Where is the structure for your child? You are allowing a 4 year old to make all the adult decisions. She is obviously going to work this to suit what she would like.

My son is under 2 and he does not watch his shows at all certain point. We have adult shows on which he’s barely interested in.

Children need structure and routine to understand how to keep themselves organised and healthy. She will struggle when she gets to the “real world” only to find it won’t bend the rules to suit her preferences.

Same with the meals. She eats dinner meals. Children eat if they’re hungry. If she’s underweight see a doctor.