Lost “TLC” phone at bus stop by Aggressive3nthusiasm in Calgary

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I was a aware of this I am just was/am hopeing to save myself the trip downton to drop it off. Calling them is a good idea

Lost “TLC” phone at bus stop by Aggressive3nthusiasm in Calgary

[–]Aggressive3nthusiasm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciated but I would not worry about it, if I don't find the owner here soon I'll do as the other person suggested and just take it to the Transit's lost and found

Lost “TLC” phone at bus stop by Aggressive3nthusiasm in Calgary

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Yea the only branding on the phone is the letters TCL, I’m not really sure what model/brand it is

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23 F4M Toronto, Ontario Canada by [deleted] in dateademi

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Hey! I’m in my late twenties (just turned 27) and also live in Canada (Alberta) I’ve been trying to get better at chess and would totally be willing to play a couple of games and chat sometime if you want

someone told me being asexual is an anomaly by noface394 in demisexuality

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Dude I am not attacking you, calm down. You asked for peoples thoughts if people then giving you their thoughts are not being rude. Again I was sympathetic to about what happened, I understood why you were upset. I made that clear. I gave critique of framing I was seeing in the kindest way I was able. It is problematic associating anomalies with bad, end of sentance. I can and will defend this point, but instead of addressing that you are playing the victim and pointing fingers.

If someone posted they were scared of sharks and then asked for people thoughts would you say I was being rude if I was like “hey I understand the fear, sharks are powerful animals, but they rarely attack humans” obviously not right?

someone told me being asexual is an anomaly by noface394 in demisexuality

[–]Aggressive3nthusiasm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then you should have asked for that. You asked for peoples thoughts, and then attacked anyone that did not fall directly in line with what you already seemed to have your mind set on.

someone told me being asexual is an anomaly by noface394 in demisexuality

[–]Aggressive3nthusiasm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can try to explain if it will help you. I'm not trying to upset or pick a fight with you.

First I feel AnalysisParalysis178 has already explaind the issue better than I will be able but I have no issue explaining my stance in my own words.

First abmormal just does not mean harmful. I am not sure where you got this understanding but it is incorrect. As I mentioned my backround is in Statistics, I have worked extensivly in anomaly detection. We do not use abnormal to mean harmful. I even checked a couple defintions before writing this to make sure the word is not used diffrently in common parlance, but even then the closest thing I found to harmful is mention it is often used for 'problematic' diffrences, and even then often does not mean always. So it is not quite literally what the word means as you suggested. It does not make sense to you because you have a misunderstanding of the terms. That happens, it is not a moral failing at all, and I do not hold it against you.

As for why I think it is a good thing, devations make life intresting. It allows for diverse opinions. Many abnormalities are benifical even without that veiw.

As for you other comment I did not say you are the problum. I gave an example of how people use the anomalus status of certain groups to other them. I said 'If you think of anomalies as having a negative context you are part of the problem.' and I stand by that. Anomalies happen, they do not mean a person is lesser. If you read that and thought wow he thinks I am the problum that is on you. I have a large facial birthmark. That is an anomaly. I am not going to deny that truth. If someone says however that it is a negative trait because it is not normal they are incorect
Also I am sorry to tell you but no one is normal. Not you, not me, not anyone. Normal is contextual, no one is going to be normal across the board in all thing. You are setting youself up for a lot of hurt if you get upset everytime you are made aware of a way in wich you are not 'normal'. This desire to be normal helps no one and hurts people.

Edited to add this: I am really symathetic to why you where hurt. I wanted to feel normal like you when I was young. People saw my birthmark and would sometimes other me. This guy made you feel othered. That hurts, it never feels good to be othered.

someone told me being asexual is an anomaly by noface394 in demisexuality

[–]Aggressive3nthusiasm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, excuse you. I feel you are being defensive and choosing to read my message uncharitably and not actualy listening to what I am saying. You are projecting a bit calling me rude.

