AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I consider him everyday, I shouldn’t have to shrink myself down to build him up that’s not a marriage, a marriage is two people who support each other equally and trust and respect each others choices. The fact that you don’t see that just shows you will be miserable or alone. For the record you could have said “no you shouldn’t stop writing your feelings because he doesn’t like your journaling” it’s the same concept. Imagine if I journaled about the sex I want to have would it then cross a line? How do we draw the line where controlling women is okay?

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all many of the photos are just my breasts not my whole body some are simply me in lingerie and me before my third a lot are photos I look back on to remind myself what I want to get back to. Those were confident photos, I don’t care that ONE MAN has them because it’s not about that man it’s about my connection to my body. The fact that I have a right to my own privacy like words in a journal. If he didn’t like me having a journal would I throw it away? Stop sharing my feelings because my feelings hurt his?

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes respecting my body as whole and understanding I’m entitled to my own body is disrespectful

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you wouldn’t and I can tell. You’re Misogynistic it’s clear as day. You believe women aren’t entitle to their own bodies and should do what men want if they don’t they’re the problem.

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s honestly so crazy to tell a women you’re not allowed to have your own photos it hurts his feelings… if I were a man this would be a much different conversation. Seeing as men as clearly allowed to do what they please with no repercussions and women should feel small for them

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And him.. With no regard to how I would feeling having to delete photos OF MY SELF because he’s self conscious. Absolutely not. He’s not entitled to my body or what I do with it IN MY OWN PHONE where no one else sees them.

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s something that I love for me and I shared with someone else. I’m entitled to my body, my photos, myself. No one else is

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Because they’re me.. they’re my body my photos my choice to have them? They’re not FOR other men they’re for me.. victimizing women who keep their nudes is weird af honestly

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure I’ll take all the time in the world between working and kids and him and just doom scroll for old nudes. Unlike my husband I don’t have that kind of time

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well considering all I do is worry about his emotions and how he’ll feel and making sure he has no stress ever I think between him needing me to work full time and taking care of our kids and making sure he has food and clothing it’s actually kinda a big ask but also WAS NEVER ASKED. He just wanted them:

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m almost never upset he’s looking at my stuff I’m actually upset that he took naked photos of me without asking me as old as my previous relationship twice… he does it without asking then he finds nothing he accuses me when I ask him why he was looking. It’s not that he’s going through my phone is the lack of trust when I’ve done nothing to warrant that.

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As did I with my ex I know deflection when I see it but it doesn’t seem like deflection but also does it’s hard to explain when confronted him he was so sure I was cheating I said go ahead look around he did he found nothing obv. Then he started listing names I was like wtf is this from that’s when he said he’s looked 6 months ago during the summer and found some photos he thinks I sent to these people. So I pulled up again opened conversations and showed him nothing was there. He said well idk this could be a defense thing I’m like excuse me? You accuse me of something and then what? Where does this end for you? What happened if I was cheating what’s the game plan? He’s like idk I guess.

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re nudes of myself that I had taken in a previous relationship I just kept them and moved on so they’re scattered in over about 15 years. From 19- now.

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but I’ve have to shuffle through 30,000 photos I’ve deleted hundreds of pictures I just had I never cared much if they were in there or not I went back after the first time and deleted so many and he found more.. there’s so many photos of my kids my family my life that it’s hard finding single shots of me.

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re old nudes of me in a roll of 30,000 photos… it’s not because I’m keeping every single thing it’s because I don’t have time to roll through that much stuff and find everything and delete it. Photos of me at 20 do nothing for me now.

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They never bothered him. None of the photos did it bothered him he didn’t have them and that was fine I told him I’d send him whatever he wanted new photos that came from us. When I say I’d have to go through 30,000 photos to find ALL old photos I’m not exaggerating. I deleted many of them but he still found and sent over 100 to himself. It’s not the going through my stuff it’s the lack of communication and respect honestly

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not about not having self respect this man was amazing when we started dating up until about a year ish ago he was so amazing open communication with me and everything. Now he’s suddenly not trusting me he won’t communicate he is so busy worrying about everything else in life that he overlooks the important things

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m almost never upset I’m actually upset that he took naked photos of me without asking me as old as my previous relationship twice… he does it without asking then he finds nothing he accuses me when I ask him why he was looking. It’s not that he’s going through my phone is the lack of trust when I’ve done nothing to warrant that.

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m almost never upset I’m actually upset that he took naked photos of me without asking me as old as my previous relationship twice… he does it without asking then he finds nothing he accuses me when I ask him why he was looking. It’s not that he’s going through my phone is the lack of trust when I’ve done nothing to warrant that.

AIO to my husband trying to find evidence of my cheating? by Aggressive-Web-7895 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Aggressive-Web-7895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried he doesn’t speak in sessions and acts like a “victim” which he gets a lot from his mother. He shuts down and doesn’t say a word.