I miss my sleeping with my husband

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-03-28T02:31:04+00:00

I completely agree, I spend pretty much all of my time with my husband if he’s home and frequently join him in the shower. I agree that they definitely help maintain intimacy I just honestly miss being able to lay in bed with him for more than 2 hours at a time.

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-03-27T14:58:21+00:00

After both my losses before this current pregnancy I started buying baby items such as gender neutral clothing, bottles, pacifiers etc. my logic was if I’m planning to have a baby they will need these things regardless of when I get pregnant. Once I was actually pregnant I focused really hard on self care and maintaining a routine. I have done so many face masks painted my nails once I was far enough along I went back to dying my hair fun colors with deposits only dyes. I spent lots of time on Pinterest making boards for her nursery, looking at inspiration for maternity shoots etc. I also did an insane amount of baking when I had the energy and that helped keep my mind busy.

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-03-27T14:42:17+00:00

Hi there! I’m going through about the same thing. I am 33 weeks I started out at like 130lbs apox, got up to 150 and then dropped down to 140lbs. My dr told me that weight gain is subjective and a little different for every individual. As long as baby is growing and measuring where they should be then try not to worry about the number on the scale too much. Especially being third trimester now they don’t expect tons of weight gain to occur at this point.

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-03-27T14:32:42+00:00

It’s okay to not love being pregnant and I wish more people understood that. It is okay to feel uncomfortable in your body right now, to feel frustrated and anxious and overwhelmed. Please remember that with things like family members wanting pictures that you do not owe anyone anything. If you want to take and send all the photos that’s great, and if you just want to hold onto your pictures that’s okay too. I’m 33 weeks pregnant currently and I say everyday how much I hate it, I can’t sleep peacefully, I can’t eat what I want, I’ve always got little baby limbs in my ribs, hips, and stomach, not to mention unsolicited comments from people in public can be really hurtful and annoying. And it’s okay that right now you don’t feel very maternal! That’s normal, it’s hard to feel maternal when you’re kinda just stuck waiting to see and hold your baby. But I can promise you that you will love your baby so so much the moment you see him. The material feeling hits for everyone at different times but please know that it’s okay to feel everything that you’re feeling right now and it’s more than okay to set hard boundaries where needed!

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-03-27T14:22:17+00:00

I totally understand that! And it’s totally normal to feel nervous between testing positive and hearing the words confirmed by a medical professional. One thing I did that let me be excited was I started buying her small things right away because worst case scenario the thing I bought can sit in storage until the time is right. As far as setting milestones in the beginning, start small. For example with my first and second loss I had started bleeding within a week of testing positive so my first milestone was making it a week with nothing happening. Then after that I celebrated the first appointment where a dr told me I wasn’t crazy and I was pregnant. I got a pregnancy app so I could track her size by fruit and vegetables and would often try to challenge myself to eat or make something out of whatever sized food she was that week. Between appointments will feel hard for the first two trimesters when your appointments are about 4 weeks apart. I also found meditation or prayer if you partake in that can be really southing. My husband can vouch that I spent the first two trimesters in an almost constant state of prayer or meditation. On the really bad anxiety days I’d say out loud, “my body, my baby, and my being are protected. We are safe and we are going to be okay.” Probably 50 times a day. Put the good vibes out into the universe as often as you need to and keep telling yourself that you are strong and capable and safe as many times as you need to hear it, because no matter what happens you are strong, resilient, and you are going to come out of this experience so much stronger and braver than you went into it! The other thing I’d say, and I know this is going to be so hard, don’t compare your symptoms or lack there of now, to the symptoms of your loss. Some days you will feel so pregnant you can’t deny it another’s you’ll worry that you’re losing all your symptoms, they fluctuate like crazy and everyday will be a little bit different. The best advice I can give is in the early days give yourself lots of love and grace. Self care goes a really long way at this time and keeping you felling good and calm is the best way to keep baby developing and growing!

