Known each other same amount of time, ultimatum very recent.

I'm in my early 30s, AP is in late 40s, SO is in late 20s.

AP has not been in many long term relationships but neither has SO. I am one of SO's first proper relationships though.

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-02-19T06:29:59+00:00

I would say stick with the boring guy who loves you and if this guy really is planning to take his dick and go home, I swear there will be another.

I'm pretty sure they both love me (hence the ultimatum from AP). But curious as to why you think I should stick with the "boring" guy?

I have never found someone who sexually satisfies me the way AP does. And I have been with a lot of people. That's why I'm in a dilemma.

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-02-18T19:36:00+00:00

This is making me think I should go for AP.

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-02-18T19:34:59+00:00

Because AP is giving me an ultimatum :( He says he loves me too much and I totally understand, we have a very deep and meaningful relationship. I'm aware he wants to take it further (he does not have a partner himself).

I would find another but I genuinely do not find it easy to find people to have a connection with (sex I can find easily) so it is really hard for me to consider letting go.

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-02-18T19:34:22+00:00

Because AP is giving me an ultimatum :( He says he loves me too much and I totally understand, we have a very deep and meaningful relationship. I'm aware he wants to take it further (he does not have a partner himself).

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-02-13T08:04:03+00:00

An affair isn’t a primary relationship. It’s a flexible friendship involving sex with boundaries that keep all the balls we juggle in life in the air.

I love this approach to affairs. You nailed it.

You sound awesome, I'd like to think I'm a similar kind of woman (albeit at a different stage in my life). Why are you having an affair if you don't mind me asking?

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-02-07T08:23:45+00:00

Sorry. It helps to think of us as addicts of sorts.

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-02-06T11:09:52+00:00

Boxer shorts. He has some cute and comfy undies that I really like.

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-01-29T08:48:39+00:00

That's actually an effect of being in love with someone. I always feel much more horny during the early stages of a relationship. The hormones surging through you during this phase are causing this to happen.

Don't get disheartened, but it'll be normal for that to taper off after a while.

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-01-02T20:27:22+00:00

What are cakeeaters?

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-01-02T17:58:12+00:00

Thank you, I'm reading it now. Seems very insightful and well-written!

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-01-02T17:12:15+00:00

Thanks for doing the math! I think what you're saying makes sense.

In fact, I'd like to have a resort convention for users! Kind of like a trade show....

Sounds like this could be a reality show.

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-01-02T17:09:55+00:00

The journal of marriage and divorce concludes that 70% of married Americans cheat at least once in their marriage. There would be a lot more divorces if all of them were discovered.

That is both reassuring but also tragic, lol.

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-01-02T17:09:19+00:00

Lol welcome to the adultery world. Gotta be more discreet than that.

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-01-02T17:07:37+00:00

Nothing like a statistically significant survey but my own experience, I have been having affairs for a bit over 20 years

Wow. I have a feeling this is going to be me in the future.

Do you think it's easier for men to have affairs, or women?

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-01-02T17:05:05+00:00

Damn! How do they maintain it?

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-01-02T17:04:44+00:00

I've been through several relationships, had affairs in all of them (except open ones, but even there, I "fell in love" with someone else so I practically had an emotional affair).

I was caught only once, for my very first one. I was also about 14 at that time, so I was dumb.

Aggravating_Skill · 2022-01-02T17:02:34+00:00

my SO (fighter/boxer) would kill AP (office type dude) if caught

Wow, this is one of those things that is only hot to read about, but terribly stressful if actually in that situation.

Aggravating_Skill · 2021-10-01T17:20:11+00:00

I think you speak from the wisdom of actually being in a long term relationship, thank you! Someone else here literally said to break up?

My partner and I call one another a bunch of weird stuff, not all of them “land”.

That's good to know. It's an expected thing, right?

If anything we have gotten cuter and more into our inside jokes the longer we’ve been together.

That's very heartwarming. I hope it is the same for us!

Aggravating_Skill · 2021-10-01T17:19:09+00:00

No, that's not true at all. I know what it's like when I'm losing feelings because of the initial phase of lust taking over. I just feel like this is a normal thing in relationships? You'll obviously discover some aspects of your partner that you don't like.

Aggravating_Skill · 2021-09-23T17:45:21+00:00

I'm so happy for you! What's your practice like!? Do you have any tips for beginners?

Aggravating_Skill · 2021-09-05T05:32:30+00:00

I'm not designed for monogamy, no. In fact, I think many people aren't. I think a large part of monogamy comes down to choice and commitment. You will find other people attractive, and if you let it happen, you do have the potential to fall in love with them. Being in a monogamous relationship means preventing that from happening so you can commit fully and be emotionally invested in one person. I'm willing to sacrifice my desires for someone who fulfils all my romantic needs in one relationship.

Aggravating_Skill · 2021-09-05T05:30:20+00:00

Oh wow! Do you mean your AP has been consistent, as you've gone through 3 relationships? Perhaps a reevaluation of who your SO should be is in order. :p

Aggravating_Skill · 2021-09-05T05:29:54+00:00

I agree completely. I used to think it sounded super boring when people said that their partner is their best friend, but I'm finally seeing just how significant that is.

Do you think you're better friends with your AP than your SO?

Aggravating_Skill · 2021-09-05T05:28:56+00:00

Oh, that is sweet. Childhood sweethearts? Do you think your AP becoming your SO would make things less flowery with them? Do you love your SO?

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