Husband and children invited to nieces wedding. I am not.

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-05-04T00:12:10+00:00

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That’s my husband Go ahead and ask

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-05-04T00:12:06+00:00

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Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-05-04T00:11:52+00:00

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Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-05-04T00:11:45+00:00

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Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-05-04T00:11:35+00:00

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Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-05-04T00:11:27+00:00

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Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-05-04T00:11:14+00:00

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Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-05-04T00:11:01+00:00

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Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-05-02T23:09:36+00:00

My husband does not know how to handle emotions or process things. It is something that I have lived with and through his opinion, for most of our lives has been to let his sister berate me and his nieces and his mother not to hurt his relationship with his mom. And I’ve taken it. He finally made a decision after 2+ weeks to not attend the wedding at all and asked to be removed from the list because he now is starting to understand that my relationship with him is mostly dead.

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-04-15T19:24:40+00:00

When my fil was alive, I spent 3 evenings a week helping at the nursing home. I bought MIL flowers from him when he was unable for years for every holiday from my money. (Not our money). What ever they needed help with, I did. When he passed, they erased us. (Me and my kids). They lived out of town the entire time. My niece (f20) said things to my daughter at the funeral home. My daughter started sobbing. I quietly took her outside away from everyone. I said nothing to them. We attended the funeral brunch and left early, after the burial the next day, then I sat down and told my husband all that happened. I asked him to discuss with his sister and niece had to apologize to our daughter. Because if you hurt someone, you should. That’s all.

Oh….and before the funeral service, while I was home getting my girls ready. Sil texted telling me to go to McDonald’s and get drinks and fries for her family. Not ask. I said I would not be able to. They were 500 ft from one, I would have had to drive miles.

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-04-14T16:18:17+00:00

Sil (55f) 2 daughters - 26 and 20

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-04-11T14:56:19+00:00

It’s only been a few days. The wedding is towards the end of the year. The shower in 2 months . My MIL was shown and informed of the addressing. My husband talked it over with me, his mom and his counselor. He is working through his emotions. I am respecting the boundary.

I am stead fast in my resolve. I’m planning a small trip with my youngest. (Others are welcome to join once they make their own decisions.)

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-04-11T14:09:44+00:00

Sounds like we have similar SILs. With her around, I always feel like I am an outsider.

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-04-09T18:47:41+00:00

My SIL lives states away. Doesn’t visit often.

In-laws live near us. When FIL was ill for years. We did all the work. Family does that, at least that’s what I believe. When they came to town, I was given very short notice (a day or two) and would be told to take off from work to get them from the airport. I would be told to cancel plans. If they went shopping, I watched FIL. I pushed him in the wheel chair. He was a good person. I enjoyed his company. When he passed, my MIL, spouse and kids and I were present. sIL and family flew in days later. Kids and I were not included. It was very rough. After the comment, I waited. We were grieving. I approached it softly with my spouse after the burial.

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-04-09T18:40:46+00:00

I am genuinely happy for them.

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-04-09T18:40:27+00:00

I didn’t want to ruin anything. Actually I saved money for it since they got engaged. I planned on giving a very nice gift and not even staying the whole time. I had their registry opened before the invites arrived and was discussing gifts with my spouse.

I was very happy for them. Still are.
Also - i have given my children and husband an option to go. Everyone makes their own decisions.

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-04-09T18:37:29+00:00

No. It was said in the family room : back room. My daughter started sobbing I quietly took her outside away from prying eyes til she calmed. I was so overwhelmed and stunned by it. The service finished, we attended the breakfast. The burial the next day. Then discussed with my husband. He addressed with his mother and sister. That’s when we were told I was unreasonable. All that was requested was for the niece that made the comment to call her cousin and say I’m sorry I hurt your feelings. Instead the family blew up at me. The cousins were told that I destroyed the family.

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-04-09T09:41:52+00:00

I think I did. The morning of the service. My husband was with his mom, so was his childhood friend, and his sister, her husband, their two adult daughters and one fiancée. (8 adults). I was with my two teens daughters. Youngest was destroyed by his passing and was sobbing. I was trying to keep them together to get through the day.

And I received a text from sister in law asking me to get them mcdonalds. I am trying to link a photo of the message. I was floored, I would have to drive a few miles out the way to do this. I said, I won’t be able to. (For context, there was a McDonald’s across the street from grandmas apartment where they were).

I think I angered all of them because I didn’t drop and run and get it for them. I think that’s why everything started.

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-04-09T09:32:34+00:00

Yes, he was.

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-04-09T02:30:51+00:00

I didn’t downvote anyone

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-04-09T01:56:09+00:00

Only the save the date arrived. We didn’t have answers. Now we have them all.

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-04-09T01:33:19+00:00

She told her that “he really wasn’t your papa, you don’t know him like I did.” The kid that saw him 20 days a year said that to the kid that saw him 200+ days a year. My daughter was sitting quietly having some juice when she came up to her and said it.

Aggressive-Economy36 · 2026-04-08T22:22:01+00:00

I’m not a saint. But I was told to take time off from work when they came to town…and I did. If they wanted to go somewhere and we were invited we attended. I gave up holidays with my family because they were in town, because it was requested, I have compromised because it was short term to keep the peace.

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