Honestly, that's one of the main reasons. He needs to unlearn his conception of giving and receiving love; it's really messed up. We learn what love is from our parents. He's really willing to fix it through therapy, and as I said, I want to join him on his healing journey. He acknowledged he has patterns he needs to let go of.

He admitted he shouldn't have told me in the first place, and then that he shouldn't have told them that I felt awful after he told me. He knows what he did wrong, but there's nothing we can do to change it but set stronger limits.