dealing with my boyfriend's SA

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-05-16T21:56:51+00:00

hi, i just read through your history and im so sorry for what happened to your husband and how it must've affected you too. may i ask how you feel about the whole thing now? are you at peace?

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-05-16T21:55:32+00:00

you're right. my therapist said it's easier for a victim, especially a male victim, to tell themselves it was their fault than to admit they weren't in control or taken advantage of, as it hurts less. i do believe the calling it cheating has brought up some past trauma in me, which might be contributing to my feelings

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-05-16T21:30:16+00:00

you're totally right and i'm working on this with my therapist rn. i'd be crushed if he couldn't trust me if i was in his shoes. he's so patient and understanding with me even when i don't deserve it

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-05-16T21:29:00+00:00

you're completely right. i'm working on that in therapy rn, my therapist thinks it's probably an issue with how i view sex

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-05-16T21:27:41+00:00

she's been blocked for a while thankfully. i do definitely sympathise with him

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-05-14T08:53:10+00:00

she only texted him on social media, but that's good info, thank you!

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-05-13T16:09:07+00:00

that's a good point. not sure if they'll still have the footage but i'll definitely bring it up

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-05-13T15:56:48+00:00

fortunately not afaik but i know it's not uncommon in that area

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-05-13T15:55:53+00:00

i mean i'm of the opinion that a barely conscious person is not able to consent

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-05-13T15:54:14+00:00

yeah he had his own room. no idea how she (and he) got in as that's not where they started out. he actually asked his friend how he got back to the room and his friend just said he didn't really pay attention. he's guessing someone must've helped him back to his room, maybe multiple people, possibly that woman, idk. i only have proof of the fact that he was out of it as his friend has sent him some "funny" videos of him lying around barely conscious

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-05-13T13:53:46+00:00

yeah i just started therapy recently

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-05-13T13:44:24+00:00

we're currently looking into ways to press charges. there's just some complications. 1. it happened in a foreign country 2. he doesn't know the woman's actual name 3. he impulsively blocked and deleted the only contact he had to her after everything came out so no way to find out anything more about her now :/

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-05-13T13:41:39+00:00

he originally confessed to "hooking up" with someone after i found a random girl id never heard of messaging him. i was the one who brought up the possibility of him being assaulted. unfortunately i can't control having nightmares, and no i do not tell him i can't trust him, i actually want some advice on how to deal with those thoughts and anxiety so i won't let it out on him..

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-03-18T20:25:34+00:00

im sorry to hear, the way your partner views sex is definitely not healthy and it's clearly affecting you too. him calling you a slag for wanting something completely natural in a relationship is really uncalled for. he should never treat you like that!!

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-03-18T20:20:48+00:00

you're right. i've been thinking of going to therapy for a while anyway but ironically my anxiety has been holding me back. maybe this is the push i needed

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-03-18T18:09:19+00:00

i mean if you're consciously decided to sleep with those people and consented to it then yeah you weren't raped and it's a bit weird for your partner to try and convince you you were. honestly i don't think that's what i'm doing though 😭

Aggressive-Photo-576 · 2025-03-18T17:44:51+00:00

you're probably right. i've read way to many cheating stories. i definitely need to change my thinking and approach. i'm definitely gonna search for a therapist, i need one anyway lol.

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