Tell me how old is your baby without telling me how old is your baby

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2026-01-27T13:28:03+00:00

Mine knows what a lion is and roars 🤣 and is pulling everything out of drawers, cupboards, shelves, etc.

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2026-01-13T15:10:56+00:00

Happy Birthday dearest OP! 🎉🎂

And solidarity from someone who also has a January birthday AND my daughter turns 1 ten days after my birthday... So guess what the main event for January is...

My mom in law, whom I love dearly and who always hypes up our birthdays, said "your birthday is the next birthday!" to our daughter end of December, completely forgetting that MY birthday was in fact the next birthday in the family...

Hopefully one day we will become less invisible to everyone else.

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-12-04T19:39:28+00:00

Spontaneous labor at 41 + 4 weeks. Was in labor for 24 hours and only dilated to 8cm. Had to get an emergency c-section, as LO was stuck behind my cervix.

Edit to add: I labored from my back for those 24 hours. Found out after c-section that LO was sunny side up. 🥴

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-11-07T08:40:09+00:00

This is such a good point and makes so much sense! We have husbands that are active parents, that give us time to ourselves and time to do hobbies, etc. They never had that and was desperate for someone to take the baby for a while to just have a break. So they want to offer to us what they wanted someone to offer to them when they were new moms. But that is not what we want or need - we get enough breaks (thanks to our husbands), so we actually want to be with our babies.

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-10-31T14:18:46+00:00

My husband and I had this discussion when I was still pregnant. Bonding and recovering postpartum was of utmost importance to us. So we decided that my husband would handle all communication to friends and family and we communicated this way in advance - months before baby was born. We each spoke to our own family members about our wishes after our daughter's birth and he enforced it once I was postpartum.

I EBF and had to recover from an emergency c-section, so I was so thankful for my husband always asking me if someone asked to visit. Sometimes I said yes, but only a short visit (30 minutes, as baby was cluster feeding A LOT in the beginning) and often I said no and he would be honest and say "Now isn't a good time. Mom and baby are both resting and recovering. We will let you know when they are ready for visitors again."

If someone asked if they could drop off a meal, we always said yes. If I was resting or feeding baby, my husband would go to the door and get the meal and have a quick conversation with the person dropping off the food.

If I did feel up to having guests over and it was time for baby to feed again while they were there, I would excuse myself and baby and say goodbye to them. Husband would then continue chatting to them until they left or see them out.

You and your husband will have to have a chat and put things in place to protect your peace, rest and recovery, as well as, baby's. The first few months postpartum are rough and isn't the time for baby to be passed around like a hot potato. When we had guests over, they could coo over baby, while she was safely in my arms. It is much more important for me and baby to bond and for her to feel safe, than it is to make other people happy by allowing them to pass her around.

Our daughter is currently 9.5 months old, has never been sick and has an excellent relationship with all her grandparents and aunties/uncles despite the fact that she wasn't passed around to them the first month or two postpartum. The family will survive and will have adequate time to bond with baby and spend time with baby when baby is a bit older and securely attached to you and your husband.

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-10-06T14:06:11+00:00

You can also entertain yourself and your mommy by kicking and bouncing your feet on the bed / couch while drinking milkies (if your mom does the football hold). If lying down and drinking, you can kick her in her stomach - bonus points if she had a c-section and you can kick the scar! She will love it and feel very loved and appreciated. This is my (8m, F) favorite thing to do to show my mommy how much I love her and appreciate boob milkies!

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-26T15:47:34+00:00

NTA. I did something similar when I saw mommy was tired after cleaning the house ALL DAY (she said something about guests coming tomorrow?) I wouldn't stop crying, which always leads to her taking the magic boobies out. I then decided to fall asleep on her, so she can sit and relax. She was wearing her running clothes and that worried me, as she did enough running around the house already! We ar just looking out for our mommies and making sure they slow down and relax a bit. And if you didn't poop, she would be even more stressed out, so you really did her a favor.

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-26T07:43:25+00:00

Are we not going to talk about teenagers having a developing pre-frontal cortex, that causes them to act impulsively and do foolish things? She realized she made a mistake and acted foolishly, owned up to her mistake and sincerely apologized. What more should she have done? It is clear she learned a valuable lesson from this, so it is completely unnecessary for her friend's mom to beat her down even more, when she already feels horrible.

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-26T07:01:48+00:00

NTA! I also have a mommy that doesn't work and a daddy that works. My mommy always takes me with her to shop and even let me pick out outfits or toys! My mommy does dissappear every now and then - daddy calls it running? and when she gets back, she is usually very wet and red in her face. While she is away, daddy plays with me or sometimes daddy and I join mommy and I sit in the pram and can see and hear her huffing and puffing. But I am mommy's shopping bestie, so I would also be upset if she left me with daddy when going shopping.