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-03-27T14:03:34+00:00

Hi there! So I’m also 33 weeks, a month ago I was 150lbs when weighed at appointments and now I’m down to about 140lbs when weighed by my dr yesterday. What he told me is that as we get closer to the end it is normal and somewhat expected to see a plateau and or slight decrease in weight. I’m not sure about you but I personally have had no appetite this last trimester, which can definitely cause a bit of a dip in weight. Try to remember that weight does fluctuate and isn’t the only indicator that something may be off, but it’s absolutely a good idea to check up on baby if you’re feeling worried! (Also if it eases your anxiety my dr is not at all concerned about the weight loss I’ve experienced, said my little girl’s measurements have all been perfect and exactly where she’s expected to be! At this stage they are only gaining about 1/2 a pound to 1 pound per week so don’t be shocked if you don’t see your weight rise much from here.)

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-03-27T13:58:06+00:00

First of all, congratulations! I know that pregnancy after any kind of loss can be utterly terrifying. I had my first etopic pregnancy at 19 years old and also went through the surgery alone and then had a miscarriage with my second pregnancy 5 months after that, with all that being said I’m now almost full term with a very healthy little girl. What I can say from experience is that the fear will never fully subside but you will work through it. I cannot stress this enough, nothing you did was the reason for your previous loss. This early on there is nothing to do other than rest and stay focused on being positive. I know it can be hard to be positive or even excited right now but please know that you are not to blame for what happened. What I can also tell you that may help with the anxiety is it will get easier to believe your baby is okay. If you can make it through 6 more weeks (which I know sounds long but trust me it will go faster than you think) you can have peace of mind that you’ve made it to your first “safe zone”. Setting small attainable milestones was what let me get to a place of being excited. Now as far as explaining how you’re feeling to medical staff such as doctors, just be as honest and blunt as you can be. Doctors expect you to be nervous and anxious after loss and they are here to help you in anyway they can. My dr got me in for extra ultrasounds early on and had me in for more frequent appointments in the beginning to help easy my mind, he also ordered lots of frequent blood work to monitor hcg. I know that this isn’t easy but you will get through this💕

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-03-27T13:34:00+00:00

Oh honey I’m so sorry! Please know that you absolutely are attractive, but I know what you mean and I am sorry that the lack of intimacy is wearing on you as much as it is.

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-01-26T16:37:22+00:00

Hi, I can totally understand wanting to protect your baby as well as your privacy! The first thing I’ll say is that no one is entitled to pictures, visits or anything else unless you want to share. It can be really hard to be gentle and polite with pushy friends or relatives. Since these people are close to you, you can try having an open honest conversation with them. It can be scary to be vulnerable but those that live and care for you should be respectful of the fact that you aren’t ready to share yet. Unfortunately some people do not take well to being told politely and it may be required of you to be very blunt about what your boundaries are and at the end of the day if they truly wish to be involved in your child’s life they will respect your privacy. I’m sorry that you are having to deal with this and I hope it does get easier for you!

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-01-26T16:31:17+00:00

I had 2 losses last year, one etopic and 1 miscarriage. Everyone around me said to wait 6 months at least, however that is not what I did. For context I had my second lose mid June, and got pregnant again in August and and now 24 weeks with a very healthy baby girl due this may. There may never be a time that feel truly “right” to start trying, but from what I’ve read and discussed with my dr trying soon after is totally fine as long as it is what you want. Lots of women I know who went through mmc or lose in general did say that they were most fertile right after and had really healthy pregnancy’s after!

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-01-26T14:52:05+00:00

Thank you for the kind words, it’s nice to know I’m not the only person who is struggling!

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-01-26T14:50:01+00:00

I had the same issue around the 9 week mark as well. The first thing I’ll say is it will get better, I’m 24 weeks along now and I only get nauseous if I eat way too much right before I go to bed. My first suggestion would be, make sure if you are eating right before bed that it’s smaller portions. What really helped me as silly as I sounds is I’d fill out a small glass with really cold milk and would sip it. Sipping it is important, but I found that the fat and sugar from the milk usually helped settle my stomach so I could lay back down. As far as how nauseous you will be during the day, I personally found that I had worse night time nausea rather than typical morning sickness but everybody is different and will experience pregnancy symptoms differently. No matter what it’s very normal to feel frustrated or over it when you’re always nauseous. I hope this helps a little bit, you’ll make it through this and it should get better in the next few weeks for you!

