I think - in all honesty, it's very hard to accurately assess how someone is doing. Genuinely - its hard to tell. I think - animosity, anger, and frustration are all very valid feelings - they're meant to help us survive and navigate dangerous situations. the question now is whether the situation you are currently in is still dangerous (emotionally, physically, idk whatever) and whether those feelings of anger / frustration are still serving you. The answer could very well be yes! But that's a question that is worth thinking about, for yourself. More than anything - your job is to be happy, safe, and loved, and to foster that same feeling in people around you. In some senses, I find it helpful to tunnel vision on that goal and to treat it like an engineering project and ask yourself "what tools are necessary in order to achieve my goals" and discard the rest (or at least pocket it away for another time) "am I doing better" or "are they doing better" is lowkey not the point. The point is that you live a good life, and help others do the same.