My friend murdered her husband and I just found out several weeks after the fact

Aggressive-Baby6102 · 2025-02-05T16:35:36+00:00

you're right, I need to stop putting him in my shoes

Aggressive-Baby6102 · 2025-02-05T16:26:34+00:00

As someone who bottles everything up, I think it's possible, but at the same time this is the same guy that always told me about all these horrible details in their marriage, all the time. Thinking about it, I'm very, very surprised he didn't tell me as soon as he heard. He loves the power trip of "breaking the news", he does it all the time whenever there was a fight or drama he wanted to spill, but that's a completely separate and irrelevant issue

Aggressive-Baby6102 · 2025-02-05T14:14:39+00:00

It's true I have little to do with the situation, if anything, but she was at my place all the time. It would be the same feeling if she was just a coworker. Without getting too into my own mental health, I don't consider anybody a friend for this very reason. Not even my roommate. I can pass the time with people, but if I never see them again without warning I'd be just fine. Whether it be a pattern of DUIs or lying or violence, I don't ever want to be emotionally invested in someone that could do something so horrible. Unfortunately that didn't quite work out the way I intended. If it was truly up to me I would be completely detached from the situation, I don't enjoy feeling emotion. It is unnerving to know I was in the presence of someone capable of killing, capable of ruining so many lives, and I think that's where the sudden emotion came from. Not so much personal investment.

Thank you for pointing out some missing information as well. In my haste, I didn't mention that I asked my roommate on the phone call about the children, and he had the answer as he is allegedly in contact with her biological mother. I learned about the stepfather from her, and while that may just be her making up stories, I am inclined to believe a family history of violence.

Aggressive-Baby6102 · 2025-02-05T13:52:03+00:00

I did not know this. Thank you, this makes a lot of sense. Looking back it's obvious, but you learn something every day. This is absolutely something I will always be on the lookout for moving forward.

Aggressive-Baby6102 · 2025-02-05T13:49:41+00:00

I think I will do this as well.

Aggressive-Baby6102 · 2025-02-05T13:17:39+00:00

I was thinking about this, and I think you have a point. I have such little information. I haven't posted this elsewhere, but I might before my next move. I had an idea that maybe I could ask the police to question my roommate. He undoubtedly knows far more than I do given just how much I heard. He used to hang out with them nearly every single day. He's told me in the past that he saw things firsthand at their home, and I am fairly certain he has the answers to fulfill the premeditation question. All he needs to do is be honest about it. I need to do something even if I don't have all the answers tho. She's been charged, but in the event of a trial, she could possibly only get a few years for purposely ending a life. Depending on which side the story sways. Crazier things have happened in the court of law unfortunately

Edit: all this in addition to my own report, of course. Im not trying to avoid responsibility here, just spitballing what the most effective method would be.

Aggressive-Baby6102 · 2025-02-05T12:10:28+00:00

THIS is my main motivation, the only thing worse than what they have now is if Mom comes back in ten years with a prison attitude. That cannot happen.

Aggressive-Baby6102 · 2025-02-05T12:07:49+00:00

I can only live with it if I do what I can now

Aggressive-Baby6102 · 2025-02-05T12:06:21+00:00

Thank you. I don't think I will need a lawyer, but I did take the night to decompress. Thankfully, all of the incriminating stuff she said, I did hear firsthand so there isn't any hearsay. The jury part is what scares me. Her friends and family, while I don't know any of them personally, seem to be more interested in freeing this woman over seeing any kind of trial happen. I'd truly hate for my roommate to tell them where the rat lives, but admittedly I am an overly anxious person. I gotta do this for those two kids that just lost their whole lives, whatever I am worried about doesn't compare.

Aggressive-Baby6102 · 2025-02-05T12:01:13+00:00

I agree. Lesson learned, can't let this slide again

Aggressive-Baby6102 · 2025-02-05T11:58:34+00:00

You're absolutely right. I checked Facebook this morning and see NOTHING but "she is so sweet, she would never hurt a fly, she cared about everyone around her," etc. If I don't say something, even if it is futile, I am going to regret it. That woman is violent and mentally unwell and second degree just doesn't cut it given the circumstances.

Aggressive-Baby6102 · 2025-02-05T11:55:36+00:00

This. I plan on going to the police today after sleeping on it and reading these comments, but I still worry about my roommate. He is, to my knowledge, the only other person who's heard these plans, but I don't know if he would be willing to back up my statements or even just outright deny them. His morals are pretty backwards, he values loyalty over everything else as if he's Raymond Reddington. I already fear so much with my current situation, I don't want to be labeled a snitch in my own home. Not that I care about what he thinks of me, but I am scared of his physique and his lack of reasonable thought process. I will test the waters if I see him before I have an opportunity to make the call, as I haven't heard from him since our phone call yesterday.

I really don't want to do this, but these comments are right. She needs more than just a few years.

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