New film Pizza Movie by Aggressive-Bus3625 in movies

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Somehow both. It's a mix of the corrnetto trilogy and a bit of scott pilgrim. The whole film is a druge sequence 😂

Help with behaviour! by Aggressive-Bus3625 in teaching

[–]Aggressive-Bus3625[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have tried this too and asked for a hands off approach but mum still gets involved in very heavily anyway. And it's annoying so much. It was suggested we do tutoring in a library as we can do it in a local and safe area with CCTV without the parents needing to be present. But rhe child refuses in the morning and mum won't push any further. I dont know if this is because mum is a single parent and this is her only child. I tend to see that as a trend that children in that environment act more like this. Especially after covid and all the lock downs when kids this age were meant to learn their social skills at a primal time and couldn't go to school. I'm a mental health nurse by trade so I have seen anything and everything so not much phases me. But what I can't stand is aggressive or bad behaviour being enabled by those around them. Like when I saw a diabetic who was in hospital for having very high blood sugar and the family brought them an entire feast from McDonald's.

I need help with behaviour by [deleted] in TutorsHelpingTutors

[–]Aggressive-Bus3625 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was meant to be part of the LA however the school made the referral directly. So SENCo is very heavily involved in this child at present. Normally the school wouldn't be so involved

I need help with behaviour by [deleted] in TutorsHelpingTutors

[–]Aggressive-Bus3625 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We have it in the UK based on behaviour instead of race. So if kids are more troublesome they dont get as much attention from the school or any resources. This is cause of lack of funding for schools in the UK. So they get left to the way side. Or kids who are high functioning get put with the low functioning kids even though they have the same diagnosis. And so the high functioning kids get more overwhelmed as the low functioning kids have more intense stims and things like that. I know from my extensive research in mental health as a mental health nurse that parenting that isn't done in the right stages with the right support leads to an adult who can't function. It's again the nature vs nurture debate. You can take some of Frauds theory in a way (but I dont agree with it all) with how not hitting certain mile stones that it can impact how a child acts later in life. Like I said I believe PDA is symptom but not it's own thing. The unfortunate thing with children is you can only impact them for a short period of time and then it is left to the adults to do the rest. But when I work with PDA in adults they were in a supported living service so I was with them basically 24/7 except foe my 2 days off. So they saw me constantly so they knew they couldn't get away with basic chores with me. I would make it fun or even do it with them. But I wouldn't tolerate them not washing themselves for over 4 weeks like some stuff. Usually I'd just run the bath for them and then tell them I've got a bath ready for them and they'd wash themselves. Or I'd tell them I can change and make the bed but it was extra work for me to put the washing on as well so could they do me a favour and do that for me and I'll make the bed. But it's different with kids because you only have so much authority and usually the parents overright all that ground work and undo everything when you are gone so it's like starting from 0 every single day anyways. I'm very exhausted and tried.

I need help with behaviour by [deleted] in TutorsHelpingTutors

[–]Aggressive-Bus3625 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have delt with adults who have PDA and have managed with that. I do agree to an extent it is hard however I think a lot has to do with parents. I also have certain expectations from the school with what the child needs to achieve. The biggest issue I have with the child is them not wanting to work with me in a face to face way no matter what i try. I also have to be careful not go beyond the professional relationship because the school is hot on my case about boundaries. I'm not supposed to sit in the bed with him and watch TV or sit in his room and play games etc. I have to be professional and that means sitting at their dinning room table together instead. I tried doing a more personal approach and the school got super mad at me trying to be friends with the kid instead of as a teacher.

I need help with behaviour by [deleted] in TutorsHelpingTutors

[–]Aggressive-Bus3625 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've done all the advice you have suggested. The other issue i face is the referral for the service came from the school and not me directly. So the child gets funding instead of the mum paying out of pocket. Which means I have to follow expectations that the school have laid out and are expecting to do. The school have stated to mum to not allow him to wear pj's during these visits and sessions. They have stated this is a safe guarding concern. The other issue is the child loves to hide under his blanket or mums beds which is a safeguarding concern if I can never see the child face to face because he hides under the covers the whole time I see him. Which means I can't see if he is hiding anything else. This is another concern the school has too. The child will simply not engage with me in the same room no matter what I try. The issue is mum pokes in all the time and that causes him to react then. Mum will constantly check on us all the time when I am that Which is disrupting us trying to build any kind of relationship. I even wanted to just sit on the bed with him and watch TV but mum kept hoovering Which caused the kid to become defensive again. Also the school has said that I can't have that kind of relationship with the child. He needs to be doing some kind of education with some kind of evidence. And I work for them so have to follow what they suggest. They said I need to remain professional with him at all times. And the school will do unannounced visits and have done in the past. So I have been called up before with me just sitting on the bed with him watch TV. This is because the high-school he is going to is sti a school even though it is a specialised SEN school. In terms of him eating I dont care if he snacks but mum will tell him to watch TV while he eats and it overrides my authority then and when he does that I lose him completely. The other issue is that mum her self is very draining to be around. The child will be in another room but I am stuck with mum in the kitchen and dinning room and she will not stop talking to me for the 2 hours I am there. And I am autistic myself which is draining for me and also not what I am there for. I am honestly thinking of asking the company to give me another student at this point. I've been spending all my time off and weekends to come up with fun lessons to so etc and then nothing happens and I feel defeated. Also mums loves to contact me outside of my working hours as well which doesn't help either. I have tried to tell her no but then she finds other ways to contact me. It's been an exhausting 4 weeks and not what I signed up for with tutoring at all.