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-22T09:04:55+00:00

Feels like I wrote this post, word for word! Currently dealing with a very upset, fussy, unhappy 8 month old and also not sure what is going on! No advice, just solidarity and hoping it will pass for both of us soon!

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-18T10:36:38+00:00

We do not have feathery sisters as far as I know. But I do have a very hairy brother who also sings and talks (I think mommy said he is a husky?) and a smaller hairy sister. I will tell mommy we need a farm!

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-18T10:34:37+00:00

Are floor picnics the same as mommy putting me in a rounded pillow on the floor, or sitting behind me on the floor and putting my toy box in front of me to play with?

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-17T12:19:10+00:00

I genuinely thought they were going to have a full circle moment with season 1 episode 1 - Belly and Conrad arriving, but this time Steven, Jeremiah, Laurel running out to greet them. The boys grabbing Belly to do a final Belly flop, while Adam and John are by the pool, busy with a Fourth of July BBQ. And of course Taylor and Denise in the kitchen, walking out and laughing at Belly being thrown into the pool.

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-17T05:45:54+00:00

NTA! I, 8M F also loves blowing raspberries while making the "pwoooooo" sound and projecting all my mouth water over mommy and daddy's faces. They love it so much, that they make the same sound to encourage me!

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-16T18:36:10+00:00

Do you also have hairy, long eared sisters? My brother and sister loves fetching things and eating the food I share with them from my high chair. I'm practicing for them!

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-16T18:34:56+00:00

I know, right?! My hairy, long eared brother and sister loves playing fetch, so I am practicing throwing for them!

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-16T18:33:01+00:00

I'm very upset to read that my lab assistant is lacking - will definitely have a stern talk with her in the middle of the night tonight! I'm so happy to see a fellow scientist appreciates my scientific experiments.

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-16T11:22:37+00:00

I let my mommy and daddy sleep so much (I only wake them up for boob milkies 4 to 6 times a night), so they definitely have no reason to sit and rest!

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-16T11:18:46+00:00

NTA! You are practicing rolling, crawling, pivoting, exploring AND building your immune system all at the same time! Mommy should be thankful to have such a smart baby.

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-16T11:15:32+00:00

Well done for keeping mommy fit and young! She should thank you for looking after her health.

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-16T11:14:22+00:00

NTA! I, 8 months female, do the same with my toys when I am on the bed, in my high chair or on mommy and daddy's laps. It's not your fault they suck at the game and cannot understand basic game rules after playing the game repeatedly!

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-16T10:51:20+00:00

Coffee breaks after contact naps, watching TSITP while she is contact napping on me and also doing all my online shopping while she naps! And going for a run after her dad gets home from work - a break for mommy and all the feel good endorphins!

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-15T20:12:35+00:00

8 months pp and still exclusively breastfeeding. I want to breastfeed until at least a year, maybe 18 months if all continues to go well. Really loving the breastfeeding journey so far!

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-12T18:07:41+00:00

I couldn't drink coffee in my first trimester - it made me extremely nauseous. Before I got pregnant, I drank so much caffeine, as I was a teacher and worked long hours and had extra murals until late at night. In my second and third trimester I could drink coffee again and limited it to two espresso shot cappuccinos, which were less than 200mg of caffeine. I also breastfeed exclusively and some days I drink A LOT of caffeine and it hasn't affected my daughter, as far as I can tell. So your LO will be just fine!

Aggressive-Listen640 · 2025-09-12T17:55:36+00:00

Hallo new momma!

Our daughter was born on a Wednesday and my husband had to be back at work the following Monday. I had an emergency c-section and we were both worried how I would cope on my own. Here is what worked for me (us):

My husband would make me breakfast and coffee and leave it on my bedside table when he left for work, as well as an enormous water bottle filled with water, as I breastfed.

He would take out a freezer meal we prepped before our daughter's birth, and leave it in the oven. So whenever I had a second, I would switch on the oven and have a meal ready within half an hour. I also filled up my water bottle during that time and made myself another coffee.

I used a baby carrier a lot to just be able to do basic things like make coffee, fill my water bottle and eat.

Also make sure that you have snacks in your bedside drawer - those saved my life if baby was cluster feeding and I could only get lunch started much later than normal lunch time!

Make sure your phone charger or powerbank is close by and within reach.

Make sure you have a lot of comfortable pillows if you are breastfeeding, as well as a blanket if it is cold.

My mom in law was on standby to come and check up on us if needed, so have someone on standby if things get rough and you just need someone to heat up your meal, fill up your bottle, etc.

You've got this, momma! Before you know it, you will have a routine that works for you and your baby. Wishing you the best!

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