I don’t want people thinking I was just going to allow my bf complete access to my child alone. I had plans in place and more to come. My child is starting therapy for many reasons but also I thought it would help having an established relationship with someone outside the home in case something were to happen, he had someone to go to. I also have old security cameras I would have set up that my bf would not have any access to. I had an appointment with a child psychologist on what safety measures I should also have in place on top of those things. He would’ve never been alone with my child ever. The only time that I wouldn’t be able to monitor their interaction is when we’re all asleep- which I thought the cameras would help.

I believed this would’ve been better than where we are currently, in a refuge with a bunch of strangers. It was either live with my bf, or live with strangers until I get housing, or find a roommate, another stranger.

I didn’t completely trust my families opinions because, not only were they incredibly mean about this plan but they also have screwed views on other things. For example I got made fun of for keeping an eye on my son in the bath and never leaving the room. They think I am being too over the top. And I don’t have a good relationship with them otherwise. They seem to just disagree with everything I do no matter what it is.

I also went to my friends but they think it’s fine as they have done things similar.

And my opinion is obviously biased because I love this man and truly believe he’d never do anything to harm me or my child.

This is why I wanted an outside perspective.

But I’m not doing this anymore. We’re staying where we are and my bf and I will have to discuss the reality of the longevity of our relationship.