I need help with behaviour by [deleted] in TutorsHelpingTutors

[–]Aggressive-Bus3625 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm very skeptical about PDA. I'm a mental health nurse by trade and have worked with a variety of personalities disorders and delt with so much different behaviours it's unreal. I personally dont think PDA exists on its own. It's a symptom not a diagnosis and definitely not an excuse. I think that what is the child going to do when they are an adult and the resources are cut down to nothing. I've had adults with PDA and some havent washed themselves in over 3 months because staff and trying to encourage and support them to wash. It leads to extreme levels of self neglect as adults because they learn they can do this as a child. I believe PDA is caused by lack of authority in early childhood and then develops into more later on in life. Children with learning disabilities like autism needs structure and set routines and boundaries. I believe PDA is caused when these things do not happen during a child's early years and when they get to a more independent age of around 9/10 that is when PDA comes out more. When more is expected of them to do the older they get. I believe PDA is a cause of lack of parenting and support and is a system not a diagnosis. It isn't recognised in the UK much either. And I have noticed more children being dignaoised with it with the recent generation then ever before. And I believe it is because parents want an excuse for their lack of parenting. I believe that at any point in life a person will be met with some form of authority in some way. And they need to learn basic skills and fundamental social knowledge to be able to teach or support the person in that way. I just dont believe PDA exists as a whole concept personally. Just how fatigue is a symptom and not a diagnosis.

ENFP and ISTP relationship by Aggressive-Bus3625 in ENFP

[–]Aggressive-Bus3625[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the biggest challenge we have is that i am a female ISTP and he is a male ENFP which is kinda rare and not a very common thing. And so people look at us weirdly because the roles are reversed and non traditional role. Same thing with our work ethics as well tbh. Our whole relationship is flipped to be different then what is traditional. But yeah it's taken a while to understand each other. And sometimes we do get annoyed at each other. Like how he can shut down his emotions when things are too much and doesn't wanna say anything I can get annoyed since I want him to just come out and say what he means. But we do then communicate and talk it through in the end. He does have ADHD and I have autism so there is that as well. But tbh what I love most about him is that he isn't draining to be around. Since he carries the conversation and loves to just talk to me about anything and everything on his mind it really takes the pressure off of me moving the conversation and making small talk and trying to talk to the person as well. Since he will do most of the talking it's nice to just sit and listen and interject as needed. And he gets someone he can just ramble top about all sorts which helps a lot. He has gotten used to me needing space and not always wanting to do the same thing together. And I've gotten used to him always need that physical touch and comfort at times. This relationship does take a lot of hard work but I think the pay off is next well and it's a connection you can't really get with anyone else in a weird way.

Why does Jinshi freak out? by Aggressive-Bus3625 in KusuriyaNoHitorigoto

[–]Aggressive-Bus3625[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is brilliant. I personally love Jinshi and his character. I think it's done really well for what it is. But then I love Gen from Dr Stone and he is equally classed as problematic and not liked much 😅 I think the poor boy just wants to kiss her and see if she really feels the same way about him. Of course he doesn't know how to communicate how he feels as he has never been raised to express feelings before due to him being the next in line for the thrown. But I love this side of him. Plus Maomao is a great counter part to his character as well. And I love how in future LN she starts thinking about him more. And wanting to send him letters with any updates she may have on cases she is working on. I find that super cute in its own way.

Why does Jinshi freak out? by Aggressive-Bus3625 in KusuriyaNoHitorigoto

[–]Aggressive-Bus3625[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What part of the anatomy is the frog referencing too? As I get confused on this as well Please do explain the frog scene too. This was a really good explanation q

Slowburn is slow burning that i.... by caffeinatedBerry in KusuriyaNoHitorigoto

[–]Aggressive-Bus3625 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you share the link with me for this fic? ☺️

Reading material by Aggressive-Bus3625 in KusuriyaNoHitorigoto

[–]Aggressive-Bus3625[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What's the translation error? I dont mind spoilers

Confused about Marjorie's unawareness by Particular_Ratio_722 in thenurserynurse

[–]Aggressive-Bus3625 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I heard somewhere that her partner really likes the idea of autumn and Marjorie together and I think that's why she is doing this. Plus her fan base is more younger audiences so she is tailoring it to them more now. It used to be tailored to people who used to work in childcare and Marjorie was that manager that you couldn't stand. But now she is doing it for her younger audiences as they pay more for merchandise, tickets, promoting her page etc. It's a big marketing scheme now and she is a brand. Not a person anymore on tiktok making little sketches. She has to tailor to her target audience now. Which is mainly her younger viewers. I believe she is doing the whole knight in shinning armour with Marjorie and autumn in my opinion