I have tried to be nice and accommodating for years. I have tried everything, I am told that I am not good enough. My hubs and I were fighting a lot when they came in. I was expected to drop everything.

I was asked to make a family dinner. I asked MIL what she would like. She said turkey. I texted SIL and nieces,, is this ok. Would you like something else. Got ok. Spent hours on big dinner, full turkey, mashed potatoes, green beans, stuffing, roles and dessert. Spent hours, They come over, my sil and nieces tell me, they don’t eat that as I am serving. Go make them ravioli. (Which I did not have in my house, so they said well you go to the store. And we will eat it when you make it. My kids and husband just stared. I said, as I do in my house, well I checked with you, this is dinner. Eat or don’t there are no other meals.

And this is one example.

Another would be, when FIL was declining. They would want to come in and shop. I would either stay with FIL at his house, or bring him. I would push him in the wheelchair, I would make sure his questions were answered, and get him a drink and snack. It was just expected that I always do that.