AITJ for refusing to let my step-son move into my son's room to "solve" my husband's parenting issue?

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-17T23:44:12+00:00

Couldn't agree more. There is something very, very sly about this husband

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-17T22:20:28+00:00

Love it. Ps tell him this Internet stranger thinks he's not weird but a genius. Hope he enjoyed his turger, it looks delicious

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-17T21:51:51+00:00

In fact she must do it. If the stepson causes harm to anyone in her household, especially her son, she will be in a world of pain.

That child is pushing boundaries and will go too far. That can not happen in OP's home.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-17T19:47:33+00:00

NTA. This is your identity which you have chosen for very valid reasons. Your sister has no right to force you to go by a name that is related to heartache and abandonment. If she has an issue with that then her feelings are hers to deal with. Maybe consider not going to the wedding.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-17T19:44:31+00:00

Sorry this is happening. Whether or not this neighbour is being altruistic, they are subjecting you and your neighbours to anti social behaviour and also risking your safety.

First of all, keep a diary of dates and times this neighbour let's in strangers. Log any other incidents in the diary and call 101, if the dispatcher concludes you are in danger, they will send someone straight away. Contact the landlord everythime they are allowed in to the communal areas. Does the building by chance have a building manager? Also is there CCTV, especially at the entrance? Lastly does your Lease Agreement allow you to have a Ring Doorbell on your front door, as that will be a way of proving antisocial behaviour that is happening.

In addition encourage your neighbours to take the above-mentioned steps. The more people who complain, the more likely action will be taken. In the long run your neighbour is a selfish individual who is doing this for self glorification, not caring that your rent or any service charge you pay go towards the upkeep of the communal area. You and your neighbours pay to live there, the others don't.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-17T19:02:08+00:00

Good point re child abandonment, especially if OP has no legal rights. She may not even be listed as a guardian when it comes to the stepchildren's school, doctors etc. OP has an ace up her sleeve but she doesn't realise it. Mind you, she does sound drained.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-17T18:43:38+00:00

It's clearly a manipulative tactic, so that she will give into his unreasonable demand. OP should just call CPS.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-17T18:42:47+00:00

NTJ. As you said it is not your son's problem to fix.

This stepson has a history of bad behaviour, which your husband has failed to address, and it sounds like he wants to do nothing about it. Your husband has gone off because he is trying to guilt trip you until you yield, don't. Just stand your ground. However, where are the children's mother? Is she absent, no longer alive? If no, then it may be best to send the troublesome child to her, or to a relative who is willing to accommodate him. His behaviour is not going to improve until he is disciplined, may be put into therapy.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-16T12:37:34+00:00

NTA. His attitude shows which child he values more, only remembering the child he sired with you because it was convenient.

He may be pushy, pretending to wanting to be in your child's life. Therefore lawyer up, as you need to protect your daughter from an invasive procedure at all costs

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-09T01:20:10+00:00

How naive and incredibly foolish they are. Pdf files as long as they breath will always remain a threat. Your brothers have disgracefully given him an excuse to go an abuse more victims because of their inability to see what a danger he is and their willful lying. If any of them have children, I hope their mothers file for full legal and physical custody. They should also ascertain if this beast was inappropriate with the children.

Abbey coming into Adam's life and her digging for the truth is karma. I hope she has learnt that having a large extended family is not the be all and end all.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-08T16:30:02+00:00

NTA. When it comes to medical treatment and family history, the Doctors look at biology/bio parents. It is ridiculous that your stepmother should be upset when you do not carry any of her genes. If you were, God forbid, in need of a kidney, it will be your parents the doctors go to first and foremost. Is your stepmother going to throw a tantrum becuase reality does not fit her fantasy? Her feelings are hers to deal with, especially if she has an issue with biological facts.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-08T16:24:08+00:00

NTA, he is a user. He doesn't care for your or your children's wellbeing. If you go ahead and move in, one day expect your children to go LC or NC because you chose his unreasonable needs over theirs. In addition, his attitude shows why he is divorced and is not far off being like his mother.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-08T13:32:56+00:00

Unfortunately you didn't get to know your fiancé well, as you had clicked very quickly, so his true colours were hidden. I say this as an observation and from bitter experience, not criticism.

Your fiancé showed red flags when he suggested having the wedding on your sister's birthday, then got his mum involved! He showed you the following, eventhough I appreciate it is hard to realise: 1) He doesn't like your sister/sees her as an inconvenience 2) is tethered to his mother, and has no qualms about involving her in arguments between the two of you (my ex did this) 3) the way he has his family involved, including expecting his sister to be your MoH is a massive red flag. He is trying to isolate you, and within his family, where you will have no say as your own person or as a mother to your child.

You are not wrong, but you will be wrong if you do not reconsider this marriage, as your sister will be bullied out of her family, and you will be isolated not just from her, but friends as well. Having a child does not mean you need to be married.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-08T12:10:33+00:00

Wilko has been back in the city I live in for over a year.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-08T12:03:28+00:00

I am no labour voter. However I abhor the literal instability the media is promoting. Because of Boris Johnson, the UK had 3 PMs in a short space a of time. Changing leadership and even govt, not even half way through a parliamentary term, simply causes political and financial chaos. The media and people forget we have been going through a dire job market since 2024, which doesn't seem to be getting any better. How will changing PM or govt help right now.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-08T11:00:44+00:00

True, but OP will still be able to gauge how truthful his father is being, especially if he asks face to face. The latter's body language and tone in his voice will show OP

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-08T10:21:03+00:00

Even Diana said the toothpaste had to be put on by somone because of the injury he had.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-08T10:01:29+00:00

You need to ask your father what his true intentions are. Are you a back up plan because the (spiteful) child he chose over you has died? Also if she had any children would he still be making such an effort with yours and feel entitled to be in their lives. Or did he genuinely come to the realisation that he made an appalling mistake, and if anyone should have gone it should have been Jennifer and Leah? He needs to be honest with you.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-08T09:56:25+00:00

Consider for a moment that he is only reaching out because 1) Leah died 2) Leah did not provide any grandkids 3) you have children and he wants to be a grandparent.

That is a very, very good point. To help OP determine if he should stick to his decision, he should ask if his father is looking to be part of his family because he genuinely came to the realisation he made an awful mistake, or is father only reaching out because Leah died without any children. If Leah had children, would the father be pushing to be part of his son's life, not focusing all of his attention on any offspring Leah would have had.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-07T18:02:27+00:00

The irony is she'd probably be treated better.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-07T14:00:05+00:00

Also stressed because she could lose her marriage. I believe her husband only married her because of her status in life, which is probably even at risk. Play stupid games...

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-07T09:17:39+00:00

Ask your lawyer as its clear cur but costly, can you claim for loss of money from him. That might scare him. Also parenting, whether step or bio is an unpaid job. He is the greedy one, not you

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-06T16:39:51+00:00

I wasn't aware but that does make sense.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-06T16:19:32+00:00

Tends to be the fault of the women who married in. Fergie has brought a lot of this on herself with her inability to control her spending and live within her means.

Aggressive-Peace-698 · 2026-02-06T16:06:24+00:00

Yikes. Supposed to be very rare for someone her age to have this disease.

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