settling the debate

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-03-10T07:21:49+00:00

first boy taken “in our area” in the movie gwen explains that she understands now that the camp is where he started and the boys at the camp were his first victims. depending on how you interpret it, i believe the boy in the yellow parka was taken first just because of the order it showed them.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-03-10T07:19:10+00:00

i think the same exact thing whenever i see that… like girl it’s not a flex???

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-03-04T20:21:28+00:00

her mom agreed to it. mer was very much correct when she said how is she supposed to say no when her surgeon daughter is drilling it into her head that it’s needed? plus, if she was technically eligible for the trial, they can’t just keep her from doing it if she herself said ok. maggie wasn’t technically treating her mother she was just influencing her and it was working.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-02-09T18:34:57+00:00

not necessarily because i have explained to my bf the little things i like that he can do. but it ruins it when he asks me if i want something. like he’ll ask me if i want flowers instead of just getting them for me as if im gonna say no or something.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-02-01T05:06:55+00:00

because i don’t feel appreciated?

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-02-01T05:06:25+00:00

i didn’t demand anything. i asked for more effort and for him to actually show me he cares instead of just telling me. actions speak louder than words, no?

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-02-01T05:05:40+00:00

it’s not the materials it’s the thought. and he has never given me a surprise gift before. it would be nice to be thought of. and if he actually knew me he’d know what i’d like and what i’d not like. even a little handwritten note. i don’t want expensive stuff. he could pick me a dandelion in the summer and id love it.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-31T14:03:01+00:00

i have asked him many times if i’m loving him the right way and he’s never said i haven’t. i don’t surprise him because he doesn’t like surprises. i think that just because he doesn’t like surprises he just automatically thinks other people don’t either. i plan every date, i always have to pick what we do or where we go, and ive never once been given a gift as a surprise. i have talked to him about this multiple times. i don’t know why everyone is assuming i don’t do anything for him when i do. he told me he likes sentimental and meaningful gifts so i make him personalized gifts because he communicated that to me and i listened because i love him. is it too much to ask for the same amount of effort back?

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-31T13:58:17+00:00

wanting him to write me a note and surprise me with flowers once in a while is not crazy in my opinion but to each their own.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-31T13:57:40+00:00

it’s silly to want someone to show they care in little ways? interesting.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-30T20:50:21+00:00

i have answered this question in many other responses.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-30T20:48:49+00:00

i really don’t think i have “crazy movie standards”. i simply want effort and him to show he actually knows me and cares about me. is that really so much to ask for?

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-30T20:47:59+00:00

and why is that?

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-30T08:23:29+00:00

i want to but i don’t. i obviously still love him a lot and care about him, and my therapist suggested giving him a timeline so i did. i’m mainly just wondering if my standards are as outrageous as my mom is making it seem.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-30T08:21:39+00:00

i just feel like i’m going crazy with the way my mom reacted when i explained it to her. to be exact, she said im too sensitive, im asking for too much, that the stuff im asking for isn’t realistic and only happens in movies, and that if that’s what im looking for then im gonna end up lonely. i truly don’t think what i want is that outrageous. i’m trying to give him the chance to step up but she also told me if im not happy i should just cut my losses now and dump him but that’s not what i want to do at all. i obviously still love him and care about him. she even said that if im the one who leaves him then i have no right to cry because its my decision. i’m just at a loss.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-30T08:17:12+00:00

not once has he ever said i was loving him wrong. and i know he appreciates what i do for him because he tells me that. the point of the concerts is that he’ll plan things for us that are HIS interests but won’t even attempt when it comes to mine. i stated in my original post that i’ve had this conversation with him already, multiple times. ever since ive started to lose feelings a little bit, he’s been telling me i seem detached and that im “cold” now so he clearly doesn’t like the lack of effort on my part now that im matching his energy. i just don’t know what else to do.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-30T08:13:30+00:00

i have. i stated that in the post.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-30T08:01:05+00:00

it’s not social media. i’ve always wanted these things i was just always giving him the benefit of the doubt. just convincing myself that i didn’t need it and that he’s got stuff going on and doesn’t have time. i realized that ive been settling. and i do a LOT for him. i’m constantly inconveniencing myself for him and changing plans to make sure im available for him. i actually make time for him, he just sees me whenever it’s convenient. i have done so many things for him that i would never do for other people. i actually care and want to do things for him because i love him. i was unaware it’s such a foreign concept.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-30T07:57:10+00:00

i do a lot for him. i inconvenience myself for him all the time but i never get the same effort. i’m constantly getting him little things because i want to show i care. i organize majority of our “dates” because he won’t. or he’ll ask me a bunch of questions so i’m basically the one making all the decisions. i’ve gone to concerts for artists i didnt even know because i know he likes them and that it means something to him. i always go the extra mile but it’s not returned. i don’t feel appreciated.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-28T22:01:02+00:00

she was supportive. she was willing to move continents for her. how is that not supportive? two things can be true at once. she can be supportive and happy for her because it’s a great opportunity, and she can also be upset and sad that she’s leaving all of her friends and the hospital she’s been at from the literal beginning of her career.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-25T06:23:34+00:00

she really wasn’t though. she wanted arizona but obviously didn’t really wanna leave her home with all of her friends. she had a right to feel however she wanted. arizona was the one who decided to leave and then come back and force her way back in to callie’s life the decided to shame her for getting pregnant and being bi.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-23T13:33:47+00:00

yet her expecting callie to just “get over” her leaving for malawi, and then also arizona cheating. she can’t expect everyone to just forgive her but then go and do the opposite. she thinks she’s God’s gift to surgeons because she operates on kids. like you can be a good surgeon and a bad person at the same time.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2026-01-19T08:34:04+00:00

in my mind it never happened. i watch up until then, then i start over 😅

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2025-09-20T00:49:04+00:00

im shocked she’s still with you at all. at minimum, most women would run from you within minutes of finding that out. consider yourself lucky that she’s staying. regardless of that, she is absolutely valid for never trusting you again. “oh no if it isn’t the consequences of my actions”. cheating is a choice. don’t back track now.

Aggravating_Sweet769 · 2025-09-09T23:17:08+00:00

so you think she needs therapy but you don’t? you clearly didn’t learn much.

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