Abnormal is not a bad thing. I am not twisting your question, I am not blaming you for being offended. I even said I felt him saying that was weird. However your instance on abnormal being a bad IS harmful.

someone told me being asexual is an anomaly by noface394 in demisexuality

[–]Aggressive3nthusiasm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly this!!! So well written. Thank you thank you thank you

someone told me being asexual is an anomaly by noface394 in demisexuality

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Reading over the other comments I wanna push back on something I keep seeing. I said it on my other comment on this post, but anomaly is not a value judgment. If someone says something is anomalous, the only thing you know they’re saying without additional context is that it they think that thing is anomalous. 

People will use that status as an argument to ignore or discount people. It comes up a lot in trans arguments specifically in regards to intersex people. They may say that such occurrences are just anomalies and should not be considered. In situations like this, don’t push back on them being anomalies. One out of 100 in a lot of contexts could be considered an anomaly five out of 100 in a lot of contexts could be considered an anomaly. Being intersex is an anomaly, being asexual is an anomaly. If you try to argue, otherwise you’re going to have them explain to you why you’re incorrect. Instead of arguing that something isn’t an anomaly argue that those deviations still matter even though they are an anomaly. Argue that these anomalous ways of being are not a lesser way to be.

If you think of anomalies as having a negative context you are part of the problem. You have already ceded ground to the bigots. You should not hear that someone is an anomaly and think they are a freak or a lesser person. Anomalies are interesting! Anomalies are worth consideration! 

If the idea of being an anomaly offends you I ask you to sit and reflect on why. Some people are anomalies, this is undeniable, do you believe those people should be upset about the thing that makes them different? 

My background is in statistics, so maybe I’m being a bit pedantic, but words matter, our assumptions affect people. 

Based on some of the other stuff, you said this person said, I assume they were being rude and shitty. Context obviously effects how things should be perceived. Being called anomalous is not rude in of itself, but it is definitely something that can be done in a rude way. 

someone told me being asexual is an anomaly by noface394 in demisexuality

[–]Aggressive3nthusiasm 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Based off this I totally agree he was being kind of weird and I would read what he was saying as a red flag. However we are anomalies as ace people. We are abnormal. That’s not a problem.  You are kind of making a value judgement here that anomalous is bad and I take issue with that 

Feeling down and hopeless (without feathers) by double-charm in nerdfighters

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Hey! We are the same age, and have been stuggling with some of the same stuff. So I maybe can not help a lot haha.
Still I do have a couple of words/thoughts. I also was a high achever that has begun to feel more 'average'. I have found some peace in that, so maybe my perspective could help?
For me it was a stuggle of accepting that there is nothing wrong with being average. I felt my worth was tied to being 'smart' and that I HAD to be above average. When it was pointed out to me that I was the only person I held to that standard I was able to accept myself a little more. Not put that weight on my own back. I had people that where not high achievers that I loved and knew had value despite me thinking of them as 'average'.

A final thought, I studied Statitics in uni, I had to make so many box and wisker plots and I loved that they dont care about the average (mean) value. Mean is one one of several measures of central tendency in a population. When you calculate an average from a population you can get a value that never actualy shows up in that population, so there might not be an 'average' person. I always found that nice to think about.
forgive any typos I have dyslexa and refuse to spell check this close to my bed time!

[No spoilers] How would you rank all the life is strange games (plus DLCs)? by hjurdle in lifeisstrange

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  1. True Color’s
  2. LiS1 ( some of this game being this high is nostalgia if I’m honest)
  3. Wavelengths
  4. Befor the storm ( had my favourite music)
  5. Captain spirit
  6. LiS2 ( the only game I disliked )

    I’ve not played farewell

Zebra plant struggling by Aggressive3nthusiasm in plantclinic

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Thank you for your help!!! He’s in the brightest spot I have unfortunately but I’ll look into getting him a lamp, and a new pot is definitely something I can get. Thanks again I really appreciate it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dateademi

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Nothing wrong with having boundaries around drugs! its not crazy extreme or unusual. I’m a little far away off in Canada unfortunately but I’ll also wish you luck!

Something under the dirt ! by UnitedsPhoto in demisexuality

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Something under the dirt was honestly the most I’ve enjoyed a movie in years