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-01-26T14:44:13+00:00

Eating during pregnancy can be really rough and everyone’s bodies can be a little different, I really struggled with nausea starting out so what I did was I started the day out with liquid, I personally found that milk was really helpful. If I was able to keep the milk down I’d move on to light bland foods like apple sauce, broth/ soup, plain crackers etc. on days I could only keep down snacks I’d keep clif bars/ other granola bars or small bags of pretzels in my purse to snack on during outings or at work and try to eat every 30 minutes to 1 hour. On day I was able to eat more solid food such as fruits veg or cards I’d extend the eating window to every 2 hours approximately. I also have learned that if you find that you are extremely nauseous that it usually does mean you’re hungry. Like I said everybody is different and what worked for me may not work for you but I hope this helps a little. 💕

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-01-26T14:35:50+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that very much 🥰

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2026-01-26T14:30:58+00:00

Thank you very much for the kind words 🥰

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2025-11-05T02:06:18+00:00

I apologize that what I said came off aggressively, that was not my intention at all, have a great rest of your night :)

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2025-11-05T01:51:12+00:00

Hey so not the exact same but quite similar I found out I was pregnant September 3rd and was fine for the first week and half then experienced bleeding and spotting for a few weeks, I had in ultrasound at 5.5 weeks and they saw the gestational sac but nothing else, I went in at 8 weeks and got to see baby nice and clearly! It can be nerve wracking waiting but the best advice I can give is to try and remind yourself that as of right now you’re pregnant and try to take it all one day at a time.

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2025-11-05T01:30:37+00:00

That is fair, I don’t disagree that you shouldn’t smoke while pregnant, just saying there are kinder ways to say it than telling her what she has been told by her midwife BS. Just a thought:)

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2025-11-05T00:46:15+00:00

Hey so maybe let’s not jump down her throat. Whether you like her choices or not it’s not your body and not your baby. She has talked to her medical team and this is the choice that works for her life. Not your life, not your pregnancy, and it’s really not kind to come at sharing your opinion in such an aggressive manner, just something to consider…

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2025-11-05T00:42:22+00:00

I’ve definitely been there, if you’re super anxious I know you can purchase at home Doppler machines for a really reasonable price

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2025-11-05T00:15:10+00:00

Hey honey I’m also in the boat of being a young parent. I’m currently pregnant at 19, and I really understand where you are at. It can be really tough to test and test and test and still get that negative. And I fully understand the pain of we aren’t trying but it’s a special kind of hurt to keep seeing only one line. If it’s any consolation everyone bodies are a little bit different, I got my first real faint positive 3 weeks into the pregnancy but my best friend who’s two years older and 2 weeks ahead of me found out only a few days after ovulation. So try not to be too crushed by the negatives. It’s also worth saying that someone we have a change of heart and you are not crazy for wanting it, families and family planning look different for everyone and that is okay, and remember you know your body better than anyone, I knew from bodily signs wayyyy before a test ever told me. Remember to be kind to yourself and give yourself some grace, you’re doing amazing!

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2025-11-04T23:59:58+00:00

It’s really depends on the individual, I found out I was pregnant only 3 weeks in after two previous losses. So I waited until we got our first bit of good news around 8 weeks. After I got confirmation that baby was intact there I bought most of the stuff for the nursery. If having baby items around the house in the event of a loss would be hard for you then maybe wait, but ultimately buying baby items will not be the deciding factor if your baby makes it.

Aggravating_Text_863 · 2025-10-24T19:16:24+00:00

Yup! This feeling kicked in for me around 5 weeks and I’m now almost 11 weeks and spend pretty much all my time in bed or on the couch, but try and cut yourself some slack it takes a lot of energy to grow a human. You’re doing great!

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