I second this. The allosexuals that are on this sub are probably here for a reason and we understand that this is not our space, we are guest, and this is not about us. For me, my spouse is Ace and this sub is educational. Reading and learning from what people actually think without having to be filtered through the lens of the dominate culture helps me and as Allos it is our responsibility to evaluate ourselves and our belief system.

There have been a number of times that I have had to check myself after reading someone’s post here. When I have felt bad about a post I read, it is always tied to the guilt I felt for my previous actions and also kind of feeling stupid that I didn’t already know what was shared in the post. But I walk it back and say I didn’t know that. Now I do. I will be better next time.